I've set up this poll to see what everybody thinks is the maximum acceptable age gap between men and women in a relationship in our society.
The question was raised at a dinner party that I attended last night. I mostly kept my mouth shut because nobody knows that I hobby in places like Montreal, Germany, Thailand and Costa Rica. I couldn't just say that I am rarely attracted to women my own age (almost 40), and I can get an hour of hot sex with a pretty 20 year old in Costa Rica for less than the price of 2 movie tickets, popcorn, candy and soda here in the U.S.
I was the only single guy at the party, and the hosts had invited one single woman who I found to be extremely unattractive, both physically and personality-wise. She was a me-me-me type of conversationalist, and I was bored by the end of the first course. But she was single and 33, so I was supposed to be interested. Probably just because she's single and a woman
There were a few interesting aspects to the dinner conversation last night. First was a mention of the Elliot Spitzer scandal. The early 40s wife of a good friend of mine said that the worst part of the affair was that Spitzer was having sex with a women less than half his age.
Now I thought that Spitzer was stupid. Not for seeing an SP but for allowing himself to be caught so easily. I actually respected his choice of SPs. She was ridiculously expensive, but at least she was hot. I would have had much less respect for him if he had been caught having an affair with a mediocre looking woman his wife's age
After her comments about Spitzer, she expanded on her idea of an acceptable age gap in relationships. She said that anything more than 5 years was just not right. That is the man being more than 5 years older than the woman was wrong. Most of the couples at the table readily agreed. Or at least the wives did. The husbands just kind of nodded and shrugged.
The only good thing to come out of this was that none of the women at the party expected me to hook up with the 33 year old single woman after I volunteered my age
I've never been one to really care about age differences. While I haven't been in a relationship for almost 7 years now, in the past I've dated women from 5 years older than me down to 12 years younger than me. I've always felt that attraction is the necessary first step to a relationship for men. I'm not going to want to be in a relationship with somebody I'm not attracted to, and I feel no sense of desperation to be in a relationship just to say that I am.
I spend a lot of time traveling for work and the hobby to other countries, and I definitely see more couples overseas with a large difference in ages. It's not looked down upon so much in many countries. One of the happiest couples I know live in Southeast Asia. The husband (an American) is 55 years old and his wife (Asian) of 10 years is 35 years old. A twenty year gap, and they're doing great. They are both athletic and constantly doing outdoor activities, so maybe that helps.
So anyway, let us know what you think.