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    From the National Post - great article about the sex trade

    Name your price

    *John Moore, National Post *Published: Friday, March 28, 2008


    An actor friend of mine once told me he was asked to perform oral sex on a
    director to secure a supporting role in a movie. "Did you do it?" I asked.
    "Sure why not," he responded, "I do it for free-- why wouldn't I do it for
    $50,000?"

    Just another unseemly Hollywood anecdote to some. But to those of us
    inclined to see the world through an economic lens, it is an object lesson
    in how sex is just another commodity. Like most financial instruments, it
    has its amateur and professional traders.

    We know sex has intrinsic value because it is universally coveted (al-though
    more by men than by women). We fail to identify the transactional nature of
    everyday coupling only because of the ineffable and unquanitifiable nature
    of the major currencies: youth, power and beauty. Those who have these
    qualities in abundance have little trouble obtaining gratification. If you
    lack in all of these areas, you can either do without, work exceedingly hard
    (begging, serial dating) or use the most commonly accepted currency there
    is, money.

    "Jade" is a thirty-something university-educated mother of two young teens
    living in southern Ontario. She provides sexual services for $200 an hour.
    Jade started out in the escort business as a driver. Eight years ago, her
    agency came up short a girl at a gathering of plastic surgeons. "I ended up
    crossing the line into escorting and I really liked it," she says.

    Jade makes eight calls a week and spends the rest of her time doing
    volunteer work and raising her daughters. She pays taxes on her earnings and
    calls herself "a soccer mom." When people ask what she does for a living she
    tells them she works for CSIS. She doesn't feel dirty. No client has ever
    beaten her up. She's never had to dress up as a school girl or wear a ball
    gag. She always practises safe sex and most of her clients aren't dirty old
    men. "Even the dirty old men have an interesting aspect to them," she
    laughs. Beyond businessmen, athletes and politicians, there are also clients
    who are aged or have disabilities that would make them completely
    unmarketable to regular partners.

    So if Jade doesn't feel demeaned by her paid couplings, surely her clients
    must live in a permanent state of shame, right?

    There's no evidence of that. Seventy-five per cent of them are regulars who
    schedule weekly or monthly appointments.

    Sex for pay is such a sober exercise that there are Web sites where escorts
    are reviewed like restaurants. The reviews usually focus less on the sex act
    and more on attitude, punctuality, conversation and even cuddling. A client
    of Adrian, a male escort in Toronto gushes "I just want to praise this young
    man for his excellence." ("The Tiramisu is not to be missed!")

    Most of the johns describe themselves as businessmen who regard hiring a
    sexual partner as a practical means of avoiding the time-wasting,
    emotionally precarious and often futile practice of working the bars in the
    vague hope of hooking up. In place of sloppy pick up lines, leaden
    conversation, booze-greased couplings and regret filled departures, they
    order up sex like Chinese food. The money assures the act is scheduled to
    the hour and, most importantly, that both parties are willing and
    enthusiastic. I know of one man who actually included weekly escort visits
    as a line item in his retirement plan. It sure beats lawn bowling fees.

    The Eliot Spitzer scandal has made it clear that mainstream society still
    regards sex for pay as a shadowy world of furtive and guilt-ridden
    encounters between desperate men and the damaged boys and girls they
    exploit. While that is most certainly true of street prostitution, it's
    thought that the street represents only a small fraction of the industry.
    Escorting, on the other hand, thrives in homes and hotels all around us, as
    men and women trade intimacies for hard currency with little evident
    Freudian or Catholic collateral damage.

    It's hard for some to imagine people performing sex acts the way accountants
    do taxes (and certainly, the former would be much more interesting to
    watch). But for millennia, we have thought nothing of applying the consumer
    template to food, water and shelter. We regard these life supporting
    essentials as something to be bartered for. Why the higher standard for sex?

    The problem would seem to be that few people want to be seen to be paying
    for something they believe should be available for free.

    But as a comedian once observed, "You only think you've never paid for it."

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    Well... Am I the only one (with a gentleman who wrote me privately) who thinks this article is a good step towards a better acceptance and understanding of SPs and clients?

    I was so enthusiastic when I read it! I'm surprised to see that nobody shares my feeling.

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    I agree, good article, thankls for poiting it out!

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    Thanks to both of you for letting me know that I'm not so lonely after all.

    I'm glad you liked it too!

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    Quote Originally Posted by La Femme
    Thanks to both of you for letting me know that I'm not so lonely after all.

    I'm glad you liked it too!
    The writer missed a point

    But for millennia, we have thought nothing of applying the consumer
    template to food, water and shelter. We regard these life supporting
    essentials as something to be bartered for. Why the higher standard for sex?
    Marriage until quite recently was very much transactional in nature, particularly among those who had money, and those who did not.

    I've a question though. Is this true? (See "my" other thread about men spreading their seed far afield)

    We know sex has intrinsic value because it is universally coveted (al-though
    more by men than by women).
    You are cordially invited to toss my salad. There's an app for that!

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    Quote Originally Posted by YouVantOption
    The writer missed a point

    Marriage until quite recently was very much transactional in nature, particularly among those who had money, and those who did not.
    I believe it was Karl Marx who observed that the fundamental nature of all human relationships is economic.

    Basically, women trade sex for economic advantage. Husbands are judged by their ability to provide economic stability. Boyfriends are expected to pay for dates and gifts as a sign they value their female companions, and her friends understand that she is not giving away her sexual favours for nothing.

    In the modern world where women work and share expenses etc. the picture is quite often blurred, but if you look closely at couples you know, the pattern is still observable.

    The sex trade merely boils this down to the essentials - money for sex - period.

    sinbad

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    Quote Originally Posted by YouVantOption
    Marriage until quite recently was very much transactional in nature, particularly among those who had money, and those who did not.
    I believe the transaction in marriage was not cash for sex, however; it was more money/food/protection for housekeeping/children raising, as having children was the common way to ensure somebody would take care of you when you'd get old.
    And also a way to join families to increase your chances of survival/amount of land/political power...
    o . o . b . e

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