We know why a woman becomes an escort. Money.
Unfortunately, the earning power of an SP tends declines quickly as she ages. Coupled with the emotional toll, I have to wonder how a woman stays in the business. And more importantly, what happens to women who do.
Of course, many SPs are college students, making a killing. They're young, they're in school, and they're getting paid mightily to do something most people would do for free. They may not always be crazy about every client, but it beats the s@#$ out of working your way through school by waiting tables. These women will, in theory, go on to become professionals when they graduate. They'll have a massive financial advantage when they enter the workforce.
But what of 'career' SPs? There are some, like Ronnie, who seem to do fine. Ronnie comes across as confident, and she markets herself well.
For many this is not the case. For many, the story doesn't end with a solid white collar career, or a strong business as an independant.
Most men are shallow, myself included. I'm 28 and I weigh 160lbs. If I'm going to hobby, I'm going to have little interest in a woman older than me, and no interest in a woman who weighs as much or more than me. That's my choice, and I'm paying, after all. I believe I'm in the majority on this.
But what of the escort who finds herself still in the business, and without an education, into her late 20s? What happens when the money slows down or stops? When the looks fade, or the drug addiction becomes too much?
There's no retirement fund for escorts, and this job comes with a lot of baggage, physical and emotional. Escorts seem prone to eating disorders, drug addictions, alcohol abuse, low self esteem, etc. I'm stating the obvious, I know. They should take resonsibility for their own life, I know. But sometimes when you're down, and you know no other life, well....you get trapped. It must be easy to think you'll always be able to earn money quickly and easily. One day she wakes up and finds herself in her 30s, struggling and without much of a future that she can see.
We all hobby and enjoy the company of the woman. Most of us are gentlemen, and treat a lady with respect, or so I'd like to think. But we never think of what the future may hold for these ladies.
With the stigma that escorting carries in many circles, and the 'under the table' pay, there's no retirement, no benefits, no support network for SPs. I know it's said we pay an SP to leave, but it seems a cruel fate that awaits the woman who stays in this business too long. I haven't the means or ability to start a support system or pension fund for SPs. I'm not an agency owner, and if I were, my compassion would probably bankrupt me. That doesn't stop me from wishing there were some sort of benefit or support system for these women. I'm not referring to 21 year old college students. They need no help. But, with few exceptions, I'd wager that the longer a woman stays in this business, the more her life is likely to deteriorate.
We've all seen it. There has to be something we can do.
(Yeah, I know, I'm a bleeding heart)