View Poll Results: To which extent an escort/courtesan has the right to choose her clients

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  • She has the right to choose and/or refuse a client, no matter what her reasons are

    75 82.42%
  • She has the right to choose and/or refuse a client, but she needs specific reasons to do so

    6 6.59%
  • She must remain professional at all costs, unless her safety is clearly at risk

    8 8.79%
  • I don't care, as long as she does not refuse ME!

    2 2.20%
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Thread: To which extent an escort/courtesan has the right to choose her clients?

  1. #1
    Let me be the first... they have a 100% right to choose... as always we would hope that it isn't on a prejudiced basis.

  2. #2
    Quote Originally Posted by Elizabeth
    Oops, my poll was not up when you answered, Dee.

    I guess your answer would be number one?
    C'est ca...

  3. #3
    Mired in the red dust.
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    Dee, don't worry. A lot of guys react prematurely before their polls are up.

  4. #4
    I voted #1. This is an extremely intimate/personal business we're talking about here, with real risks the ladies take. Not only regarding personal health, but personal safety as well.

    In Paris, there are bars where you can pick up a girl you like and take her back to your hotel with you, but the rule is that the ladies don't have to go anywhere with anyone they're not comfortable with.

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    Exactement ...

    Quote Originally Posted by Firewire
    I voted #1. This is an extremely intimate/personal business we're talking about here, with real risks the ladies take. Not only regarding personal health, but personal safety as well.
    ... but, as others have mentioned, the one time it really matters, when a girl works for an agency, she really has very little choice in the matter.

    And that's the biggie, that's the reason I prefer to meet with indies or women at smaller agencies where I know they remember me, and I remember them. Then the atmosphere is definitely more along the lines of being a "date". The few favorites I've met through agencies really have no idea who they were going to meet until I opened the door.

    Of course the surprised smiles I've gotten are nice for me ... but I havre to think about what this girl goes through every time she works. As in ... she never knows who she's going to meet.

    At least indies have corresponded in some way prior to meeting so they have some idea who or what to expect and meeting someone they've seen before is always more comfortable.

    So it's like the question almost needs to be split up into two categories ... indies & agencies.

    I think most would agree that most agency girls feel pressured (either directly or indirectly/financially) to go along with situatuions that they might personally prefer not to put themselves into.
    - Incognito_NYC

  6. #6
    How incredible is this thread !!!!
    This is not even questionable.
    Au zoo. Toutes ces bêtes ont une tenue décente, hormis les singes. On sent que l'homme n'est pas loin.
    (É. Cioran)

  7. #7

    Can the guy refuse the escort, I ask you...

    I must say that I have been in a situation where I would have liked to walk...
    Woud you say that if I come in, take a look, dont like what I see or feel, it is ok for me to just leave with an apology..

  8. #8
    Quote Originally Posted by emgeef
    I must say that I have been in a situation where I would have liked to walk...
    Woud you say that if I come in, take a look, dont like what I see or feel, it is ok for me to just leave with an apology..
    People have done that. A few SPs have mentioned that they were refused.

    Personally, I've never refused anyone even though a few times I've wanted to refuse the SP.

    I've also been refused. The times that I've been refused, I did not see the SP. The refusal was done professionally and for me that is fine. It was at the time of booking. I prefer it this way.

    Some agency websites mention that if you refuse the girl, you generally still have to pay $20 to the driver. I'm not sure how strict it is.

  9. #9
    I selected number 1, but I thought of something. Here it goes. Since this business is all about reputation and better reputation is likely to increase marketability. Right to refuse anyone with or even without reason may not be a good idea for a SP. Whoever the SP refuses that person will create some reason and start arguing endlessly on this board. If I were a SP, I would not want to be caught on the radar. If the client is a repeat client, I would give an excuse about my unavailability.

    This is a hard issue for a SP to handle. I don't know how the business works from SP side, but I am assuming that a SP may have to deal with regulars and strangers. A stranger who does not treat a SP right should not become a regular. If there are legit reasons for security, inappropriate demands or hygine issues then a SP should not have to go through the appointment. Last thing a SP needs is to defend herself on this board with a client who does not give up.

  10. #10
    Guess what I voted. I'm glad to see most voters think the same, and I hope they will act accordingly if the situation arises for them.

    Ideally, a women should also tell the client what is wrong, so that he learns from the experience...

  11. #11
    Quote Originally Posted by Elizabeth
    Everyone is agreeing so there can not be any debate!
    I`m jumping in without prior knowledge of the ongoing discussion. As expected, we have a consensus over the question of ``right``. I would now be curious if the same consensus would be reached over escorts/companions actually exercising such right.

    Here`s a corollary question: Which character of hobbyland fantasy would utter the following: ``We`ll give you all the privileges you want, dear, only you can`t use any of them.`` (oooh that`s dark!)
    Last edited by z/m(Ret); 06-12-2007 at 02:34 AM.

  12. #12

    Exclamation She Ultmately has the right to screen

    As in any relationship between a man and woman there should be honesty, and in todays society unless 2 folks who are great friends fall in love, most relationships, encounter a small amount of stretching the truth a bit, ........hence "The Hobby"
    the epitome of the term Free Love, free in that the SP and client are free of head games and one liners, and any intimacy is sincere and not contrived, anyone can tell GFE from Shakespeare.
    So since this is one of the last purely honest relationships, the SP should choose an agency that qualifies to her screening standards and of course the indie should advertize accordingly as to notcause any shocks, surprises, or misunderstandings.

  13. #13
    Quote Originally Posted by traveller_76
    ...et au 'flippeur' de burger chez McDo de s'ouvrir son propre resto...
    Le rire, selon la définiition que Bergson en donne, serait du mécanique plaqué sur du vivant. À force de m'amuser de votre ironie, j'en suis venu à me demander si la définition ne gagnerait pas à ce qu'on renversât les termes. Parce que, mademoiselle, vous maîtrisez comme personne l'art de plaquer le vivant sur le mécanique!

    p.s. vous trouverez, dans vos PM, le code du message subliminal juxtaposé au commentaire ci-dessus.
    Last edited by z/m(Ret); 06-12-2007 at 03:17 AM.

  14. #14
    Also the hobbyist should open the door, looking and smelling the way one would for a renewed girlfriend or lover, sharply attired for youe date, expensive cologne, a glass of ice wine, nice music, hey don't be cheap! She is a woman and first impressions are important

  15. #15
    I don't think that anyone should be surprised with the results. From client's point of view, why should anyone spend $160-250 or more to be with someone who does not want to be with him. I think the SP is doing a favor by telling the client that he can spend his money elsewhere. The tact of refusing is very important. A blunt approach will only hurt an SP.

    If a SP decides to refuse a client, she is refusing the money and also the time and money it took her to travel to the client location. Naturally the reason for refusal must be a strong reason. So either way, I think it is fair.

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