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    Feeling worse after seeing an escort?

    Hey guys,
    I don't know but ever since I've been seeing SP's on back to back nights, I've been feeling really down. Like its just created a hole in me or something. I mean don't get me wrong, I have a great time when I'm with them, but after they're gone, I just feel down again. Today, I just walked down St. Catherine and seeing many couples passing by or friends chatting it up down the street has made me realize how alone I am in Montreal. I'm not like this and its puzzling me right now. Maybe its because I'm in another country and I don't know anyone. I'm feeling a little home sick right now and I thought I'd just hop on here and try to start up a conversation. Hopefully whatever advice/info you guys could give me could cheer me up. Right now, I feel like I'm at a real low point in my life.
    I really hate feeling like this BTW.
    Last edited by MannyV; 04-18-2007 at 09:14 PM.

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    Hey MannyV,

    I was just in Montreal a few days ago traveling from Southern California. I have been visiting Montreal about every couple of months since 2004 and just love the Montreal French girls.

    I have on occasion felt a little lonely but enjoy the time by myself and walking down St. Catherine and people watching. I have my list of girls I want to see and look forward to the evenings.

    If you haven't already done so do the all day tour of Montreal and visit the Olympic Stadium, the Biodome, Mount Royal, Old Montreal, etc. Then take the one day tour to Quebec City.

    When I get bored I like to go to nice French restaurants, shopping, and strip clubs. Montreal has so many things to do so it really is just a mind-set and you need to remind yourself you are there for fun.

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    Don't dispair MannyV. Strong highs and lows are a part of travelling. Welcome to our fair city.

    I'm sure many merbites would be willing to meet with a fellow merbite from a distant land. Why don't you put out an SOS (savour-our-suds) call? Maybe someone will be at Cleo's or one of the other clubs tonight and would be interested in sharing a beer with one of our merbite brothers from the US.

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    Right now, I'm at a internet cafe on Gauchitierre (chinatown) and would be more than willing to speak to a fellow merbite over some drinks. I don't care at what bar, I just need to chat it up with someone. I'd prefer to chat with merbite/s, just so you guys would know we have something in common. Where is cleo's? I like this city but at the same time I feel very alone. I could really use some cheering up from some merb buddies.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MannyV
    Hey guys,
    I don't know but ever since I've been seeing SP's on back to back nights, I've been feeling really down. Like its just created a hole in me or something. I mean don't get me wrong, I have a great time when I'm with them, but after they're gone, I just feel down again. Today, I just walked down St. Catherine and seeing many couples passing by or friends chatting it up down the street has made me realize how alone I am in Montreal. I'm not like this and its puzzling me right now. Maybe its because I'm in another country and I don't know anyone. I'm feeling a little home sick right now and I thought I'd just hop on here and try to start up a conversation. Hopefully whatever advice/info you guys could give me could cheer me up. Right now, I feel like I'm at a real low point in my life.
    I really hate feeling like this BTW.
    I hope you’re feeling more upbeat.

    A large part of this is being way from home. However, another part of it is that most of us want a sense of emotional attachment - of someone who loves us and whom we love. SP's do many things - but this just isn't one of them. It is very true that for many people Friday and Saturday evening are the loneliest time of the week. Many of us have been there. It doesn't make it easier, but I sympathize.

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    This trip to Montreal has really been a roller coaster ride of emotion for you MannyV. From your first SP experience to your doubt about doing it again to repeating with an other SP, to this loneliness.
    You have to remember why you are in this hobby, if you are looking for companionship, remember that you might achieve it with a few SP but it has to be with repeat visits to the same ones. At least it is so for me.

    This is the part I am looking for now. Not long term as in girlfriend/wife but as in friend with which you have also some sexual experience. I have been lucky with a few and I have just lost one of my best: Nadia from xxxxtase but move on I say.

    Now on the physical side of the hobby, I think you will feel lonely after every-time because you seem to be an emotional guy, and emotion can only be fulfilled in the long term relationship. It is an illusion, I know, but what a great illusion.

    If you can separate the emotion from the physical than you are a true hobbyist, something I am not I guess.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MannyV
    Right now, I'm at a internet cafe on Gauchitierre (chinatown) and would be more than willing to speak to a fellow merbite over some drinks. I don't care at what bar, I just need to chat it up with someone. I'd prefer to chat with merbite/s, just so you guys would know we have something in common. Where is cleo's? I like this city but at the same time I feel very alone. I could really use some cheering up from some merb buddies.
    Strange writing coming from a person that just join this site a few days ago!
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    Well, I'm back home right now with my family and friends and am really happy. Thanks for the kind words guys. I know its weird how the first few nights, I was really enjoying myself with those women but I also felt I needed more than just physical satisfaction. Before my trip to Montreal, I had never used an escort service, so I didn't know how I would feel afterwards. So far, I feel that this hobby just isn't for me. Its still a little early to be thinking that because I've only had 7 encounters while in Montreal, but its too much of a risk for me to be continuing this hobby here in the states. Hopefully, I'll be back in Montreal this summer.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MannyV
    Well, I'm back home right now with my family and friends and am really happy. Thanks for the kind words guys. I know its weird how the first few nights, I was really enjoying myself with those women but I also felt I needed more than just physical satisfaction. Before my trip to Montreal, I had never used an escort service, so I didn't know how I would feel afterwards. So far, I feel that this hobby just isn't for me. Its still a little early to be thinking that because I've only had 7 encounters while in Montreal, but its too much of a risk for me to be continuing this hobby here in the states. Hopefully, I'll be back in Montreal this summer.
    This is very normal, Manny. In fact, I would go further and say it's very human of you.

    I often feel worse after being with an escort (with a few notable exceptions); and I only see them when I already feel bad.

    You felt like you needed for a woman's touch, but in reality it was the need for a woman's tenderness. You seeked intimacy of the mind but you received only closeness of the flesh. The realization that even sex can't ease your loneliness is the reason why you felt worse.

    Also, this is Montreal. It's one of the most beautiful and romantic cities in the world. We have 19th century buildings with 21st century neon lights. We have the old port; which is often filled with young lovers and old couples. The culture diversity in our city makes it so calm and charming. The city wields a powerful weapon; a weapon capable of controlling our moods. I live in Montreal and sometimes I would stare out my bedroom window and be totally taken by its beauty.

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    MannyV,
    Definitely a normal human feeling.
    But when passing by Mtl, start with Electric Avenue bar/night club (on Crescent Street) or "Passeport" on St-Denis. You can't go wrong with those two places: people are extremely friendly and will accomodate you very fast.
    From there, anything can happen
    Nowadays, Mtl is like my second home-town, but to facilitate my accomodation to Mtl, I used to contact groups of people who had same interest as me...so when I was in Mtl, I started by going out with them and that was a lot of fun (I used to be friend with "Chess clubing" fans, "Atomic discoveries" and "baroque architecture" circles, stamp collectors, etc..).
    Then I started having local love affairs through those different circles, and Mtl became even more and more interesting
    Seriously, consider contacting groups of interest and that will facilitate things.
    As for going out, Mtl's nightlife is great but as in any big city, you can feel lost very quickly when going out alone,
    except for "Passport" + "Electric Avenue" where ppl will easily get friendly with you (and they're quality ppl in general)
    Last edited by montreal_monk01; 04-23-2007 at 06:30 PM.
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    I don't know if you heard something called postive psychology
    this theory says that if you are feeling down and you won 1 million dollars than you wll feel happy for a period and then after that you will feel down no matter what. I think an sp doesn't solve the problem but you are already down....it may help but only momentarally
    Anyhow I also used Sp service and the only things it helped me is that I felt i need to do it so i can stop fantazing about nice ladies i see in the street and it helped me a lot. Now when i see a good looking lady in the street and bar i don't feel the same as before because i made sex with some very good looking sps....and that helped in feeling more satiety....
    anyhow there no better than finding love and make out with a lady you know she is going to be there for you when you feel bad....
    hope this helepd

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    Quote Originally Posted by MannyV
    Hey guys,
    I don't know but ever since I've been seeing SP's on back to back nights, I've been feeling really down. Like its just created a hole in me or something. I mean don't get me wrong, I have a great time when I'm with them, but after they're gone, I just feel down again. Today, I just walked down St. Catherine and seeing many couples passing by or friends chatting it up down the street has made me realize how alone I am in Montreal. I'm not like this and its puzzling me right now. Maybe its because I'm in another country and I don't know anyone. I'm feeling a little home sick right now and I thought I'd just hop on here and try to start up a conversation. Hopefully whatever advice/info you guys could give me could cheer me up. Right now, I feel like I'm at a real low point in my life.
    I really hate feeling like this BTW.
    I posted a similar post a couple of trips ago (about a year ago). The hobby is definitely different than being with a girlfriend. I find that since I am usually in Montreal for 4 or 5 nights, I can only spend 4 or 5 hours per day with women within my budget and the last trip, I skipped the last night. In between, I was walking around. When I go to eat, I eat alone. When I have a girlfriend, there is companionship and I do not eat alone. I felt very empty on that trip.

    The hobby is fantasy of being with very pretty young women, but only in a hotel room setting.

    You can't have both the hobby and a girlfriend or wife, or at not easily. At least, I have never tried doing it. I have the personality type that would not be good at doing both simultaneously.

    I have come to terms what the hobby is and what a relationship is.

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    [QUOTE=John_Cage]

    You felt like you needed for a woman's touch, but in reality it was the need for a woman's tenderness. You seeked intimacy of the mind but you received only closeness of the flesh. The realization that even sex can't ease your loneliness is the reason why you felt worse.
    QUOTE]


    Very good observation. Well put.
    If looking for something more than good sex (real connectivity) you're likely setting yourself up for disappointment once you hear the door close.

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    Hello Manny,

    This feeling is normal, normal for anyone. I have been a traveling escort for a few years, and I still have nights where I feel very much alone. I have been lucky in my travels, since I often go to the same places and try to retain a relationship with other girls who travel to that city (we often will book our trips at the same time so we can spend a night or two out for dinner or drinks)... If you will be visiting Montreal again, get back on here even when you are out of town, connect with the guys, head over to the chat room. Next time you are in town, you can have a night with the guys all set up, and truly be able to enjoy your encounters with more gusto and still walk away feeling that great glow!

    Good luck to you
    Anik

    Quote Originally Posted by MannyV
    Maybe its because I'm in another country and I don't know anyone. I'm feeling a little home sick right now and I thought I'd just hop on here and try to start up a conversation. Hopefully whatever advice/info you guys could give me could cheer me up. Right now, I feel like I'm at a real low point in my life.
    I really hate feeling like this BTW.

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