Nylonlover posted this on another thread and I thought it was brilliant, worthy of discussing on a separate thread:
Originally Posted by nylonloverI'm sorry to hear this. This sounds a bit like a rookie mistake. I don't know how long you've been in this game, but what i've learnt throughout the years is simple:
I tell the lady right off the bat, before I make any contact (and no matter how hot she is). I tell her exactly what I expect. I'll even possibly make up a pseudo-story if need be like "cuz last month with another agency, this girl left after only 40 minutes, etc...i hope u won't do that, etc..". Then, logic should tell her not to pull any stunts. Of course, you must say this in a classy and fun-loving way. Don't act like you have a branch up your ass when you greet her. It'll creep her out, and she'll be scared. Be chirpy, playful, and a gentleman. Try and make her feel at ease, cuz she is just as nervous. For the most-part (I use that term loosely) here in Montreal, we're not dealing with seasoned hardcore trick escorts a la Vegas who know how to juice your cash. These are mostly young girls just trying to make a buck. So just ease up on em. Treat em like a regular person. These are people skills that you must have or atleast try to hone. I happen to be good at people's skills and detecting whether or not I'll click (although my dickhead sometimes gets in the way of that~!!!). So don't be shy. Many girls have confided in me that it's enough stress for them to try and figure out how to 'take care' of a man they do not know. So save em the trouble, and tell em exactly what you want. Don't be shy. There's nothing awkward. I mean for crise sake, your paying for it, u might as well verbalise what it is u like...
Now, if u see the girl looks at you weird or doesn't like the fact that you are laying it all out on the table, then she possibly may not be compatible with you. I've turned good-looking girls away based solely on body language. And of course, these are usually the 'seasoned' types a la Mandy/Mindy, or someone like say a Judie Star (who I have never met, BTW) or most pornstars who probably think they are too good for us.. Of course, like i said, sometimes mr. happy gets in the way of that specific decision-making process, and I end up having a bad experience and banging my head against a wall for it. I may have been surprisingly pleased only once or twice in my career, but most of the time I was right.
So be forthcoming with your expectations. If time is an issue with you (as it is with me), let em know off the bat (from the agency-owner down to the girl herself) that although you will certainly not chain anyone down for the 60 minutes you are paying for, you will certainly not tolerate any unwelcomed early departures. But keep in mind, that no girl will give you another SOG with only 5 or 10 minutes left. So don't explode in the 49th minute and expect to get that 2nd SOG, cause you won't. Just use logic. Tell em before the session, or tell em before your first SOG (ie: "will you give me another SOG if I explode now?"). Like that, you give them nothing to work on or use against you (and even then, some SP's may still walk out and flat out lie to their pimps about you in front of you on the phone.....).
Also, learn to read body language and respect your gut-feelings, and FOLLOW THROUGH on em, don't let your mr.happy dick-tate the situation unless u have mad cash to blow.
And finally, for crying out loud guys, I know u're paying and you're the customer and all, but that gives you no reason to be a slob or not showered or no underarm deodorant. I make it an event (that I prepare for), and I usually get snazzed up for the event, atleast in a "Bill Clinton~Dockers sort of way LOL". Fix your hair, clean out the wax in your ears, shave your beard, trim your privates, use deodorant, wash your ass, put on a bit of cologne, offer some wine if u have some with you, chocolates, etc...THIS GOES SUCH A LONG WAY.
But don't make em think that you're a pussy-whipped customer either. This is not PRETTY WOMAN and you ain't RICHARD GERE.
Cuz they'll walk out if they could regardless. Just show em that you stand tall with respect to your WANTS and NEEDS, and once they're cool with that, then you treat em like princesses. It's all psychology man...Just don't be afraid to talk. That's what your mouth is for. Use it...but don't be an ass using it..