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Thread: Ladies & gentlemen, I am receiving threats presently from a "supposely" girlfriend.

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    Ladies & gentlemen, I am receiving threats presently from a "supposely" girlfriend.

    Is this happened to you? How did you handle that?

    I am having doubts on the authenticity of the sender, but that's not impossible. So, if this is true, someone has his email address "hacked" by his girlfriend, she said that she read our emails... but she is saying a name I just don't know nothing about (not a surprise, a lots of people don't use their real names...) She is a French quebecois with imperfect written skills.

    Do you have any advice on that matter?

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    How do you know she is a girl? Did you speak to her on the phone? If not, ask "her" to call you.

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    I never put my phone on any ads... and no, I did not receive any call at all, that was by email... and I don't feel to give her/him my phone number to have unwanted calls...

    I don't know if this is a girl... or a "competition" who wants to afraid me... He/she talks about my incall place, that she/he will come and not be very nice with me then... or sending the police.
    The thing is I don't live where I did receive (and this, just a couple of time, I have always been more an "outcall lady")

    I am curious, is there any way I can make a search and locate where the email is coming from? I am not enough computer wise on that matter... Is this possible?
    I imagine the police will be able to make some verification if I bring them to their attention those emails, right?

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    I heard of this happening once before, about 6 years ago with my favorite MP in New York City. One of the regular clients had his email account compromised by his wife or girlfriend. She began writing threatening emails to the MP and also calling and harassing the staff. What finally happened is that that the owner of the MP (a woman) posted a very no nonsense reply telling the wife that her anger was very misdirected, that this was likely not the only establishment or MP that her husband was going to, and that the problem was in their relationship and that problem was not the MP's problem, and to stop calling and harassing the MP's staff. I guess that worked because she stopped the harassment.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Maria Divina View Post
    I am curious, is there any way I can make a search and locate where the email is coming from? I am not enough computer wise on that matter... Is this possible?
    I imagine the police will be able to make some verification if I bring them to their attention those emails, right?
    Yes and yes.

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    I asked for more precision about the email of "her boyfriend" ... and the answer is just more threats, that "she" will go to the police.. because "she" is saying that's me who is after "her man"...

    The way it is written is kind of false.. It just smell like is a false thing. Really.

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    If it is a fake GF and fake anger don't reply. I would not reply if it were real GF either. The reponse you made kind of admits that you are seeing guys and by doing that you are taking the bait.

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    Ok, thank you EB.

    but, just the way she/he is writing so badly, I am having a serious doubt that could be really a girlfriend, I don't know why...
    Really kind of rural french quebecois, and I just don't meet french quebecois who are writing that way themselves. It is not impossible that someone very educated will be dating someone not educated, but franckly, that's exceptional.

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    You are right, stopping to answer is the very best to do... I answered at first, very politely that I just don't know who he/she was talking about at all.. and that degenerate immediately in threats, that I must stop see him because I will have this, and that... but I did not received anymore information about "the man"... very strange all this, in fact.

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    I'm not sure, but reply that if she doesn't stop, YOU will talk to the police; and do not reply further than that. Making threats is illegal, but you are not doing anything illegal. If it doesn't stop, maybe people at Stella can advise you if you should see the police.
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    Hello Maria,

    Quote Originally Posted by Maria Divina View Post
    You are right, stopping to answer is the very best to do... I answered at first, very politely that I just don't know who he/she was talking about at all.. and that degenerate immediately in threats, that I must stop see him because I will have this, and that... but I did not received anymore information about "the man"... very strange all this, in fact.
    It could be harassment, but if the situation is as this person says then she is being a bit stupid going after you as an escort. Is she going to threaten hundreds of escorts her husband could go after if not you instead of cutting the issue off at the source, which is him. Maybe she's blaming the wrong person because she's too afraid to confront him. I'd ignore her, or go to the police if that is safe for you. She sounds like she is being desperate to blame someone else but the real problem.

    Good luck,

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    Siocnarf,

    I don't agree with that reply, because the girl will write in reply something like, "we both know you are afraid to go to the cops, putain", or some similar taunt in uneducated French. Just stop. No need to counter threats with threats. It also sends the message that she is succeeding in disturbing Maria, which is exactly what she wants to do.

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    We will see what will happen with that. I found it very strange to be said as "the one who is contacting people".... and .... how it was said... I was "abusing of men"... something similar in french...

    Generally, if I am abusing of someone, it is because he is asking for it on his knees... hahaha but he asked for it!

    That's a very strange situation...

    Tell me, just like this... If a girlfriend goes to the police and bring the emails of her boyfriend he might exchanged with an escort... What could the police do really?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Maria Divina View Post
    What could the police do really?
    Nothing........you could say it was all make believe dirty talk. The only time dirty talk matters is when it is made to someone under 18.

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    That's true about stopping, but it also depends on Maria. If she feel ok talking to the police, she might as well make it plain and give a last warning. Otherwise, maybe better just to stop replying like you say.
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