The advantage of money

Catalina Rose · Feb 3, 2008

Hello everyone,

I`ve been mulling over a question I cant quite answer on my own and would like a bit of help. My question is this, women are often stereotyped as being gold diggers, going after men just for their money but we never seem to hear this about men. If a guy knew that a girl was an escort yet stayed with her anyway and said the same old lines of eternal love and etc Is he with her just for money? For those of you with escort girlfriends, is it a turn on or off and does the fact she can earn money using her body act as incentive to stay with her? Would you fall in love with an escort?

MarathonMan · Feb 3, 2008

The male version of GOLD DIGGERS is PIMP!!!!!!

I had an affair with an escort, what a mistake! a real nightmare. Money was her vice. Escorts can't quite their job because it's easy money and they are money addicted. Most of them have lost the commun sens.

Personnaly, I just can't imagine my girlfriend beeing an escort. When you're really in love with someone you hope all the best for her....beeing an escort is not really the best situation for a Woman.

Catalina Rose · Feb 4, 2008

MarathonMan said:
The male version of GOLD DIGGERS is PIMP!!!!!!

I had an affair with an escort, what a mistake! a real nightmare. Money was her vice. Escorts can't quite their job because it's easy money and they are money addicted. Most of them have lost the commun sens.

Personnaly, I just can't imagine my girlfriend beeing an escort. When you're really in love with someone you hope all the best for her....beeing an escort is not really the best situation for a Woman.

Hmm... sorry to hear you had a bad experience but I think your really generalizing here, all escorts are not the same. For instance not only do I work as an sp but I have a part time job as well, just to make sure I keep it real (and tax purposes

I dont think all women are money addicted as you put it. Money cannot buy health, happiness or love....some of us even prefer kraft dinner to filet mignon, depends on the girl I suppose.

MarathonMan · Feb 4, 2008

There's always exception...one in a million. People are different that's quite an evidence. Money cannot buy health, happyness or love but it's a good patch!

My question is: Do you think you can go back to your normal life and live with your part time job???

Catalina Rose · Feb 4, 2008

I did it before, I did not work and lived off the regular job (and kraft dinner) Sure it was a little tough at first but you adapt quickly, no renting movies, spending time with your cats while your friends are clubbing and no buying clothes all the time... you cut it down to the bare essentials...thats all. Once Im finished with school I plan to do it again

Ten Steps · Feb 4, 2008

Catalina, nice topic and thanks for sharing your intimate point of view.

Catalina Rose said:
If a guy knew that a girl was an escort yet stayed with her anyway and said the same old lines of eternal love and etc Is he with her just for money?

I presume if there is any form of doubt in his authenticity, it can only be answered through his actions. If he expects/relies the SP to shoulder most of his expenses, how extravagant he is in spending her money, does he show restraint or is demanding, does he make an effort to earn himself, does he appreciate the hardship you previously had and can he live the same way?

If he can live the way you did, makes the effort to earn himself (perhaps also in school), balance things the way you do, and shows constant concern for your well-being, then I'd say his intentions are not money driven.

BTW, the Kraft dinner, staying with the cats, sticking to the essentials, is very admirable indeed and I truly hope you remain unjaded. Best of luck, Catalina!

happygolucky · Feb 4, 2008

Since you asked...... it totally depends on the SP. I believe all women are different. I have dated a few women that were also dating other men at the same time. While I have not yet dated a SP, I know that at least one of my ex's was sleeping with multiple partners. Everything was out in the open between us and she always wanted to go Dutch on dates. My heart was very guarded around her, but the sex was just too good to pass up.

I have never dated for money or had a woman pay for me. Almost all of the time I will pay for both of us regardless of what her income is.

I think the only reason not to date a SP, if she wants you to remain faithful, while she is working....... if you could work out some kind of agreement, dating a SP, could be a good thing.

I guess, in the end, the only real answer to your question is, I am trying to keep a open mind to all possibilities and I really don't know what I would do for sure.

EagerBeaver · Feb 4, 2008

Geez Lexi, you never heard of the term "Sugar Mama"?

Are you now fitting that profile for someone?

BTW, those Kraft macaroni and cheese dinners are meant for college students and others your age living on a budget, but they are not good food for you to be eating. I hope you have weaned off that diet. Get a head of romaine lettuce and some chicken breasts and make some chicken Caesar salads and eat canned tunafish for dinner. Much better than Kraft for the budget diner (or even the non budget diner).

Catalina Rose · Feb 4, 2008

I think you have to be really naive to let someone control you and your money, or young which is why we hear so many stories of 17 and 18 year old girls being pimped out. The pimps use the simple method of psychological reactance, the same concept as salespeople (the clever ones) at the beginning of the realationship they soften the way they make requests of the girl as to prevent refusal to comply by preserving the appearence of choice. We often hear of pimps showering their girlfriend with presents when they first meet which is known as pregiving for example a man gives a girl a Tiffanys Bracelet and then asks her to work, after receiving the gift the victim finds it hard to turn away without giving something in return. Then the gifts stop and the girl is already caught in a tendency to comply due to the amounting pressure from the pimp; And so the cycle begins.

and eager beaver I do eat alot of salad (lettuce is cheap!) and I even bought a bally total fitness ball at walmart (where the prices rollback everyday)... health here I come!

mack · Feb 4, 2008

This is a great thread. The only reason I might think twice before dating an SP (provided there was truly a special connection of course) would be my likely inability to stop worrying for her every night when she went out to meet strangers. That could be pretty grueling I'd imagine.

wasisname · Feb 4, 2008

I would go out with an escort, when you are at the bottom of the social ladder, your standards go down quite a bit. Assuming she does have a pulse and was not born a man, standards go down, but you have to retain some.

So I guess if you were to use me as an example, as an SP, the guys you want, you can't get, and the guys you can get, you don't want.

Catalina Rose said:
and eager beaver I do eat alot of salad (lettuce is cheap!)

This however would be unacceptable. Silly rabbit, Salad is not food, salad is a promissory note for food. When you see a salad you know food is coming, "Oh look at the salad, that means the steak will soon be here".

Also you can't make friends with Salad.

Also by calorie, lettuce is brutal expensive, cheap filler, not cheap fuel.

Regular Guy · Feb 4, 2008

Sure it is!

Catalina Rose said:
Hello everyone,

I`ve been mulling over a question I cant quite answer on my own and would like a bit of help. My question is this, women are often stereotyped as being gold diggers, going after men just for their money but we never seem to hear this about men. If a guy knew that a girl was an escort yet stayed with her anyway and said the same old lines of eternal love and etc Is he with her just for money? For those of you with escort girlfriends, is it a turn on or off and does the fact she can earn money using her body act as incentive to stay with her? Would you fall in love with an escort?

First off, yes there are male gold diggers. Second, if they are sucking your blood then yes they are male gold diggers. If they don't really need you financially but are sticking anyway then count yourself lucky. Time then to look for the other important elements of a relationship.

But I think you really know the answer to the question you are asking in that you have shown that you have a very good understanding of what a relationship entails from your answer to a similar thread on the blue board. A true bond and relationship is mostly characterized by exclusivity. We are exclusive to each other; We share the best we have to offer, our most intimate selves. We are inclusive in that we are also most often marrying friends and family together and we do this in a climate of character and integrity to get us through the tough times. The true bond goes deep and more so with history. It is not a shallow walk in the park for the faint of heart.

Sure it is possible to fall in love and marry an escort. Depends on her character.

naughtylady · Feb 4, 2008

OK so here is my off the wall, silly mood take:

I need a sugar-daddy so I can give up SPing and afford a boy-toy to play with !!!

On a more serious note, we are all human and we are all susceptible to all the human needs and weaknesses for desire for love and connection.

Ronnie,
Naughtylady

Regular Guy · Feb 4, 2008

On a more serious note, we are all human and we are all susceptible to all the human needs and weaknesses for desire for love and connection.

Well Ronnie that gives rise to a more interesting question: How much of this translates into sp'ing?

Catalina Rose · Feb 5, 2008

Regular Guy said:
Well Ronnie that gives rise to a more interesting question: How much of this translates into sp'ing?

A lot of what ronnie said translates into sp`ing, when you see an sp you may not have love but you have a temporary connection with another person which partially fills the need for affection, socialization, entertainment, fun, pleasure, pleasure and well more pleasure. The great thing about desires and emotions although they can come on strong they can be controlled by most people so that they dont become a weakness, but like everything in life there will always be the other side that opens themselves so completley they become convinced that they are in love with an sp or vice versa but of course love is often mistaken for obsession or infatuation.

Regular Guy · Feb 5, 2008

Catalina Rose said:
A lot of what ronnie said translates into sp`ing, when you see an sp you may not have love but you have a temporary connection with another person which partially fills the need for affection, socialization, entertainment, fun, pleasure, pleasure and well more pleasure. The great thing about desires and emotions although they can come on strong they can be controlled by most people so that they dont become a weakness, but like everything in life there will always be the other side that opens themselves so completly they become convinced that they are in love with an sp or vice versa but of course love is often mistaken for obsession or infatuation.

Yes I suppose that would be looking at it from the client's point of view. But does the "

temporary connection with another person which partially fills the need for affection, socialization, entertainment, fun, pleasure, pleasure and well more pleasure

also hold true for the sp? I am speaking here for sp's who don't have boyfriends, of course, and who fill their need through sp'ing.

rumpleforeskiin · Feb 5, 2008

Catalina Rose said:
A lot of what ronnie said translates into sp`ing, when you see an sp you may not have love but you have a temporary connection with another person which partially fills the need for affection, socialization, entertainment, fun, pleasure, pleasure and well more pleasure. The great thing about desires and emotions although they can come on strong they can be controlled by most people so that they dont become a weakness, but like everything in life there will always be the other side that opens themselves so completley they become convinced that they are in love with an sp or vice versa but of course love is often mistaken for obsession or infatuation.

Interesting. You're quite wise for someone so young, Lexi. It's quite true, whether meeting an SP once for just a couple of hours or develop a regular relationship (paid or otherwise), the human connection part is what I find the most rewarding and enjoyable.

I love to travel and became, as you know, quite close to an SP with whom I traveled three times, totaling over three weeks. We got to know each other very well and really let our guards down. She's retired now and 1000s of miles from Montreal. We no longer have a sexual relationship, but we're still quite close and speak several times a week.

The sex part is always fun, but the connection, even in the short term, is often truly rewarding. I'm still in search of someone with whom I might travel again as that was truly fabulous fun.

rumpleforeskiin · Feb 5, 2008

What isn't often discussed is that SPs don't really make a lot of money, considering...

1. OK, yes, they do make a lot of money for a job that doesn't require much experience, intelligence, or education. And the per hour wage is quite good.

2. The income is limited by the fact that the career is limited to as long as the girl's looks allow her remain appealing..

3. The income is limited by the fact that one can only handle so many calls per day/week before the job takes a huge emotional toll.

4. A woman can make more money in a straight job with an education and profession.

My sense is that SPing only works for someone whose educational potential is limited or for someone using it as a temporary form of income while going through school.

borsalino17 · Feb 5, 2008

sp is a mean to and end

way to get tru in some cases to another life/job

beautydigger · Feb 5, 2008

In the event of a deep recession, or better yet a depression, there will not be enough rich guys to go around for all the women. What will it be like when women no longer are able to base relationships on money? What will they seek in a man when money is not a issue? It will not be the men that worship spirituality instead of money. Will the non- rich, good-looking, character conscience, better gene pool type men get their formidable mate, … instead of all the hot women that are with rich ugly bastards that would sell their own mother? Probably not. I think they will seek out other women. The SP industry will be flooded with hot women, driving the price very low. I’ve been saving my money.

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