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    Does your ego get in the way of things

    I have often wondered why and what it is that lets your ego take control.

    I have often thought of what it would be like to take a vacation with a beautiful escort, be it on a beautiful tropical island or on the barrier reef in Australia or anywhere in Europe.

    Here is the dilemma, I have no problem paying for the vacation, sight seeing, meals what ever, I do this a couple of times a year with my kids, their wifes even some other family members.

    It is the 8-10k on top of that that kills it, that is where the ego kicks in and fucks it up, I am fine with paying for sex but for companionship, no fucking way, I want that to be because someone wants to be there with me not because I am paying for it.

    It is not about the money, that is not the issue.
    Just the thought of paying for companionship to me is like buying a friend and I know it would fuck up the vacation and it would end up as a disaster.

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    Ego and pride get in the way only if you let them. Paying for companionship isn’t something that registers on that radar for me. I don’t have any problems attracting women my own age. I just have no interest in them other than platonically as friends. For the younger ones that have no life’s worth of baggage that they carry around, I realize that they need to be incentivized to want to be a companion to someone who is older. These are just the facts of one’s own life and you either come to accept them or not.

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    Sam21,

    Never forget one of the more truly prophetic scenes in the movie Pulp Fiction:

    https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=ruhFmBrl4GM

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    EB,
    I guess it is because I have never had a problem attracting women in my life and was extremely lucky to have been able to spend it with the one I was and always will be completely nuts about.

    I still don't have a problem attracting women of my own age, but like you, I am not interested in them I prefer the ones in the 30-45 range, it works when the one you are in love with ages, she still remains as the most beautiful woman you ever saw, but a stranger that you don't have any feelings for, becomes just needless baggage.

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    The best way to see if you like something is to try it in small pieces and compare it to the alternatives.

    Try Thailand. It is a interesting combination of long-term and short-term opportunities. You find out if you prefer alone time, companionship time, or something in between.

    There are agencies that can arrange anything. Bangkok Gold was my favorite years ago, but if you check out the Bangkok thread there are a lot of other agencies and independent escort sites. I prefer an agency that is honest, and I found Bangkok Gold to be honest and have a lot of variety, which is important to find out how good a lady’s English is.

    I don’t quite get the age thing. But even if you get a Thai lady who is 30-45, she will look younger than that. There are a lot of 2-4 day trips from Bangkok, including Ko Samet Island and even Angkor Wat, that are pretty unforgettable, and you could bring a lady along to see how you like the long-term companion thing.

    If you don’t like it, and want short-term, God knows (or Buddha knows) there is plenty of it available in Bangkok and Pattaya.

    And even if you do some of the tours “yourself” if you go through a place like Tours with Tong, your companion might happen to be a very hot, English-speaking lady in the age range you mentioned. Mine was. And the tours are fantastic, Elephants, wild animals, scenery, etc.

    A vacation to Bangkok is not going to break the bank, and you can find out what you like and really want. I have never heard a single guy come back from Thailand and not say he had the time of his life. You don’t read as much about the place on merb simply because it is a long motherfucking way over there. But you were contemplating Australia and that is even farther. And you won’t have any difficulty getting by in English or finding something interesting to do every day or have any concerns about safety. Everything, tours, food, etc. is cheap, and a lot of the girls are from rural villages and have never been to the zoos and parks and tourist attractions in and around Bangkok, so you would make her day by bringing her.

    Bring a 30-45 year old North American woman and she will probably bitch about how long the flight is and how hot/cold the weather is, regardless of where you take her. Thai chicks appreciate western guys who spend money on them, even though it is not much money by western standards.

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    I have a hard time agreeing to pay someone to sleep overnight let alone paid for to join me on a holiday. The hype/ego would be there " Look at the old dude with the escort or trophy girl ". Not for me, I know a few ladies that would join just for the paid vacation, not 20 yr old hotties but someone I have something in common with.
    Would not have to listen to hip hop music, can talk about old times, not look out of place in a crowd.
    This paid for companionship would be great for people who need an ego boost. If you got game you can always find someone on the dance floor at night or even walking down the beach...
    I was asked by a lady once what my mouth was good for, I replied " I been eating pudding cups without a spoon since I was 8..... I can make your teeth sweat ".

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sam21 View Post
    ...Just the thought of paying for companionship to me is like buying a friend and I know it would fuck up the vacation and it would end up as a disaster.
    When you book an escort, do you ever book for more than 30 minutes or an hour? I don't know why you would. After all, you would probably feel very uncomfortable spending any time actually paying a girl for her companionship by just talking to her while sharing a glass of wine. The mere thought of it must make you feel awful, no?

    In any case, if you don't want to do then don't do it. Why bother starting a thread about things you don't like and don't want to do? Who cares?
    Renault: I have often wondered why you don't return to America. Did you abscond with the church funds?
    Did you run off with a senator's wife? I like to think you killed a man. It's the romantic in me.
    Rick: It was a combination of all three.
    Renault: And what in heaven's name brought you to Casablanca?
    Rick: My health. I came to Casablanca for the waters.
    Renault: Waters? What waters? We're in the desert.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sol Tee Nutz View Post
    ...I know a few ladies that would join just for the paid vacation...
    If they actually liked you, they would pay their own way...or pay for both of you!
    Renault: I have often wondered why you don't return to America. Did you abscond with the church funds?
    Did you run off with a senator's wife? I like to think you killed a man. It's the romantic in me.
    Rick: It was a combination of all three.
    Renault: And what in heaven's name brought you to Casablanca?
    Rick: My health. I came to Casablanca for the waters.
    Renault: Waters? What waters? We're in the desert.
    Rick: I was misinformed.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sol Tee Nutz View Post
    I have a hard time agreeing to pay someone to sleep overnight let alone paid for to join me on a holiday. The hype/ego would be there " Look at the old dude with the escort or trophy girl ". Not for me, I know a few ladies that would join just for the paid vacation, not 20 yr old hotties but someone I have something in common with.
    Would not have to listen to hip hop music, can talk about old times, not look out of place in a crowd.
    This paid for companionship would be great for people who need an ego boost. If you got game you can always find someone on the dance floor at night or even walking down the beach...
    These are good reasons for a person to choose a lady in Thailand for a few days of accompaniment to a place outside of Bangkok. It is certainly not unusual for relatively older western guys to be seen with relatively younger Thai women, so no one is going to talk down about it like they will in North America. She serves a very valuable purpose, as a “tour guide” to navigate some places definitely comes in handy. As far as finding things to talk about, you would of course choose someone fluent in English, but she is going to have a background that is so different from the guy’s, that they will have fun learning about each other. Same really with an actual tour guide, except she probably won’t go up to the hotel room with you afterward, so they are best for day trips instead of overnight.

    If a guy books a Thai lady for a 2 or three day excursion, he is not locked in to it in the same way that he is by taking a much more expensive western woman on the entire vacation somewhere. Here is a link to a really good group. A person would need to contact them to see what the daily rate is for excursions.

    https://www.bangkokgoldescorts.com/gallery.html

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    [QUOTE=CaptRenault;1154977]When you book an escort, do you ever book for more than 30 minutes or an hour? I don't know why you would. After all, you would probably feel very uncomfortable spending any time actually paying a girl for her companionship by just talking to her while sharing a glass of wine. The mere thought of it must make you feel awful, no?
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    I have never booked a 30 minute session.
    An hour or two seems perfect for me, it gives plenty of time to enjoy a glass or two of wine and some pleasant conversation.
    Actually I don't know if I enjoy this more than the sex as being over sixty the time that I could go a full hour is long gone.

    Why did I start this thread?
    It is only the second thread I have started since being on Merb, so hopefully I am not boring people with my thoughts too often, but probably subconsciously I was looking for someone to convince me that it was the best vacation of their lives and to give it a try.

    It is not happening, so you are probably right, I should have just let it rest.
    A leopard doesn't change its spots easily.

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    EB, you seemed to have missed the moral of the story.

    The Fuck Pride speech, with Willis’ face half in sunlight, half in shade, eventually causes him to have the dream about his father’s sacrifice, which caused him to not throw the fight, which resulted in the later altercation with Marcellus Wallace where the Fuck Pride speech was mocked, and eventually the moment of great reckoning where Willis saved the life of Marcellus Wallace instead of allowing him to be murdered after being homosexually raped. Pulp Fiction was a morality tale.

    https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=OVxl__61vKI

    https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=a1f2kjXiGpw

    https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=ofNn-ZUwRjI

    And Sam21, I think one of the reasons you get some grief for this kind of posts is the fact that most guys here don’t have 8-10K to even think about spending on an escort travel companion. If you have it to spare, nothing wrong with going that route. I merely suggested an alternative that would cost less by having a companion during parts of a vacation, where she would come in handy and earn some of her keep, and in an environment where the cost per hour of companionship time is relatively low. If you find that you like it, you could spend the big bucks later. If not, there are plenty of 2-3 hour escort opportunities in Thaioand. And it is the number one place in the world to go on vacation in my opinion. It is just a world away, though.

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    Quote Originally Posted by CaptRenault View Post
    If they actually liked you, they would pay their own way...or pay for both of you!

    Yes, my guess is that many members here have imaginary girls that would pay to take them on a vacation. The few single ladies I know are on a shoestring budget who would love to hit a resort but do not have the funds, at least they would not charge extra to join.
    Just did a search, travel buddies, site where you seek a travel companion, would probably save you 10k plus with the game all have here it should be an easy score.
    I was asked by a lady once what my mouth was good for, I replied " I been eating pudding cups without a spoon since I was 8..... I can make your teeth sweat ".

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    Quote Originally Posted by CaptRenault View Post

    In any case, if you don't want to do then don't do it. Why bother starting a thread about things you don't like and don't want to do? Who cares?
    How many useless threads to you see started here? This one seems to hit a nerve with you, bad experience in the past?
    Nothing to copy and paste a 400 word report on, just curious.
    I was asked by a lady once what my mouth was good for, I replied " I been eating pudding cups without a spoon since I was 8..... I can make your teeth sweat ".

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    Patron,
    Thanks for your posts regarding Thailand, it sounds interesting I might just try it out.
    One of my kids was there recently with his wife and they loved it.

    The reason I brought up Australia is that I grew up there and have been back for a visit but never got to see the Great Barrier Reef, which has now become a bucket list item.

    As far as having 8-10 K to spend, we all have our priorities, mine is family and vacations, I don't really spend much otherwise except on golf and fishing as going to bars is of no interest, restaurants I have spent enough time in during business trips all my life so they are not something I look forward to or consider important, I prefer to cook at home and BBQ in the summer.
    Not seeing any girl under 30 is another thing of mine that I may or may not get over.

    I guess, I don't really need much companionship as I have a group of friends that I get together with regularly. ( golf, fishing, pool, soccer, hockey games and beer ) and I see my kids every week, they come over for lunch and sometimes during the week as well to visit.

    I do miss sex on a regular basis, and of course losing the one you have loved all your life changes you forever.

    This hobby thing I am still relatively new at, I never had to think about hiring escorts before, even the ones I saw when I was in my late teens early twenties, I didn't pay for or arrange, they were perks provided as part of being an athlete or tending bar for a buddy.

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    I regret not getting to Australia the last time I travelled to Thailand. Logistically speaking they are not that far apart.

    So on a longer trip, a person could do both.

    Not too many people have the money and/or freedom to even contemplate a trip to Asia.

    You should count that as a blessing.

    This thread is an interesting study in how a person can either be happy or unhappy doing this activity.

    If a person likes to travel, but doesn’t do so because he doesn’t have a companion, he ends up unhappy. Especially in the social media oriented world where people talk about travel all the time.

    If a person hires a travel companion, but gets so concerned because that is unacceptable to other members of society that the trip is spoiled, he ends up unhappy. That doesn’t make any sense to mist long-term johns who long ago stopped giving a shit about what others think, but I realize it is of concern to a lot of guys.

    If a person takes a completely solo trip, especially to a place where mongering is difficult, he probably isn’t going to enjoy it. So mongering is an important aspect of solo male travel. But in a place where no English is spoken, it can be a little awkward to stick it in girl after girl with no talking. It works for a few sessions and can be an interesting pantomime experiment, but you don’t want that for every session, so I would always recommend (and prefer myself) places and specific ladies who speak some English.

    If a person spends a truly inordinate amount of money on his own trip, he is probably going to be unhappy, and personally I feel that is a little too likely to happen if you travel with a paid North American female companion. That varies from person to person, of course. But the number you threw out is significant by most people’s standards. A lot of people live longer than they ever imagined they would, and money needs to last a long time.

    If you read the great travel reports in the Other Cities section, you will notice that there are a lot of countries that are very tourist friendly, with Thailand being one of the best. There is a huge tourist guide culture where you won’t get lonely if you have one guide showing you (or a very small group) around. There are a lot of similarly situated people around, who are friendly. And most importantly, there is a huge supply of long-term relationship sex workers, and tour guides, who speak English and whose job is to keep you happy and show you a good time.

    Just my opinion, but bringing an expensive North American escort on an international trip is a waste of money. You can get everything she would have to offer at a fraction of the price buying it abroad, you lose the time you would prefer to spend alone, and you lose the adventure you would have by needing to make sure she would enjoy everything you want to try. It sounds more like a chore than a vacation to me.

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