I started a new thread on prefential treatment because it does not necessarily have to be linked to discounts.
I believe that preferential treatment happens a lot in this industry as it does in other industries. I have my thoughts on using my Merb handle but basically it's a double-edged sword. It might help me get an encounter with a lady I am dying to meet but it might make her feel very uncomfortable and pressured to perform, which I do not want. I want someone who can relax and enjoy the encounter.
By stating my Merb handle, it also lets the agency or indy know that they have nothing to fear from me. I am nice guy who likes treating the ladies well and if I do not have anything good to write, well I simply do not write it. No slamming unless it's really terrible service, I just don't put anything up.
Now, as I stated in Anik's thread on discounts, I have never asked for a discount because I find this practice is stupid and cheap. Saving $20 on an $180 encounter or even $50 on a $300 encounter will not bolster my finances. If it's offered to all, that is fine. Some agencies like Eleganza and FKS have memberships where members benefit from discounts, which is fine as well.
But preferential treatment happens all the time. I recently was disappointed when I found out that one of my favorite indies lied to me about not being able to meet me. I subsequently found out that one of her regular clients saw her that day. I was fuming but upon further reflection, I understand why she had to accomodate him over me. We didn't confirm anything in writing, we just spoke about possibly meeting at a certain day.
But at the end of the day, he sees her regularly whereas I saw her only once before. He is more important than me, providing a regular stream of income, and I accept this. I just didn't appreciate being lied to. I would have preferred if she told me a regular client called me and I need to see him. Then again, most SPs lie about this because guys have fragile egos. I personally do not care and prefer the truth.
All this to say that preferential treatment will always exist in every industry, especially here in hobbyland. This should not include abusing your Merb handle to extort discounts from agency owners or independent SPs.
But if my Merb handle assures me first dibs on a lady I am dying to meet, then so be it. I will pay the full price and book her for two hours. If one of her regulars wants to see her and I get stiffed, I'll understand. This is all part of the game.