On Sps and eating disorders

Sadly, I have a little experience with anorexia. Years ago, one of my relatives died from it. She had always been slim and I don't believe that anybody had, ever in her life, described her otherwise. At the end, despite having been confined for treatment at a hospital on multiple occasions for months each time, she still saw herself as fat, but evaluated others normally.

More recently, I met an SP who was slim and athletic. She became anorexic. Merb comments cannot be a factor as her appearance has been described exclusively favorably here. She told me that she was ashamed of her illness. She has been in treatment and has returned to work, but hasn't regained her former healthy weight.

I have met many overweight women who derisively describe spinners as "skinny minis", regard themselves as beautiful "real" women and have no intention of making any effort to reduce their weights. My own weight fluctuates between slim and slim + 20 lbs. My friends and family aren't shy about pointing it out when I'm at the top of my range. I suppose that I'm lucky that I'm not among the relatively rare men who develop eating disorders. Their comments inspire me to reduce my food intake and exercise more.

I know an SP who simply refuses to look at her reviews here as she often finds them unfair or otherwise annoying. (For example, a client who wanted to lick her face wrote she didn't provide GFE.) I have noticed that many reviewers tell far more about themselves than the person they are ostensibly describing.

SPs are always going to be judged on their appearance. Agencies are always going to mislead us with camera angles, old pictures, false descriptions etc. Merb has no little value to most of us clients if reviews sugarcoat. We all occasionally meet rude, critical and verbally abusive people and must learn to refrain from letting their negativity affect our self images.

I believe anorexia is a disease of the brain. I don't believe that anybody yet knows for certain what triggers it. My point, "weararethenight", is that it is simplistic to imagine that it is triggered by comments on an escort review website. The vast majority of models and actresses are far slimmer than average. Pick up any magazine and you'll see photoshopped pictures of perfect bodies which never existed. Most women compare themselves to such images. My friend asks me to read her reviews for her and I refrain from reporting that which will put her in a bad mood. It's unacceptable to be insulting, but mentioning that an SP has gained a significant amount of weight is relevant information for many of us. Sensitive people shouldn't read their reviews or have someone filter them.

It is the stop and go nature of the biz, that is why you never see female cops that are svelte.

Ms. Wearerethenight, as Sam and Patron have aluded too, the critical appraisal of SP’s on this board will not stop. It’s unfortunate but it’s the reason for this web site and sometimes criticism can be very acrimonious for which I am sorry for.
The only help I can relay to you is to stop reading this board, erase it from your history and favorites. It’s not necessary medium for the majority of SP’s who do not advertise on this board. I hope this is your case.

Wearethenight said:

reading some " reviews"

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This pretty much goes for any review, social media post, etc. If it's going to upset you, don't read it.