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Thread: is safe with a GFE an oxymoron?

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    is safe with a GFE an oxymoron?

    Though this is my first post I am an often reader of MERB, but I do not recall this discussion posted. I will soon be in the big city to partake in some of Montreal's finest, and prefer to be safe... orally speaking. I need to know if the self disclosed GFE's from Devilish/Eleganza and others have any objections to this level of service, or should I specifically request the services of those advertised non-GFE types? I assume GFE's can eagerly go both ways if business dictates?

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    If by safe, you mean no DFK, DATY or BBJ, then I'm sure any GFE SP will do so upon request. I'd be shocked if a SP actually refused CBJ.

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    Quote Originally Posted by PCGuy
    If by safe, you mean no DFK, DATY or BBJ, then I'm sure any GFE SP will do so upon request. I'd be shocked if a SP actually refused CBJ.
    your big brain is on "control motion", safe services, no question, yes she will be even happy to perform it that way..... now there is this gorgeous SP showing up at your door exactly what you were looking for, butterflys in your stomach, your big brain shuts completely off and leaves the control stick to your little brain, you start to dream, you wake-up and the princess has Pinochio in her mouth - too late......

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    You also have to watch where you put your fingers/mouth and oh your willpower will be tested. Only safe way is to do her in a bubble suit.

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    Most SPs offer because they feel that they would be losing business if they did not.

    Even if they offer because they prefer it, I never heard of an SP refusing safer sex practices such as cbj on the request of the client.

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    Quote Originally Posted by C_Cup_Lover
    Yeah, that`s basically it...I had thought I would not go for DATY or but, well, once you are there, well, it just seems natural to go for it...

    I mean, would you tell your girlfriend, sorry sweety, I`m worried about STDs, no DATY...I don`t think so. If you are enjoying yourself, well, you would have to make it clear from the start I guess. And I can`t imagine sex without kissing, so that`s not even an option.
    Certain skin cells are more suspectible such as your foreskin, so just because you want kissing doesn`t mean you have to throw caution to the wind on everything else. If you cut down your risk that`s still positive. Best to plan ahead with flavoured condoms for fun BJ, and maybe as Ronnie mentioned non-microwavable saran wrap for DATY.

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    +1 on flavored condoms. A lot of women seem to like them.

    I probably have my definitions mixed up, but when i hear the term `safe gfe` i don`t think of it as an oxymoron. I think of gfe as an overall attitude.

    Off topic... whenever I`m with a woman who insists on CBJ, I`m actually kind of relieved, in an odd way. has always been a bit of a guilty pleasure for me, if you know what I mean, even with non-SPs.

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    Is Russian roulette really a quirkie version of the casino game?

    Well, maybe is just me, I need to go back on my medication soon, I think it is time to put this cat to sleep cause all I read tonight seem to me like nonsense.

    Is GFE really safe? You are really asking this? Maybe you should not be indulging.

    If you want to play the game you need to follow the rules, anyone (borrowing the words of either a MOD, and SP or the guys from FKS) doing this hobby, either GFE or not needs to be tested regularly.

    Everything else is just wishfull thinking or a desire to take extreme sports to a completely other level.
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    Just get tested

    The arguments on this subject have being going for ages on this board now. Just do a seacrh and you will find a number of threads where lots of people tell you their own postion (from SPs, to agencies, to Hobbists) on:

    a. Whether or not to go GFE

    b. How or wheather you should get tested

    Let us adress (b) first:

    I for one, have made this argument in the past, get tested, once every 3 months (urine and saliva testing), it is not a diificult thing to have done, then go for the whole bloodwork once every 6 months.

    Is this enough? Too much?

    You decide what is your comfort level, or better yet ask your Doc he will tell you if you are honest with him. The important part is get tested.

    Let me adress (a) now:

    To GFE or not to GFE? well, I have also made my thoughts clear on this matter in the past, I will argue that unless you are a hermit or have some sort of vow of abstinance going, there is always a risk. Those that think that their latest pick up at the corner bar is safer than an SP are mistaken. If you are sexually active you are at risk.

    Now you can mitigate your risk, have a single long time partner, use protection all the time, limit the number of parteners you have, etc, but yet we are here, at an Escort Review Board, which makes me belive that all of us reading this do not follow in the main categories above.

    So unless you are going complete nuts, and are asking for idiotic things (like bare back sex) your risk is directly proportional to the interest you have on that GFE expirience and weather or not you consider, all precations and testing taking into account, that the risk is manageable.

    If you consider it is not, then just say no to GFE, period.

    Asking other people on the board to tell you weather or not you should go GFE and weather or not this decision is one you are going to be comfortable with is like asking a guy in the street if eating GM foods will cause cancer.
    The reasonable man adapts himself to the world: the unreasonable one persists in trying to adapt the world to himself.

    Therefore: All progress depends on the unreasonable man!

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