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    Is it common for a girl to give you an appointment, and not show up?

    It happened to me a few times lately. We arrange an appointment in a few hours. Then the girl doesn't show up. And she doesn't answer any of my call or message anymore. This is what pisses me off. At least she could message me saying she can't come. Is this common? I wonder if it has something to do with me or if it happens to other people.

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    I think it is almost unheard of with a reputable agency, and relatively less likely with an independent who values reviews. It happens all the time with backpage type providers. They bump for regular customers or because she got an offer to go to a party instead. An advantage of a big agency is that they can substitute a comparable lady if a provider is under the weather (and most reputable independents maintain contacts with other independents for emergencies). Lower-end providers are usually free spirited lone rangers who think nothing of blowing off an appointment.

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    Agreed with Patron, there are some great agencies/indies with great reviews you shouldn't have a problem here on the merb. Stick to review and reputation that how a great business is built on "reputation"
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    It is rare with elite ladies.
    It is disappointing but sometimes things happen that are out of their control, sickness, or other problems.

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    Happens rarely but I remember all those times I have sat and waited and waited and she didn't show. I will say that my batting average in Montreal is outstanding.

    I think it really helps when you are experienced in a hobby location and you know the game and the reliable agencies and people. It also helps when you attend GTs and get to meet some of the SPs and agency bookers.

    I was in Vegas and I got stood-up. That was the only SP that didn't bother to contact me or return any of my calls and e-mails. I think that you should probably confirm more than once and especially that morning. Be prepared for a plan "B."

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    As some said, it is not common practices by agency (they will offer a replacement) and indies that have a good reputation and work profesionally. They will let you know they can't meet you usually. BP is a whole different story.

    Go by the rule of 15 mins....

    Late by 15 mins, give her a text, if by 30 mins she has not answered, move on. If she answer and say she will be a bit late add another 15 mins, and if by 45 min she has not arrived, move on. Unless its a snowy day and she drive herself, and she lives outside MTL, i see no reason to be late more than 45 min. So in the end you loose 45 mins, but that should let you enough time to find a plan B if you booked a 4H or such.
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    Its not common. It happened to me 2 times in 10 years. All occasions was with an agency. 1 of them offered a replacement, which I declined. Never happened to me with an independent.

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    Hello Birds,

    It's extremely uncommon. In all the years only one person didn't show up. It was on the second time I wanted to see her and it was a known risk with someone who had a reputation for doing that with regularity. Otherwise there were some cancellations well before the trips, but to fail to show up on a confirmed appointment while I'm in Montreal was unheard of for me other than the one exception.

    Good luck
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    Highly un-common if you use Merb advertisers or trusted reviews.
    Based on you history of using ill repute sites.
    And your history of complaining about grossly overweight and deceptive indies.....I just could imagine the turn-off questions you ask before booking.
    In your case its probably bad karna

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    The only time I ever had a no show that I can remember- with a MERB advertiser that is, and not low end, backpage or no reputation providers - was with an agency called Bodylicious about 10 years ago. They were not a well reviewed agency, but I took a chance based on backchannel feedback that they had one really outstanding lady. She was the one I booked. I was told at least 5 times she would come and then finally there was a phone call from the operator 10 minutes before the scheduled late night date time that she wasn't working.

    Birds I think you should read Clousurf's last post and take it to heart and maybe do a bit of a mirror check because I am guessing the problem is partly who you are calling and partly the communication you are using. There is no reason to have this happen except once in maybe 10 years using well reviewed agencies. It's really not that hard to just call the well reviewed and reliable agencies. Unless they blacklisted you, that is.

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    One time a lady didn't show or call. I was disappointed, naturally.

    Later I found out she was ill and I actually felt ashamed of myself for being so self centred.

    I am not perfect and I don't expect the ladies to be either.

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    Quote Originally Posted by cloudsurf View Post
    Based on you history of using ill repute sites.
    And your history of complaining about grossly overweight and deceptive indies.....I just could imagine the turn-off questions you ask before booking.
    I've seen some of Birds posts but not enough to say much about his style of posting. I read Cloudsurf many many times and knows his style and character well. If Cloudsurf is correct, which is more likely than not to use a phrase, then it's a big part of the problem. Apart from that, whether the comments about Birds is accurate, if you are someone who is frequently going toward more risky escort options and at the same time overly or unjustly critical then you are making your own problems and increasing the risks. Plus you are getting a reputation with the escorts.

    Comments and reviews should be truthful. But if you are taking higher risk options then complaining more about choices that were bad poorer risks to begin with then part of what needs to be done is to change your methods. Otherwise you are helping to make the situation worse and what can you expect more problems, especially if your own style of inquiry is adding to the problem of turning off the escort or the agency.

    Quote Originally Posted by westwoody View Post
    I am not perfect and I don't expect the ladies to be either.
    A few times ladies have been sick and there was an excused cancellation. I thought not showing up was separate from that.

    Good luck
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    I don't know who Birds is but he appears to be very blunt. I do know Cloudsurf and he is a nice guy...sort of a fatherly figure to the girls of Montreal and very protective and this is a good thing. Having said this, I think there is an element of truth to what Birds has said. Go look at the Indy Companions. There are some beautiful girls there and some high end girls that I would give my right blank to be with. However, there are several girls there that fit the description. Many would be considered overweight and I don't mean just by insurance standards. Several seem to be covered with ink and piercings etc. Some are more ink than skin and there are some even more strange fetish girls that I think would fit in rather well at a circus side show. I don't think that this is bad. If there is a market for this, so be it. I just remember when I started attending GTs that I was just surprised to see what people would be willing to pay up to 2x the fee for in some cases when the agency girls were younger, more fit and half the price. But who am I to question their business models? Didn't Adam Smith say let the market work...or was it the Invisible Hand (in this case Hand-Job) that he spoke of? Oh well. There are a lot of nice Indies and agency girls out there.

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    Indys are the worst. Sometimes life gets in the way and yes I do understand. They have lives away from this hobby and kids get sick, family's make demands on the spur of the moment, friends have problems. Agencies, incall, they tend to advertise a schedule and then are at the risk of the girl not showing for work for some of the reasons I mentioned for indy's. For the agencies I think they should update the schedules on their web page daily, then when a client checks he will be assured that the girls in question are actually there
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    The only no shows I have had were with BP when I first started the hobby.
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