I was just sitting there the other day and thinking back to some of the best times I`ve had with some very nice and fun people. I was very lucky as a companion to always meet very courteous and nice people. I was also very lucky to often repeat those agreable times with the same people which over time turned out to be even more relaxed and enjoyable times due to the knowledge we developped of each other, body and mind.
Here`s a little more about the type of meetings I like. The time spent with a mate doesn`t have to be long but it has to be intense and passionate in a fun way. I am very liberated and feel good about myself and my sexuality. Those are qualities I also enjoy in a partner even if it`s only a short term ``relationship``. Without getting too deep into details, I love sharing, I love chemistry, intensity, I long for giving and receiving. To me the whole thing is about ``us`` at that moment. The more intense it gets the better. The more my partner participates in our play, the more I am willing to participate and drop bundaries.
Now that is just me, intense, passinate, open, liberated and enjoying every single moments of it.
While I was reminiscing those good times, I also remembered the other times where my mate didn`t seem so open, so receptive, sometimes almost unwilling to participate in any way. I`ve heard of frigide women but are there such beings as frigide men? Or is it something else, something I do not understand perhaps. All I kept thinking to myself is maybe they were affraid of me or maybe they were so stuned they couldn`t move anymore. Once again, without getting to deep into details, I`ve seen men and women alike who would just lay flat on their back and stare at the ceiling the whole time. What was going on in their mind? Were they shy? Uncomfortable? Did they expect me to pull off some new trick to impress them? What is it?
Now I am asking a ``hobbyist`s`` point of view. How do you behave during a meeting? What is a perfect encounter for you? Do you participate or do you just expect things to happen?
Oh, and if you ever wonder, the day I invested money into a meeting with a companion (oh yes I did!!) well, I was somewhere between option 1 and 2.