Ladies and Gentlemen, this is a question I often wonder about and what better place to get more information. I don’t wonder about my opinion, or more accurately my desires, or care whether anyone think it's right or wrong. I just wonder if I am in the minority, and if so, how minor my opinion is! I am interested in all opinions, which is to say I especially want to hear our providers’ thoughts (both those who I have seen and/or communicated with, and those who I have not yet seen) as well as those of my fellow-hobbyists. What I am asking about often does not exists with agency providers, and because I see agency girls much less often, partly for this reason, I expect more replies from indys, but all are welcome. This is not just about routine communication before our encounter or follow-up communication after it. Rather it is about communication really getting to know each other, establishing a connection, some early "chemistry," flirting, and building up the anticipation to the encounter, and then continuing the “affair” after the encounter through similar communication, flirtation, and then future RDV’s.
Ideally (for me at least) the perfect GFE begins before we even meet; it actually begins with our first communication and, provided we end up with a great encounter, continues even after our RDV ends, and until our next date! This is a tricky area though because, while I certainly don’t claim to speak for anyone except myself, I do believe that many of us want all the good things about a girlfriend experience (the closeness, the connection, the cuddling, the familiarity, and yes of course, the great sex!) but not the things we often see as bad (the commitment, the exclusivity, the drama, the moodiness, the “I have a headache’” and of course the PMS)! I know this is asking an awful lot of a woman, but contrary to conventional wisdom that says “you don’t pay ‘em to stay, you pay ‘em to leave,” at least in my case, I do pay them to stay (temporarily anyway) and to stay in touch, and in many cases to return.
I am sure there are many different and very logical and perfectly valid opinions, desires and thoughts on this. Gentlemen who are already in a committed relationship and mostly looking for an hour or two of sexual excitement likely will not want the risk of frequent (or unplanned) communications. But for those without that existing committed relationship, the pre-rendezvous communication can be flirtatious, exciting, and have the potential to turn a good encounter into a great encounter. Likewise, after a great encounter I usually want to see this lady again, and if she also feels the chemistry, follow-up communication is a great way to send that message and build the excitement for the next RDV. I expect one issue for the ladies is the time and complexity involved keeping ongoing communication with multiple gentlemen, and I understand that, but there is a reward! This usually (at least for me) leads repeat visits, to multiple hour bookings, overnights, increased generosity, dinner dates, etc., with men they know and are comfortable with, have a connection and chemistry with, and ultimately is between two people who know, understand and genuinely like each other. Life is good when this happens!
This is a long question I know, but those of you who know me expect nothing less! I would love to hear more viewpoints on this.