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    I recently entered into a 'sugardaddy' type arrangement for the first time. It didn't go too well. I bought her moderate presents (nothing too crazy), spent a lot of money travelling, going out with her, etc. Anyway it was an expensive trip and when it was time to get intimate, she had to leave early. Two nights in a row, same thing. Then the last night, she stood me up. It was something casual, but still to come all that way just to get rejected felt really shitty.

    I then went into the usual routine, MP's and SC's. But it didn't do anything for me. I think I'm retiring from the hobby. Not worth feeling like crap. Got to look for women my age and stop trying to get these young chicks that are out of my league. This will probably be my last trip to Montreal. If I do continue to hobby, it'll be in my hometown and I won't invest a lot of time and money in it. It's not worth it to me. All the best of luck to everyone on this board.

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    IMO you're better off, I wouldnt want to be a sugar daddy

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    IMHO, there's a difference between a "sugar daddy" and a "hobbyist".

    The "sugar daddy" wants more than the intimate relation, way more. Altrough possible, the chances of a 20yo cutie falling for an older man are slim and, in some way, this is what the "sugar daddy" wants: feel appreciated and certainly not feeling like he's paying for sex! As I said, not many younger ladies will want sex with an older man just because they like sex with older man.

    On the other hand, the "hobbyist", while somehow wanting a human contact, or he would do it with his hands or a doll, the "hobbyist" accepts and even prefer the short term romance to the "big crush". Being appreciated is also important to the hobbyist but he understand this could be only an act from the lady and overall, it's a business relation with no strings attached, no hidden agenda, and he isn't offended by it.

    The saying "paying her to leave" is more true to the "hobbyist" than for the "sugar daddy". Not that some serious friendship or even love relations are impossible between a lady and a "hobbyist", they can happen but, for the "sugar daddy" these type of relations are the base of the experience, the main goal while, for the "hobbyist", this isn't a must, just something that can happen.

    This is how I see it. Maybe you should stick to "hobbying" instead of trying to be a "sugar daddy"?

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    Depending on your style, habits, and average monthly (or annual) SP-spend, sometimes the sugar-daddy thing can be a better option. I have tried this a few times in the past with mixed results. Usually what ends it for me is the evolution of the SP in question and development of a "relationship". When you no longer look forward to seeing her, it's time to move on.

    The best experience lasted about 18 months and when I think of all the long weekends, full nights, and hundreds of times I banged the everloving shit out of her, I feel like I got more than my money's worth, many times over.

    Link -- sorry for what happened to you. That's not the way it's supposed to go down. Maybe you are not cut out for being a sugardaddy and cutting your losses sounds like the best thing for you to do.

    BD

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    Sugar daddy? Unfortunately, looks like you were played as a sugar chump. Sorry it didn't work out, but good to see that you are letting go before it gets even more expensive.

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    Quote Originally Posted by link72
    I recently entered into a 'sugardaddy' type arrangement for the first time.
    Sugar attracts all sorts of flies.

    GG
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    Learning Experience

    I had a bad feeling about it before I left. I figured there was a good chance it wouldn't work out, but I knew I would find other avenues. I wasn't traumatized by the situation, but I was hoping it would work out for the better. I actually was well under budget because I didn't give her any money. I still got some action, just elsewhere. I just think I'm going to do more stuff locally and not put all my eggs in one basket, far away.

    The more I think about it, it is probably for the better. The more I learned about her, the more it didn't feel right. I got out clean, relatively little damage. I'll chalk it up as a learning experience. Thanks to most of you that actually have something positive to say.

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    Yes, I kept every promise to her. I gave her some presents and took her shopping. Took her to the casino, gave her money to play with. Of course she won. I made back my money and what I gave her so I was even. I told her I'd pay her at the end and she had no reason to doubt me. She pulled out, so she got nothing. It was fun while we were out. I bought the presents in advance, so I gave them to her right away. I didn't want to hold them over her head because I didn't think it was right to do so. There was also a moment where she broke down and was crying over some personal issues. I could have used this to my advantage but it didn't feel right for me to do so. So, it just didn't happen the way I thought it would. I'm always respectful. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't.

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    Quote Originally Posted by link72
    I recently entered into a 'sugardaddy' type arrangement for the first time. It didn't go too well. I bought her moderate presents (nothing too crazy), spent a lot of money travelling, going out with her, etc. Anyway it was an expensive trip and when it was time to get intimate, she had to leave early. Two nights in a row, same thing. Then the last night, she stood me up. It was something casual, but still to come all that way just to get rejected felt really shitty.

    I then went into the usual routine, MP's and SC's. But it didn't do anything for me. I think I'm retiring from the hobby. Not worth feeling like crap. Got to look for women my age and stop trying to get these young chicks that are out of my league. This will probably be my last trip to Montreal. If I do continue to hobby, it'll be in my hometown and I won't invest a lot of time and money in it. It's not worth it to me. All the best of luck to everyone on this board.
    Hello Link72,

    I have never been one but I imagine many "sugar daddys" get bled dry before the "lady" takes off. You were lucky.

    Good luck,

    Korbel
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    I would never try sugar daddy type arrangement. I think it is hit-or-miss type of arrangement. It is glorified internet based dating with all of the typical dating problems.

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