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    Should I tip an SP?

    Sorry to ask this silly question here. Just like to know how much tip is normally paid in addition to $160 donation?

    Thanks everybody.

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    $000,000,000.00 is usually plenty. Unless AFTER and unless the encounter was out of this world. Don't forget, if you repeat with same sp and tip her once, tipping will likely become expected.

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    Tipping is a custom related to low paying assistance or assistant, not for highly paid service providers who make 500 to 700, 800 a night (thousands of dollars a week) for allowing guys like us to bang them. Even if you make allot of money, they are most likely making more then you.

    No disrespect intended to any working girls, just need to clarify what we are dealing with in regards to the newbie's misconception.

    Example #1: In my hometown Plumbers make allot of money for a blue-collar worker. They can make 50 to 70 dollars an hour. That is allot more then most people make yet it is still a service being provided. Such workers usually have an assistant or two who make minimum wage and who are generally responsible for allot of the care and grunt work that goes into the service. In this example it does make sense to tip the helpers, but not the one who is making the big pay day from me for a service we have agreed on at a price we have agreed on.

    Example #2: who tips a highly paid dentist or auto mechanic. We enter into the transaction with a high price payment agreed on. Tipping is reserved for the low paid like the waitress or delivery guy.

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    Last edited by HarmonyNYC; 04-29-2007 at 07:00 PM.

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    Understood, thanks a lot.

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    Not a silly question at all funinus.

    Great explanation HarmonyNYC, thanks!

    Now that that's settled, allow me to ask everyoe, when you do tip-say at a restaurant-do you tip before or after tax?

    Maybe a poll is in order...
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    I've been tipping on top of the tax, but I'm starting to do that less and less.

    I read a statistic somewhere recently where it was pretty much split down the middle half tip before, the other half after tax... still wondering what MERBites do, and their opinions...

    Anyone remember the rant from Reservoir Dogs?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Agrippa
    Anyone remember the rant from Reservoir Dogs?
    The script is online!

    NICE GUY EDDIE
    Okay, everybody cough up green for the little lady.

    Everybody whips out a buck, and throws it on the table. Everybody, that is, except Mr. White.

    NICE GUY EDDIE
    C'mon, throw in a buck.

    MR. WHITE
    Uh-uh. I don't tip.

    NICE GUY EDDIE
    Whaddaya mean you don't tip?

    MR. WHITE
    I don't believe in it.

    NICE GUY EDDIE
    You don't believe in tipping?

    MR. PINK
    (laughing)
    I love this kid, he's a madman, this guy.

    MR. BLONDE
    Do you have any idea what these ladies make? They make shit.

    MR. WHITE
    Don't give me that. She don't make enough money, she can quit.

    Everybody laughs.

    NICE GUY EDDIE
    I don't even know a Jew who'd have the balls to say that. So let's get this straight. You never ever tip?

    MR. WHITE
    I don't tip because society says I gotta. I tip when somebody deserves a tip. When somebody really puts forth an effort, they deserve a little something extra. But this tipping automatically, that shit's for the birds. As far as I'm concerned, they're just doin their job.

    MR. BLUE
    Our girl was nice.

    MR. WHITE
    Our girl was okay. She didn't do anything special.

    MR. BLONDE
    What's something special, take ya in the kitchen and suck your dick?

    They all laugh.

    NICE GUY EDDIE
    I'd go over twelve percent for that.

    MR. WRITE
    Look, I ordered coffee. Now we've been here a long fuckin time, and she's only filled my cup three times. When I order coffee, I want it filled six times.

    MR. BLONDE
    What if she's too busy?

    MR. WHITE
    The words "too busy" shouldn't be in a waitress's vocabulary.

    NICE GUY EDDIE
    Excuse me, Mr. White, but the last thing you need is another cup of coffee.

    They all laugh.

    MR. WHITE
    These ladies aren't starvin to death. They make minimum wage. When I worked for minimum wage, I wasn't lucky enough to have a job that society deemed tipworthy.

    NICE GUY EDDIE
    Ahh, now we're getting down to it. It's not just that he's a cheap bastard--

    MR. ORANGE
    --It is that too--

    NICE GUY EDDIE
    --It is that too. But it's also he couldn't get a waiter job. You talk like a pissed off dishwasher: "Fuck those cun1s and their fucking tips."

    MR. BLONDE
    So you don't care that they're counting on your tip to live?

    Mr. White rubs two of his fingers together.

    MR. WHITE
    Do you know what this is? It's the world's smallest violin, playing just for the waitresses.

    MR. BLONDE
    You don't have any idea what you're talking about. These people bust their ass. This is a hard job.

    MR. WHITE
    So's working at McDonald's, but you don't feel the need to tip them. They're servin ya food, you should tip em. But no, society says tip these guys over here, but not those guys over there. That's bullshit.

    MR. ORANGE
    They work harder than the kids at McDonald's.

    MR. WHITE
    Oh yeah, I don't see them cleaning fryers.

    MR. BROWN
    These people are taxed on the tips they make. When you stiff 'em, you cost them money.

    MR. BLONDE
    Waitressing is the number one occupation for female non-college graduates in this country. It's the one jab basically any woman can get, and make a living on. The reason is because of tips.

    MR. WHITE
    Fuck all that.

    They all laugh.

    MR. WHITE
    Hey, I'm very sorry that the government taxes their tips. That's fucked up. But that ain't my fault. it would appear that waitresses are just one of the
    many groups the government fucks in the ass on a regular basis. You show me a paper says the government shouldn't do that, I'll sign it. Put it to a vote, I'll vote for it. But what I won't do is play ball. And this non-college bullshit you're telling me, I got two words for that: "Learn to fuckin type." Cause if you're expecting me to help out with the rent, you're in for a big fuckin surprise.

    MR. ORANGE
    He's convinced me. Give me my dollar back.
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    Quote Originally Posted by HarmonyNYC
    Tipping is a custom related to low paying assistance or assistant, not for highly paid service providers who make 500 to 700, 800 a night (thousands of dollars a week) for allowing guys like us to bang them. Even if you make allot of money, they are most likely making more then you.

    No disrespect intended to any working girls, just need to clarify what we are dealing with in regards to the newbie's misconception.
    If all that were true, why don't we see the evidence of crazy-rich ex-hookers?

    Let's try out some math.

    Sally is an SP. She is pretty and hot, gets some good reviews on MERB. Sally' agency gets lots of calls for Sally. Run, Sally, run. Run, run, run.

    Sally runs to every call she can make - she works 8 pm to 4 am, 8 hours, in which she can regularly make six calls netting $100/per, or $600/night, $3,000/week (she takes 2 days off per) or $9K/month (she has a visit from her Aunt Flo for about a week every month) for sleeping with 90 guys.

    That's about $100K/year, tax-free, but also benefit-free.

    Sally has about 5 years to her career before she has to lower her prices and her standards, maybe 8 on the outside.

    Sally also has expenses. Costumes, drugs to help her forget that she sleeps with 1,000 different men over the course of the year, and the normal stuff, rent, food, electricity, mobile phone, make-up, clothes ...

    Problem is, Sally is young, and has no concept of 'the long term' or that the money will eventually just dry up. So she buys ONLY D&G jeans and top-end make-up, and tons and tons of cute useless things, because, let's face it, if Sally could get a job looking into someone's mouth rather than at their dick, she probably would, Sally isn't what we would call dentist material. Nothing wrong with that, most of us aren't.

    Sally' friend Eric does go to dentistry svchool. Despite a massive investment to start up his business, equipment and educational costs are amortized over several decades, and with an income similar to Sally's but with a typical career spanning of 40 years, who do we think comes out ahead?

    All this to say, tipping is a personal thing. I have tipped, I've not. The fact that the girl is ostensibly making a lot of money per hour does not mean she is rich. I'm at the top of my earning game, and have made more (and spent more) than Sally did during her career, and I'm far from rich - do the math, someone making say $50K/year takes about twice as long, and probably has more to show for it in the end.

    Bottom line - short term lucrative job coincident with the worst point in a person's life to be giving them large amounts of money, vs. long-term slow but steady gains in a career.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Agrippa
    Anyone remember the rant from Reservoir Dogs?
    Which one?

    "Dick, dick, dick, dick, dick!

    How many dicks is that?

    A lot!"

    ?
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    Sad but true, IMHO, I have no reason to think about the lady's carreer plans. Girls that are good at what they do, and have the will to do it, moves forward, no matter if we're talking about a dentist or an escort. There's a huge market for dentist and independant courtisanes. Usually, with experience, the price goes up...

    I don't see the point of peoples bringing back the "..she's making money only for a few years..." argument. This is an non-issue and doesn't relate. After being an sp, the girl isn't sudently becoming a "reject", she still have the possibility do do "regular' work. Somebody winning the lottery won't win year after years, same with an escort: no need to spend it all right away.

    Tipping the lady doesn't help her in planning her career, doesn't help the escort to quit and find something else either. If she have no plans, tipping make it look even better to keep going without one.

    Long term $$$ wealth of the escort isn't a main concern for me. She plan her future and I plan mine. I don't mean I'm looking forward to see her end-up pennyless, no way! But she have a chance at making good money for a while, I can't force her to think about the future if she doesn't want to.

    Lots of escorts/strippers go to school. How many are bullshitting about it and how many aren't? It's quite impossible to know. I personally cought a few lying and was able to prove it but, I also met a few who were dead serious, left the sex business after school was over and now have damn good jobs! Those are the ones who had real plans and I'm happy for them. Others? Well, their plans were not to have any so, there's nothing I can do for them.

    Tips in restaurants? I usually tip 10% of total, after taxes and round-up to closest dollar (In Quebec). If service is better than expected and the server is doing a great job at making me feel like somebody more important than I really am, then I'll take the taxes total (about 15% in Quebec) and round-it up to the closest dollar.
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    Quote Originally Posted by metoo4
    Tipping the lady doesn't help her in planning her career, doesn't help the escort to quit and find something else either. If she have no plans, tipping make it look even better to keep going without one.
    You are right! And we should all stop washing for a few days before calling an SP, and make sure we run away without paying, because, you know, we don't want to encourage them.

    After all, it isn't our fault that there is rampant white slavery going on, many other girls are being pimped, or are drug addicts, or truly are unemployable in other professions. We deserve to squeeze every penny of value out of our encounters - push hard to get every minute of our time in the mssage parlour or hotel room, and never ever tip. it is our right as consumers!

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    YVO, you know that's not what I ment. What's the point of your huge attachment? It's irrelevant to this issue. We're not talking about trafficking or slavery here, we're talking about tipping. Are you implying that, by not tipping, we encourage trafficking and slavery? You make me say things I don't mean so, I don't see a problem returning the favor! Tipping an escort won't change the balance on who's being pimped, abused, forced and the ones who do it freely. Please, don't mix apples and oranges.

    Tipping regularly only make it expected, no matter if desserved or not. That's the way it is with the restauration industry and same could happen with SP. I can tip but usually, I'll do it by extanding the appointment. The point of a tip is to make the other feel good so, making her know I like her enough to spend more time with her is doing the trick, IMHO. Of course, only if she feels like staying and if she's available.

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    I think it's okay to tip if your expectations have been well-surpassed, but not okay to do it automatically. If so, it will become expected and I wouldn't be surprised if a girl's base agency rate went down. I don't think HDH should ever get tipped since they're already commanding a premium.

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    Quote Originally Posted by TurboDick
    I think it's okay to tip if your expectations have been well-surpassed, but not okay to do it automatically.
    Exact. Tipping should be a way of thanking a job that's well done and left at the discretion of the satisfied customer. Unfortunately, outside of the escort business, seems like tipping is becoming an obligation (restaurant, bars) -> imagine the message that's being sent: whether your service is good or not, you'll get your tip anyway! That's bad.
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    Quote Originally Posted by metoo4
    YVO, you know that's not what I ment. What's the point of your huge attachment? It's irrelevant to this issue.

    Is it?

    Again, you said [quote Tipping the lady doesn't help her in planning her career, doesn't help the escort to quit and find something else either. If she have no plans, tipping make it look even better to keep going without one.[/quote]

    Suppose during one's travels one encounters a Russian sex slave. You tip. She gives her slave-master the usual amount. She keeps the tip, secretly. She eventually saves enough to break free. I'd say that helps the escort to quit and find something else.
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