What should the upper age limit be for first time fathers?

Interesting question ExoticSpirit, my opinion (I stress opinion because I am not a father) is that if you are going to try to have a child there should be a reasonable expectation that you are going to be alive long enough to see him become an adult. I would find it hard to set an age as health would be different for each individual, but if the odds are that you only have 5-10 left then I would say you're too old to be a father.

All of this only applies to people TRYING to have a child of coarse - I don't care if you are 92 if you get someone pregnant by accident be a man and do your best for as long as you can.

Another consideration: You do not want your kids when they are just getting into their twenties to be taking care of very old parents - it can destroy the kids' lives. I know this from personal experience. With that in mind, I would say that 35-40 is the absolute maximum.

I don't think there should be a limit!
Lots of fathers are bad but stick around for ever, some fathers are good but they die young.
Some people are poor their whole lives and borrow money off their kids.
I think its quality not quantity.

Sadie

The limit should be = TimeOfDeath - 2 years.


I dont see what one should prevent itself from having a child with a free willing women who wants it even if hes about to die of old age...


A lot of people have grown up without the support (either $ or emotional or both) of a father and have turned out great.


Here is how I explain the (minest 2 years). The mother should not go thru the death of the fater of the child while she is still under pregnancy to prevent a miscarriage a very fucked up mother...

If you have hit 40 and you have never fathered a child, I say give it up dude. That criteria applies to me, by the ways.

I did come close to fathering a child when I was 24. At the time I had a girlfriend who was 18 and taking birth control pills. She told me that she had been told to take them for a month before having unprotected sex, but we kinda jumped the gun. I remember her calling and telling me that she hadn't had her period and I was sweating some fucking bullets, because at that stage of my life I was totally unprepared to be a father never mind married to that girl. Anyway, it was a false alarm as her period came late that month. After that I pretty much got scared about having unprotected intercourse with her, as much as I liked it.

I am at a point in my life now where I accept and enjoy being single and have no desire to be married or to have any children. I don't have the patience to be a parent, and there are simply too many issues and obligations especially in regards to properly educating a child. Looking back I feel as though I was pretty lucky in terms of the educational opportunities I had, and frankly I would never be able to raise a child without giving him/her the same or better opportunties than I had. And that is simply too much pressure to handle. I don't need it. And with the money I have saved by not sending a kid to college, I will soon be buying myself a new car. And if my schedule permits, an overseas vacation.

regnad said:

That said, raising kids is by far the most rewarding thing I've ever done. And, by the way, I've got great kids.

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Well said Regnad but I feel that there is no real upper limit to being a dad and soon a mom (medical wonders!). You need to shower your kids with love and affection and teach them to value life and be independent. Realistically, the mid forties would be a cut-off age for most men but this does not necessarily apply to everyone.

Kids are a gift from God - nothing else can compare to this, certainly not this hobby. If you're selfish, then abstain from having kids. If you're going to have kids, then be responsible; love them and nurture them as much as you can.

GG

chefplus said:

Another consideration: You do not want your kids when they are just getting into their twenties to be taking care of very old parents - it can destroy the kids' lives. I know this from personal experience. With that in mind, I would say that 35-40 is the absolute maximum.

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Most of the posters above are looking at this from their own, selfish, points of view. Please re-read my original post, quoted above. Someone I am close to has spent the last 20+ years of her life looking after older parents - and she is in her mid-forties.

It depends on the amount of money the guy has and the age of the mother.

If the guy is 90 year old, is worth 10 million and the mother is 20 or 30 something. That works.

Although it is important for a son to have a male role model it does not have to be his father and the role model need not be there 100% of the time.