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Thread: Know what fellas? I really like a girl...

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    Know what fellas? I really like a girl...

    ... wich is not an SP... LOL

    Some of you knowns i have been in school since october. 1 week after the beginning a girl joined our class. I know some people in the group didn't like her, i have witness lots of trash talk, and some of these guys got kicked out around 1 month ago. Me i am the kind of guy to never choose sides, never get involved... so i have been getting friendly with her since those guys left, mostly because i used to join them in the school "midi hours" when they got in there van to smoke weed... even if not smoking myself lol... and after that i spent more time in the caféteria with her and another guy and more our classes where going on, more i was getting chummey chummey with her...

    As time got by, i change places in school, because like i said some room opened up in the back, so i was just beside her, and we have become friends, at least in school. I used to team up up with a budy i got friendly with first day of school but as time got by i alternate between them, and more or less lately more teaming up with her as she is close to me. First i was asking her, latest times she asked me.

    We started dining at the nearby restaurant too eventually, the first time she asked me if i wanted to go, then it was sometimes i asked her, sometimes she did.

    She was with a dude when she joined school, but during our last diner at the restaurant she mention it was going to crap... and later that evening texted me she was "celibataire" Since then i don't know much what to think. We have been exchanging texts and i have been subtile about maybe doing something in the christmas time, but she is kinda far from my home... around 40 mins of car or something... And i don't have a car...

    January 6 we starts school again, but for only one week. I dunno what i should do... I have her phone number, we are keeping contact trough texts, but i dunno should i try a move, a more obvious move?

    Damn sometimes i wish girls would be just as easy to understand as my online games... LOL

    She knowns i go to mtl to do parties and such... she may know about my hobbying if i can say, i was never straigh forward to her, but i did mention MTL a few time... Lately i kinda tell her i was kinda getting tired of this, wich is actually true... and i would like to settle down. She lives at a place where it cost not much, what in french we call HLM, and i could even move there since she said there is open spots. I dunno, it comes to me at a surprise... since she left her boyfriend, i have been thinking a lot about her.

    Its been a while, maybe 2-3 weeks but she tried to match me with a friend of her.... results where not great, we texted but we didn't had much points in common, but somehow i think if she wanted to match me with a close friend of her, she must have think i was a nice guy? She had a boyfriend at that time...

    Anyway... im thinking about inviting her to the restaurant one more time, maybe trying a bit harder to see if there is hope... but i feel like im getting false ideas once again... Any good councelling would be apreciated.
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    Wow, Mike. First of all, congrats! I congrat people every time they have feelings towards someone, regardless of the situation. Because I believe true feelings are precious and deserve the appreciation of everybody.

    However, I'm not quite sure about this one based one one single reason: she tried to set you up with a friend of hers, which is a big red sign to me. IMHO, she thinks you are a good guy, but that's it. But who am I kidding, I'm not very good with women either so my sense may be false.

    What I suggest is to stay where you are a bit longer to get a better idea of where you are in this relationship. Even if you can't help approaching her closer, please take it slowly and cautiously.

    Two cents from a guy not very rich himself (bad analogy but hopefully you get what I mean).

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    Quote Originally Posted by somebodymtl View Post
    However, I'm not quite sure about this one based one one single reason: she tried to set you up with a friend of hers, which is a big red sign to me.
    And you Mike would you want to try to match one of youre friend with her ? Don't think so.

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    Be honest,nothing ventured nothing gained

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    Mike go for it if you don't try you will never know, and you might get your best Christmas Present ever. Just tell her you like her and you want to be more than just classmates.
    Do unto other's as they would do unto you BUT DO IT FIRST

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    Mike, I would like that something like that happens to me. I would say you can try to find if something serious can happen for both of you. I know you can be subtle and respectful. Good luck!

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    Quote Originally Posted by roof2013 View Post
    Be honest,nothing ventured nothing gained
    ^ This ^

    Talk to her straight, be honest. Let her know what your thinking and how you feel. You'd be surprised what the results may be.
    The difference between a Casino and a church is when you pray in a Casino you actually mean it.

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    Boysz!

    Should Mike tell her about his secret escapades in Montreal ?
    My guess is that the less she know the better are his chances.

    Sharp your hunting skill Mike
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    Quote Originally Posted by Halloween Mike View Post
    Any good councelling would be apreciated.
    HM,

    Better to have finality than regret. Be honest...and never end up regretting what you didn't say...NEVER!

    Good luck,

    Merlot

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    Yo Mike, I have heard you say you are a big guy!

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X7PAYhmoKkA

    This is a fun video of a guy dressed in a fat suit picking up chicas. Go for it bro. Just do what this guy did. Brutally honest, without apology. Own that shit yo.

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    Quote Originally Posted by longtimers View Post
    Boysz!

    Should Mike tell her about his secret escapades in Montreal ?
    No.. Lol. That's the worse thing Mike can do. Most women don't understand this and view it as degrading or desperate.

    From what I read, he's in a tough position because he dated her friend. It's good on the one hand, because she clearly trusts him, but it's not that good on another hand because it may communicate that she sees him as a friend.

    But that possible friendly perception could be changed.

    In order to move forward, Mike has to present himself as a funny, fun, confident guy, slightly mysterious, and possible boyfriend material. He has to arouse her curiousity about him and has to intrigue her.

    She needs to get a feeling of, I want to get to know this guy further, because he seems interestingly challenging and there's something about him, but I can't put my finger on it.

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    Well she gave my number to her friends, wich we texted for a couple days but it ended up like that. She took news lately and i mentioned to her i doubt this could work out, setting is too "unpersonal" if i could say and i tried to gave hint who the best person may be.

    When she tried the matching, she was in couple, wich she is not anymore now... wich i think play a big difference.

    In any case, i can't stay longer where i am, cause its ending plain and simple after the first week back from the hollidays, but i think i will make a move, and who knows, worst that could happen would be she say no and it end right there...

    As for my little trips, she more or less knows, well not sure about the paying for sex part, but she knows i go to MTL, have parties with friends, raunchy stuff happen, i had my solid gold cap right at school too (lol) but hey back then i didn't know i would be interested in her. It was not a wow thing, we became friends and started to go to dinner together and all, and i realized lately i really like her.
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    Why don't you invite her for a special trip to MTL during Holiday, that could end up to Solid Gold ?
    You're pals could join as well and help you out to make things happen...

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    Mike - stop all the talk about raunchy-Montreal and raunchy stuff. Do not assume she knows you are a hobbyist. If she knew you were a hobbyist you would have not got this far. Come up iwth a cover for going to Montreal. Avoid statements such as "Before you all the girl I have ever been with were pros, ya know what I mean...." Do not bring up escorts.

    Your a big guy ? - Time to upgrade your wardrobe and get in shape. Learn to Drape yourself in loose fitting black. You know, the button shirt is unbuttoned and untucked with a black designer t-shirt underneath. Wear dress shoes that are more like a boot with thicker soles and the thickest belt you can get through your belt loops...the thicker the better. Those thin belts look like the string that holds the pot roast together. Meanwhile start getting in shape. Have some motivation for the free sex (no sex is free you will pay in other ways).

    No movies for awhile. Do you know a cool place where you can hang out where there is music (but you can still talk) and have drinks and maybe some light table-fare. I would save a concert or an event that she would really like to go to like a hockey game for date 2. (Hockey could be date 1 if she really like this). Find out what she likes and look for topics of mutual interest to talk about. Learn to be a good listener. Also, add plenty of her favorite alcohol (but you must stay under control of course).

    when all else fails, find clever ways to complement her and tell her how beautiful she is. Woman never tire of this.

    We all hobby for different reasons. Me? I am a womanizer from way back but I am too fat and too old and way too leveraged to get what I want these days. Today there is no amount of silver tongue talking I can do to get into a young girls skirt. At least any girl that I want to get into anymore. Renting from agencies is now my favorite and most logical option, where I have the greatest chance of success...I still use the term "chance" because even the hobby is a crap shoot. Anyway, I know how to play the game.

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    Well its kinda complicated, as i don't drive(she do) , so i can't invite her as i would like to... I was thinking about inviting her for diner once the vacations are over and see what happen. During the lunch hour. Another problem is she is kinda far from where i am, as i mentioned... her village is like at the limit of what the school territory cover. But its a solid 35-40 mins of car.

    As for what i am looking for, actually i am interest in her as a potential girlfriend. Certainly not just fuck friends... And i already mentioned that if i would get in a relationship, i would let go the hobbying part for sure, without any regret at all.

    As for changing my style all the way... nah, its not something i think is good. She knows how i am, that i like wearing metal band shirts and such, would i suddenly come to school with a Gino look, that would just look awfully weird. Of course loosing weigh is always in plan, but gosh its hard.

    In any case all i can do is wait til the christmas time is done, see what happen and hope for the best... but well like i said, i have only 1 week left.
    Life is a party ! Death is the Hangover.. 70-49-6

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