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    A support network for SPs?

    We know why a woman becomes an escort. Money.
    Unfortunately, the earning power of an SP tends declines quickly as she ages. Coupled with the emotional toll, I have to wonder how a woman stays in the business. And more importantly, what happens to women who do.
    Of course, many SPs are college students, making a killing. They're young, they're in school, and they're getting paid mightily to do something most people would do for free. They may not always be crazy about every client, but it beats the s@#$ out of working your way through school by waiting tables. These women will, in theory, go on to become professionals when they graduate. They'll have a massive financial advantage when they enter the workforce.

    But what of 'career' SPs? There are some, like Ronnie, who seem to do fine. Ronnie comes across as confident, and she markets herself well.
    For many this is not the case. For many, the story doesn't end with a solid white collar career, or a strong business as an independant.

    Most men are shallow, myself included. I'm 28 and I weigh 160lbs. If I'm going to hobby, I'm going to have little interest in a woman older than me, and no interest in a woman who weighs as much or more than me. That's my choice, and I'm paying, after all. I believe I'm in the majority on this.

    But what of the escort who finds herself still in the business, and without an education, into her late 20s? What happens when the money slows down or stops? When the looks fade, or the drug addiction becomes too much?
    There's no retirement fund for escorts, and this job comes with a lot of baggage, physical and emotional. Escorts seem prone to eating disorders, drug addictions, alcohol abuse, low self esteem, etc. I'm stating the obvious, I know. They should take resonsibility for their own life, I know. But sometimes when you're down, and you know no other life, well....you get trapped. It must be easy to think you'll always be able to earn money quickly and easily. One day she wakes up and finds herself in her 30s, struggling and without much of a future that she can see.

    We all hobby and enjoy the company of the woman. Most of us are gentlemen, and treat a lady with respect, or so I'd like to think. But we never think of what the future may hold for these ladies.

    With the stigma that escorting carries in many circles, and the 'under the table' pay, there's no retirement, no benefits, no support network for SPs. I know it's said we pay an SP to leave, but it seems a cruel fate that awaits the woman who stays in this business too long. I haven't the means or ability to start a support system or pension fund for SPs. I'm not an agency owner, and if I were, my compassion would probably bankrupt me. That doesn't stop me from wishing there were some sort of benefit or support system for these women. I'm not referring to 21 year old college students. They need no help. But, with few exceptions, I'd wager that the longer a woman stays in this business, the more her life is likely to deteriorate.
    We've all seen it. There has to be something we can do.

    (Yeah, I know, I'm a bleeding heart)
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    I have a few thoughts on this one....due to lack of time at the moment I will gather them and come back and give you my two cents.

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    But what of 'career' SPs? There are some, like Ronnie, who seem to do fine. Ronnie comes across as confident, and she markets herself well.
    First, I have been doing this only for the last two and a half years. Second, I am studying, next year at this time I will have completed my B.A. I do plan on going on to do a Masters degree.

    Unfortunately, the earning power of an SP tends declines quickly as she ages.
    This has not been my experience (based on conversations with younger SPs) Just the clientele changes.

    Most men are shallow, myself included. I'm 28 and I weigh 160lbs. If I'm going to hobby, I'm going to have little interest in a woman older than me, and no interest in a woman who weighs as much or more than me. That's my choice, and I'm paying, after all. I believe I'm in the majority on this.
    Maybe yes, maybe no. I have several clients who are either much larger or much thinner than I am. Taste and attraction are very individual things. I also have a large % of clients who are much younger than I am. (Though not the majority)

    Escorts seem prone to eating disorders, drug addictions, alcohol abuse, low self esteem, etc.
    I wonder which comes first? Also at what rate say compared to women in general, or to women who work in various sectors? (Such as social work or nursing?) ...things I would like to study...

    They should take resonsibility for their own life, I know. But sometimes when you're down, and you know no other life, well....you get trapped. It must be easy to think you'll always be able to earn money quickly and easily. One day she wakes up and finds herself in her 30s, struggling and without much of a future that she can see
    With the stigma that escorting carries in many circles, and the 'under the table' pay, there's no retirement, no benefits, no support network for SPs.
    Too true, too often...

    It is difficult to organise a group of people who have been working under the wire, who have learned not to trust, who have had to learn to rely only on themselves, for so long.

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    Ronnie, thank you for your response. I really respect your opinion, and that of any SP. I hope that I didn't put words in your mouth at any point. I sometimes get verbal diarrhea.
    I made my post far too long, but the gist of it is that there should ideally be some kind of a support network for SPs. Just a suggestion, but who better to start such a network than former SPs?
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    Question So maybe it's time to change the laws, huh?

    In any news discussion that I've seen or read this topic is generally part of the discussion. I've heard of some instances where SP's were looking to form trade unions in order to get those types of protections (i.e. - retirement funding, medical coverage, disability pay).

    Unfortunately most people are too puritanical about the subject. If the laws aren't changed to legalize the business then unfortunately that leaves alot of women out on their own.

    Even if smaller groups of local women tried to organize something basic, like setting up a health insurance plan or investment account for retirement savings, it would have to be low key because of the fact that technically the money is earned outside the boundaries of current laws.

    Just a thought on the subject ... so does anyone else see that this is one very major reason that it may be time for a change?
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