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    Question SPs who come back

    On two occasions, I had SP voluntarily offering to come back to my room after her shift is over, and I have yet to see my 10th one. On both occasions we had very heart felt conversations, and under normal circumstances we would be like at least very close friend. They didnt mention anything about monetary compensations but I declined both times due to lack of cash on hand. Both ladies had good reviews on this board and from reputable agencies and one is still working. How common is this and anyone have any experience with these sort of situations? Is this common friendly gesture or do I look like a mat that can be walked on all over? (Yeah, yeah I know not to fall for a SP, and the feeling was deep friendship than love anyway... )

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    Two out of ten...you must be doing something really good.

    I had similar experiences over the years where SPs offered me, on their freetime, to stay overnight, to go out to have a drink or a bite. In most cases, the connection I had with them was so good that this was just natural and I accepted. I've paid the expenses (drinks, meals, etc.) but I never felt it was necessary to offer a compensation. However, it never crossed the line between the hobby and my personal life.

    In a few instances, I did declined the offer for various reasons (felt uncomfortable, had other commitments or just too exhausted to do anything else than sleep).

    I have not run across many such opportunities recently but I've been "solicitated" directly more and more by some SPs, sending me messages to inform me that they have switched agencies or became indies or new SPs offering me their services because they had good references from one of their SP friend I know.

    I guess I'm a good client who's also doing something right!

    Lion Heart

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    If an sp offers to meet after her shift, it's not because she wants to see you again as a client but rather as a friend or a date. A lot of these girls are lonely and are looking for something or someone (like the rest of us I guess). If you really connect with an sp and she wants to see you outside the biz that is a great compliment. The only ambiguity I can see is: does she want to see you as a friend or as a potential relationship? If it is the latter, then I should think that you pick up the tab for drinks, food... If not, then it is "dutch". I personnally think it would be really cool to date an sp, I don't think I would be jealous or anything, I think however I would be just too worried about stds...

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    Human relations

    I have had that happend to me in the past and 2 main reasons have been behind it:

    1. The girl wants to hook you in, for either more time later on, or as it has been said to get fidelity out of you;

    2. There was some rapport developped and the girl (remeber they are human beings) feels like exploring it. Which does no mean she wants to be your girlfriend or marry you and have kids, she may just find you amusing!

    Rule of thumb: Like in any human relation, treat it as such, do not get a big head, if you feel like pursing it, clarfy the situation, we are meeting to talk? we are meeting to get acquiented? we are meeting to FS? we are meeting to have another professional (SP - client) session?

    Then go from there, and treat it accordingly. Good luck!
    The reasonable man adapts himself to the world: the unreasonable one persists in trying to adapt the world to himself.

    Therefore: All progress depends on the unreasonable man!

    [George Bernard Shaw, 1903]

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    its better to pay

    never accept free time it just means trouble s ahead
    believe me I Know...

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    SPs are lonely? I find that very difficult to believe. Most of these girls just have to stand in a bar for 5 minutes before they'll have more dates than they can possibly attend to in the next two weeks. Some are part time students (so I'm led to believe), so there's always the whole school scene. I think it's wishful thinking on our part. With that said, don't refuse a meeting even if it is just drinks and conversation. I know I wouldn't.

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    Quote Originally Posted by 500miles
    SPs are lonely? I find that very difficult to believe. Most of these girls just have to stand in a bar for 5 minutes before they'll have more dates than they can possibly attend to in the next two weeks. Some are part time students (so I'm led to believe), so there's always the whole school scene. I think it's wishful thinking on our part. With that said, don't refuse a meeting even if it is just drinks and conversation. I know I wouldn't.
    I'm not an SP but a stripper. I hardly ever get picked up at bars and I go out alone maybe once a week/two weeks. And never in history I was hit on by someone at school. For me school is a non-sexual environment and I wish it was otherwise..

    It depends on a girl rather than her occupation. One of the reasons I chose my line of work is to compensate the lack of action in my real life.

    Carla

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    Quote Originally Posted by Carla
    I'm not an SP but a stripper. I hardly ever get picked up at bars and I go out alone maybe once a week/two weeks. And never in history I was hit on by someone at school. For me school is a non-sexual environment and I wish it was otherwise..

    It depends on a girl rather than her occupation. One of the reasons I chose my line of work is to compensate the lack of action in my real life.

    Carla
    That's amazing. Any man who has ever carressed your silky thighs, squeezed your amazing rear and fondled your oh so firm breasts should gladly line up to have a chance to spend a night, or more, in bed with you. I'm sure that many here, including myself, would be happy to help you with the lack of action in your real life.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Carla
    I'm not an SP but a stripper. I hardly ever get picked up at bars and I go out alone maybe once a week/two weeks. And never in history I was hit on by someone at school. For me school is a non-sexual environment and I wish it was otherwise..

    It depends on a girl rather than her occupation. One of the reasons I chose my line of work is to compensate the lack of action in my real life.

    Carla
    I second the Techman's opinion.. in fact, I will be gladly try to make you happy

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    The litmus test I would do is the following: Here we are talking about SPs, but do you see them spending hours online talking about us? I still think that SPs lacking attention in their personal lives are in the small, small minority.

    In my five years of hobbying, I have only encountered two semi offers and one flat-out offer. One HDH in Mtl volunteered without my prompting that she hasn't been in a real relationship for over three years. I was told by a long term SP I used to know in the Midwest that she has not had a boyfriend for ages (hint hint). The first girl didn't elaborate on the reason, so I didn't ask. The second girl just plainly said she's terrible at maintaining relationships. I have also had a Russian girl in Toronto ask whether I want her as a girlfriend, but in this last case, I think she was just looking for a way out. I don't think I would even know how to negotiate with her Russian "handlers".
    Last edited by 500miles; 11-01-2005 at 01:02 AM.

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