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    Getting soft with SP

    Ok, so here's the issue and would like to know if I'm alone... im perfectly fine with erection with wife or gf (on the side ) can have sex for hours... I get good enough sex in my regular life but I'm curious and like to "try" SP'S and did quite a few times ....
    But for one reason or the other im never sure if I will get or maintain erections...so let's say if I had call 30 girls maybe with 5 of them I didn't get hard. ..pretty embarrassing. .. and waste of money...
    am I alone ?
    I'll answer any questions you may have for me

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    Do you not get hard at all? Or is it just when it's time for the condom to go on? Because a lot of guys tend to lose at least some of their erection when putting on condoms. It's pretty common.
    Also how old are you?

    You should never be embarrassed when things aren't working. It happens a lot, especially as men get older.

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    This would happen to me (even when I was in my 20s) if I masturbated regularly in the days up to the 'event' so to speak. I think it was a sensitivity issue because even when I tried ED medication it did nothing for me. Then I just laid off spanking the monkey and the issue went away.

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    Like Tiannas said condom plays a big role,make sure you have the right size and experiment with brands to find the one that is best for you...

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    It happens to me quiet often, for various reasons and the lady has nothing to do in that. She can be the most beautiful woman on Earth, I took my Viagara,... still I am not able to sustain my erection long enough. I do at the beginning when we kiss, then as soon as I do give pleasure to my companion, then after it becomes a huge challenge for both of us. By respect for the lady, I always tell them at the beginning. Not coming, does not mean not having fun... I do get all the wonderful sensation...
    Even in such situation, I see positive things... Not coming, means I keep all my energy !!!

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    Hahahaha, it's performance anxiety for me. What a cruel irony - the more I really want to, the more likely I'll be a no-show... As others have echoed, it's all in the head. We have all our own unique fucked-up heads...

    Oh, and mending ribs and painkillers can apparently make you no fun, too. Learn something new every trip.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Aswert View Post
    Quit watching porn....and porn is the cause. Google "yourbrainonporn" and you'll see the science behind it. It truly is an addiction. I've been "clean" for a month now, but was trying on and off to stop for almost 4, while relapsing maybe 3 times in that timeframe......You'll notice you'll get more boners throughout the day, and you'll be much more excited when you see a beautiful lady. Soon you'll regain your hard erections.
    Great advice. With Cialis I DO get hard but I like to take that a few hours before an encounter, not just one hour before. Sometimes the next day after Cialis I'm even harder. I'm sure beating off affects it, but it's hard (ha,ha) not to sometimes. Go 4 or so days without, don't drink any alcohol that day and not much the night before, keep very hydrated. If you still loose it during a session, perhaps keep her mouth off your damn cock so you don't loose so much pre-cum. Perhaps do some DATY for a while and then you'll be good 'n hard, then go in for the kill straight-away. Finally, if all else fails, I've beat off with her sucking me off at the very very end (another pun) and that too can be really satisfying. You never said if you could masterbate to get hard in such situations?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Garito View Post
    With Cialis I DO get hard but I like to take that a few hours before an encounter, not just one hour before. Sometimes the next day after Cialis I'm even harder.
    I take Cialis and found with me it worked far better than Viagra. I also take it 6 hrs before and if I see 2 within 24 hrs it still works. Alcohol & fatty foods does not effect Cialis as much as it does Viagra.
    I do not think outside the box, I do not think inside the box, I do not even know where the box is.

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    My ex had the same problem when he would see an escort, he would take viagra, but he said the problem would happen if he didn't know the girl.

    Maybe if you try repeating with one of the 5 girls who gave you an erection, you will feel more comfortable PLUS you will also know you had an erection before with them!
    This maybe could cause less stress that it 'might not happen'. Or you might try having the girl give you a massage before hand to relax you and get to know each others body movements, etc. Then you will be calm and your muscles less tense, then your brain can concentrate on the one muscle that matters to be tense!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kitty Karmella View Post
    Maybe if you try repeating with one of the 5 girls who gave you an erection,
    Yes, with the lady I mostly see no Cialis is needed, with a new person it is almost a must. Age of SP makes a difference with me also, before when I booked I always asked for the oldest SP and most were no issue, the young ones effect me a little, maybe telling me something.
    I do not think outside the box, I do not think inside the box, I do not even know where the box is.

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    I will agree with STN about the effects of Cialis : even half a pill works for 24 hours for me. Viagra, not so much, mostly a one time deal. I will also agree with the age of the lady : lately it has been less appealing for an SP to be less than 25. That's an age thing for me (almost 59) and also with my personal history with my own kids (27, 24 and 20). It just gets a little too close to their ages. Plus, its a free ticket to hell. Oh well I'll have lots of friends there. Thanks for the time gents.

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