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Thread: Advice about controlling nervosity

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    Advice about controlling nervosity

    So it's my birthday soon and if I'm given my wife's blessings, I'd like to experiment an evening with an SP. Problem is, I get nervous/anxious when I go to a strip club, so I imagine I'd get the same thing when I will meet my lady of choice.

    My main concerns are:
    • What if she doesn't find me attractive? (I'm not fit, just got a few extra pounds)
    • What if I can't get off?
    • What if I can't perform? (Happened during a 3some with an SP and my wife...)


    I apologize in advance if these are stupid concerns, but I'd really appreciate some tips/advices/constructive comments...

    Thanks!

    Cheers,
    Daimadoshi

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    3 quick answers:

    1. As long as your hygiene and cleanliness is acceptable there is no issue
    2. Shit happens, but unlikely
    3. Cialis should prevent performance issues from occurring

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    You must give to a lady two things: First be a gentleman second be very clean. From there you'll have 99% chance she will appreciate being with you. A little extra like choco and a few drinks will help to relax while talking about a few things on a sofa at the begining.

    Don't try to impress anybody (her or yourself) but appreciate the moment of being with a gorgeous lady of your choce.

    Choose wisely and have fun!

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    Being with an escort is totally different from being at a strip club. I think you might feel less nervous with the right escort than at a club. It helps not to have the head-pounding music.

    The important thing for enjoying sex is to feel comfortable: with yourself, with the woman you are with and with the room you're in. So it depends a lot on what makes YOU comfortable in an encounter.

    Think carefully about what kind of woman you want to meet. Me I feel more comfortable with friendly girl-next-door type of women, with a gentle personality. Not so much with porn models, even if I like like them in pictures. This is a real woman, not a fantasy, so meet the kind of woman you enjoy being with in real life, not in fantasies.

    Think what kind of place you feel more comfortable with (hotel, incall apartment, or your own place), which time of the day and the week you are more relaxed and so on. Seeing an independant that you contact directly in advance can help make you more at ease.

    Don't be afraid to speak up and make suggestions during the evening. Sometimes small details can distract you and make it difficult to get hard (uncomfortable positions, too much light or not enough, too cold/warm, radio too loud, etc.) Don't start to panic if erection is slow to come. Have fun with the rest of your body and the hard-on should get along.

    Also, don't try to relax by drinking! (sharing a glass is ok, but not too much)
    “Truth, Justice, Freedom, Reasonably Priced Love.”

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    There is 2 big differences between a meeting with a SP and with a regular girl.

    1/ She won't judge your look. She dated 10Xmore attractive guys than you in her personal life and she met 10Xless attractive guys as a SP...

    2/ She really don't want you to be too good in sex.

    So don't worry about these 2things


    If you're

    1/ nice
    2/ respectful
    3/ patient
    4/ clean
    5/ modest

    Then she will leave with a good feeling about you.
    Find what you love, and let it kill you...

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    She's a professional .. Like a doctor or CPA trust me you ain't first anything for her... Your like OJ Simpson ... Johnny knows your guilty but he's still taking your case ($)

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    You just have to relax and be yourself, don't try to act like someone your not.

    The more you think things over the more nervous and anxious you will get.

    Just enjoy the moment and everything will be fine.
    "Just When I Thought I Was Out.....They Pull Me Back In!!!"

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    Thanks for the replies everyone. I see the consensus is "Relax, don't worry and enjoy the moment".

    I really appreciate the comments.

    Cheers,
    Daimadoshi

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    Lily from Montreal
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    Remember, it is her goal to impress you, not the other way around, all advices I see here are good except the strange #2 comment of Man7777 ...disregard...
    Maybe book at least 1h30 to be able not to rush thing?
    Have fun!

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    DON'T TRUST YOU WIFE ! She may have given you her blessings but I tell you this kind of thing can come back to bite you in the ass. Make her a part of it if you like and find an SP who will entertain couples but to wander off and use your "Hall Pass" with your wifes consent............dangerous
    " You actually get to choose your friends, family.........well..."

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    I don't know; he said he already had a threesome with wife+SP that did not work out well. It depends on the wife, but being alone with an escort would be more relaxing than having a nagging wife saying do this, do that. I never had a threesome, but I imagine it can create more performance anxiety than being one on one.
    “Truth, Justice, Freedom, Reasonably Priced Love.”

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    I agree Lily.... I dont understand why a woman would not enjoy great sex whether she is a SP or not. I imagine a SP does not get great sex on average from most clients so if a client does perform above average then that is a good thing, no? I think what he meant was "she does not EXPECT you to be good in sex"


    Quote Originally Posted by LilyForYou View Post
    Remember, it is her goal to impress you, not the other way around, all advices I see here are good except the strange #2 comment of Man7777 ...disregard...

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    If you don't have any time limit on your granted "blessing" from your wife, here's my advice.

    The only way to be less nervous is through EXPOSURE. You said that you are even nervous at Strip Clubs so that's a perfect place to start. Go to a few SC, sit down have a couple of drinks, go for a couple of private dances. Get used to being in the company of naked or barely naked women and enjoying it. As time goes on you'll get used to it and not be nervous anymore. A few drinks never hurts. Go to some quality SC's.

    What's your rush? Get used to the water before jumping into the deep-end of the pool.

    After you are over the nervousness of being around naked women, your "instinct" will take over. By "instinct" I mean Junior Daimadoshi.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LilyForYou View Post
    all advices I see here are good except the strange #2 comment of Man7777 ...disregard...
    Disregard ? Rien de moins ? lol

    I simply meant that most of the SP don't like XXXL penis clients nor guys who are able to have 2services in 1hour.
    Find what you love, and let it kill you...

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    Lily from Montreal
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    Au contraire,it is very good for my ego,makes me feel efficient (!)when someone tells me he is one shot guy and he gets a surprise ,
    I tell them it is because they didn't knew me before loll,
    never understood the concept of a-la-carte with a x amount of ''services'' ,a bit of a turn off for me...

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