The great thing about MERB is the wide array of personalities and opinions. I think most people are fairly honest.
I haven't been hobbying very long, and I came to MERB with some preconceived notions. One of them was of the cold, abusive john exploiting women. That's certainly true in some cases, but in most cases posters appear to be sensitive and respectful. Responses to GG's thread, "Have you ever gotten emotionally involved with an SP?" revealed that some, if not most posters look at SPs as a lot more than just a 'life support for a ___.'
I'm obviously not an SP, and can only go on what they tell me, but the biggest disadvantage to the lifestyle seems to be what it does to relationships. Maybe this has been touched on in other threads, but reading some recent posts, I wonder how cynical and detached an SP has to become to do her job. Reading Alex's "Stripper Rant" isn't much of an eye opener, but Zaphyr's reply to "Do SPs have higher standards regarding men," is. She said Oliver wants to sleep with any escort he wants for free.
Maybe. But what's wrong with that? If a man doesn't start out as a client, why can't an SP see him as just that...a man, not money. One SP told me she's hard to pick up because of her job. Some ask how hard is it for an SP to have a relationship with a man. I wonder how hard is it for a man to have a relationship with an SP or former SP?
Surely SPs are exploited for sex, but probably no more than john's are exploited for money. Granted, it's a business, and maybe I'm overly sensitive, but are we nothing more than $? And if so, is it just SPs that view men this way, or a majority of women to some extent?
Or am I just too Goddamn cynical right now?