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General Gonad

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When you think about what would make you happy, what comes to your mind? Is it money? health? love? work? All these things? Or is it just making enough to spend on your favorite hobby whenever you want?:p

It's hard for me to pinpoint exactly how I feel after this experience. Sometimes I think back at the way I acted and I ask myself, who was that guy?:confused: Do you ever think back at an episode of your life and say to yourself, what the hell got into me?:eek:

All this to state my current definition of happiness: to remain in control of my emotional state and to reflect before I act on my emotions.;)

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For me

Happiness for me is trying to understand what makes me happy and going for it without thinking about what society might think. We are often conditioned to believe happiness is going to be achieved with certain things but it is not. Happiness is understanding who you are and what makes you truely happy. This is sometimes very hard. All my life I knew I had lots of artistic talent and I knew I wanted to head in that direction. People told me it was hard and that a future in this buisness was almost impossible to obtain. People tried to make me believe that I would be happier with security. I got told many many time to stop dreaming and find a REAL interest, something practical. People tried to make me believe that job security is something that can make me happy and in fact it isn't. I followed my passion and what my heart told me. To be truely happy, you have to listen to yourself. I was very lucky because I was born with an optimistic outlook on life and a strong head that is both rational and passionate. It is also important to understand that sadness is part of life and should be felt as strongly as our happiness. I take pleasure from small things and am thankful to be alive and well. But the greatest pleasure I will ever have is touching someone, making them find their own happiness, and if I can do that with my talent in the arts I feel my life is worth it. Also, I find that living my life passionately, feeling that this could be my last day on earth and feel like I had an accomplished life, is the best way to live. I don't know if I am alone in being so hopelessly romantic about life but it has been good to me so far. Take Care!

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The definition of happiness changes throughout life. However, there are some prerequisites for happiness that do not change. These prerequisites are money, health, freedom, trusting relationship(s), and positive outlook.

When prerequisites are not satisfied, a person tends to get unhappy. If you are not unhappy then you must be happy and this is my general definition of happiness is. It serves me well and is independent of what phase of life I am into.
 

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Happiness is often associated with the presence of favorable circumstances such as a supportive family life, a loving marriage, and economic stability.

However doing what you love is probably one of the key steps to finding happiness. People who find their passion and do what they love are truly finding happiness! Whether for musical theater, video games, constitutional history, camping, stamps, shoe-shopping, teaching English as a second language, or whatever. Passion gives you purpose, It gives meaningful structure to your time. It makes the world a richer place. When you’re in pain, it can be a refuge, a distraction, a solace.

Money is just a tool. Millionaires do you think that they're life is perfect?
Yes I am grateful to be healthy but does it make you happy on a day to day basis? When you loose it, you do feel unhappy, same with money. Being unhappy about not having something doesn't necessarily means that you will be or stay happy when you get it. Happiness is influenced by the attitude and perspective taken when circumstances occurs.
 

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Bertrand Russell's on how to conquer happiness

From Tim LeBon's top 10 self-help classics: http://members.aol.com/timlebon/conquest.htm

Bertrand Russell’s books were described by Time magazine as a modern substitute for the Bible. If this is so, the The Conquest of Happiness must be at the very center of his works.

Make no mistake, this is no abstract philosophical treatise – it is a recipe for good living, written for the likes of you and me. Russell’s work is based on two assumptions. First, happiness needs to be conquered. You can’t expect to waltz through life reaping happiness without putting in some thought and effort. But – and this is why The Conquest of Happiness is essentially an optimistic book– if you do make this effort, you can, given average fortune, attain happiness.

The conquest of happiness comes in three stages: first you need to learn about the principles that lead to happiness, next internalize them and, finally, put them into practice. Unless you had unusually wise parents, you must forget what you learned on your parents’ knee; you must also put aside what teachers, friends and, especially, priests have told us. You must replace these ideas with ones that really will make you happy. One way to do this is to read The Conquest of Happiness, for what Russell has done here is describe fourteen characteristics of happy and unhappy people. This is the essential first stage, but it’s important to realise that Russell does not think that it is sufficient. Next, you have to really internalise these principles – it’s not enough to repeat them parrot fashion, you have to really feel them as you do your feeling of wanting to protect your own children. A superficial reading of the book might not pick up the point, yet Russell emphasizes it several times.

“Let your conscious beliefs be so vivid and emphatic that they make an impression upon your unconscious and be strong enough to cope with the impressions made by your nurse or your mother when you were an infant.”.

The third stage – the transformation of your life - will happen automatically if the first two steps are carried out. For example, take a theme close to Russell’s heart – that you shouldn’t feel shameful about sex. The first step involves realizing at a conscious level that, whatever the priest said, consensual sex is part of a happy life, not a sin. The second step is to fully internalize this belief, to feel it, not just to recite it; if you’ve really done this, then the pay-off will be that a sense of shame will no longer stop you leading a sexually fulfilling life.

If you can follow these three steps for each of the fourteen characteristics described by Russell you will give yourself the best chance of achieving not just happiness but also freedom from what the Enlightenment philosopher Spinoza called ‘human bondage’. You will no longer be flotsam and jetsam, acted on by the forces of society and the commands of your parents, but a self-determining human being. You will be happy and free.

This framework is given flesh by Russell’s analysis of the fourteen characteristics of happy and unhappy people. Each chapter consists of a justification of why the chosen characteristic is good or bad, nice distinctions between its various senses and a discussion of other writers’ views and Russell’s practical advice for attaining happiness. Sometimes Russell digresses to make some rather tangential remarks about society and education and other personal concerns. Since our concern is with how to be happy, rather than Russell’s other preoccupations – such as the difficulty of obtaining good housemaids in the 1920s – this will be our focus.


The Conquest of Happiness in a page

To CONQUER UNHAPPINESS



1. Don’t be taken in by melancholy


Melancholy is only a passing mood; don’t mistake it for wisdom.


2. Don’t get caught in the competitive treadmill

Feeling happy is the only true success.


3. Develop the right attitude to boredom and excitement


Excitement is best sought in small doses and in the right places.

A certain amount of boredom is to be expected.


4. Make your worries concrete, don’t suppress them


Get a sense of perspective; Ask yourself ‘what is the worst thing that could possibly happen?’


5. Don’t envy, admire!

Enjoy what you have for its own sake, don’t compare yourself with others


6. Fight back against guilt & shame

Look out for the superstitious voice of your early influences; reason with it and defeat it.


7. Don’t suffer from an exaggerated sense of injustice

Exaggerate neither your own good nor others’ interest in you!


8. Don’t care too much what others think

Respect public opinion only to avoid starvation and stay out of jail.



To CONQUER HAPPINESS


1. Cultivate zest

Get into the habit of taking a lively and friendly interest in everything

2. Be affectionate

Reach out to other people and give affection; accept, but never demand it, in return.


3. Be a good parent


Give your child time & user your parental your child’s good


4. Do interesting, varied and constructive work


Find work that is varied, builds on a skill and creates something.


5. Cultivate plenty of relaxing minor interests


Enjoy as many diversifying hobbies and pursuits as you can; make sure these provide variety from your day job.

6. Find the right balance between effort and resignation

Do your best and when you have done all you can leave the issue to fate


***Footnote: Russell was a brilliant and eccentric philosopher of the 20th century. He also enjoyed many extra-marital affairs.:rolleyes: The Conquest of Happiness is an excellent read.
 
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General Gonad said:
When you think about what would make you happy, what comes to your mind? Is it money? health? love? work? All these things? Or is it just making enough to spend on your favorite hobby whenever you want?:p

It's hard for me to pinpoint exactly how I feel after this experience. Sometimes I think back at the way I acted and I ask myself, who was that guy?:confused: Do you ever think back at an episode of your life and say to yourself, what the hell got into me?:eek:

All this to state my current definition of happiness: to remain in control of my emotional state and to reflect before I act on my emotions.;)

GG
My definition would be:

Health + Money + Love = Happyness

All 3 factors are interdependants.
They can compensante and fluctuate
with time but remain part of the
equation to a lesser degree. Although,
it's easier said then done.

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vodka236 said:
My definition would be:

Health + Money + Love = Happyness

All 3 factors are interdependants.
They can compensante and fluctuate
with time but remain part of the
equation to a lesser degree. Although,
it's easier said then done.

I find it interesting how you put money before love and how money figures into the equation of happiness of many people. The reality is that if you work and are able to afford a decent lifestyle, then too much preoccupation on money can be counter-productive to being happy.

Read what I posted above from Russell. We all fall into the "competitive treadmill" and define our happiness by differentiating our financial status relative to others. Much like chasing after the next best SP, you'll never get enough money. As you make more, you'll want more.

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General Gonad said:
I find it interesting how you put money before love and how money figures into the equation of happiness of many people. The reality is that if you work and are able to afford a decent lifestyle, then too much preoccupation on money can be counter-productive to being happy.

Read what I posted above from Russell. We all fall into the "competitive treadmill" and define our happiness by differentiating our financial status relative to others. Much like chasing after the next best SP, you'll never get enough money. As you make more, you'll want more.

GG

General Gonad, they are in no specific order. The concept
is basically 3 circles which has intersections between them.
It means that ideally, the 3 should have a similar size...
You explained yourself with examples.

For example,

Too much of money, you get stressed/burned out
by overworking and you neglect your love ones.

Too much of love, you get non-productive and
neglect your own well-being.

Too much health, you become obsess with your
body and end wasting money finding the advertised
"miracle" solution.

The same apply for the "Not enough" situations.

In my last post I mentionned "easier said than done",
it was the "how much is too much" I was referring to.
It depend on each individual life experience.

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I dissagree

Happiness is much deeper then all that. It has nothing to do with what we have but mostly on our perspective of life and how we choose to live it. So many people dont have their health, don't have money, and are not head over heels for someone, but they can still find beauty in everything and rejoice about it. True happiness is a state of being which makes life so much more wonderful to live.
 

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Miss Maria said:
Happiness is much deeper then all that. It has nothing to do with what we have but mostly on our perspective of life and how we choose to live it. So many people dont have their health, don't have money, and are not head over heels for someone, but they can still find beauty in everything and rejoice about it. True happiness is a state of being which makes life so much more wonderful to live.

Miss Maria, I agree.

For example, a baby can have no money but still be happy.
A vegetative-state person (in coma) can also be happy.
A lonely widow, ... But, through all there entire life?

True, it is much complex but still "Nomen est Omen".

I find this thread very interesting. Thanks GG for broughting
this subject up and also for the book.

To clarify a bit:
money -> material possesion (house,car,food,clothes,toys,etc...).

vodka236
 
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To be happy, you have to stay away from unhappy people. If unhappy people see you happy then they will find ways to make you unhappy.
 

General Gonad

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Zi French have a way with wordzzz!!!

raver said:
What are you most looking forward to in these retirement years?"

"A penis," replied Madame deGaulle.

A huge hush fell over the table. Everyone heard her answer...and
no one knew what to say next.

Finally, Le Grand Charles leaned over to his wife and said,
"Ma cherie, I believe zee Americans pronounce zat word, 'appiness."


RALFMAO!!!!:D :D :D

GG
 

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Hello my sweet children,

Happiness is the return of GG to the green board with all his love. :eek:

ahhhhhh,

Korbel
 

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It is amazing how this thread is really bringing out, once more, the difference between how most men and most women think.
The materialist and the emotionalist.
I will take side with the women:rolleyes:

I will add that to depend on others to be happy is bound not to work but it is a great way to be happy.
If you can find happiness on your own, in any other ways than the return affection or interest of others towards you, than you are blessed.

Vive la France:D
 

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Big Daddy said:
To be happy, you have to stay away from unhappy people. If unhappy people see you happy then they will find ways to make you unhappy.


I totally agree with you.

For me, Happiness is very much related to who I choose to surround yourself with.

Happiness to me, is also freedom, Giving, learning, sharing and exchanging.

A huge part of happiness is a result of letting go of our need of acceptance and the strong influence it sometimes has on the choices we make or how we live our life. On a lot of different levels. Not sure if the way I am explaining it makes sense but I find that when I was able to start doing this, happiness suddenly got a lot easier to feel.
 
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