Here's something interesting:
I've personally stopped focusing on just getting phone numbers.
I've found that Email addresses are far better.
( I still get the phone number too of course )
If I see a woman I like, I can walk up to her and get her
number in about a minute or two (if I'm in a hurry). I have found
that GETTING PHONE NUMBERS ALONE DOESN'T EQUAL SUCCESS.
Women have many different reasons for giving out
their phone numbers. Some love the attention of having a lot
of men call them. Some like to turn guys down. Some are
actually interested. But in my personal experience,
women act different on the phone than they do in person.
When you call a woman for the first time, she'll often
start acting stand offish or even worse, just plain rude. It's
almost like she's a different person than the one you met.
I've found that getting an EMAIL address is not only
easier, but it gets more positive responses later on. It's
almost as if women appreciate it that you've taken the time to
think about what you're going to say when you write an email
to them, and they think of you more like someone they know.
The other benefit of email is that it can be written and
answered anytime. If you call, you have to actually reach them.
But an email can be answered anytime. I've found that emails are
answered FAR more often than voicemail messages.
HERE'S THE HOW TO:
After I've talked to a woman for a couple minutes,
I'll often say something like "Well, it was nice meeting you.
I'm going to get back to my friends."
They usually don't know what to do, as they're used to guys
clinging to them. Most of the time, they say "It was nice
meeting you too..." Then, just as I'm turning to walk away,
and we kind of disconnect, I turn back and say "HEY! Do you
The "HEY!" is a bit surprising, and "Do you have email"
is non-threatening. In fact, I'm technically asking her if
she HAS email, not if she'll GIVE IT TO ME.
If she says "yes," I take out a pen and paper and say
"Great, write it down for me" and I have her write it down.
(This is great, as I just treat the 'yes' that they
give me as a yes to get it from them as well. And they've
almost ALL gone along with it so far) Then AS SHE'S IN THE
MIDDLE OF WRITING, I say "Write your number down there too."
When you ask for email, it's very low risk for a woman,
so she'll think "Fine, I'll do that." Most women will give out
an email address without thinking about it, because they know
that they can choose later to just not answer.
The magic of asking them to write their phone number down
WHILE they're in the middle of writing down their email is
all about the psychology of human behavior.
She's already mentally said "OK, I'll give you my email
address"... and she's in the middle of writing it down. When
you say "And just write your number down there too" it's only
NATURAL to just write it.
In other words, it's a MUCH smaller step than giving out
the phone number all by itself. It took me a while to
figure out this one out, but it works! You
will have women writing their phone numbers down without even
Just realize that all you have to do is ask.
I've tried all kinds of things. And I've
gotten hundreds of phone numbers. I use this exact
sequence every time I talk to a woman and I want to get her
phone number. I've gotten to the point where I can often do
this in a minute or two - not kidding !