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    Ten Things Science Says Will Make You Happy

    Ten Things Science Says Will Make You Happy

    from: http://www.alternet.org/healthwellne...y/?page=entire


    In the last few years, psychologists and researchers have been digging up hard data on a question previously left to philosophers: What makes us happy? Researchers like the father-son team Ed Diener and Robert Biswas-Diener, Stanford psychologist Sonja Lyubomirsky, and ethicist Stephen Post have studied people all over the world to find out how things like money, attitude, culture, memory, health, altruism, and our day-to-day habits affect our well-being. The emerging field of positive psychology is bursting with new findings that suggest your actions can have a significant effect on your happiness and satisfaction with life. Here are 10 scientifically proven strategies for getting happy.

    1. Savor Everyday Moments
    Pause now and then to smell a rose or watch children at play. Study participants who took time to “savor” ordinary events that they normally hurried through, or to think back on pleasant moments from their day, “showed significant increases in happiness and reductions in depression,” says psychologist Sonja Lyubomirsky.

    2. Avoid Comparisons
    While keeping up with the Joneses is part of American culture, comparing ourselves with others can be damaging to happiness and self-esteem. Instead of comparing ourselves to others, focusing on our own personal achievement leads to greater satisfaction, according to Lyubomirsky.

    3. Put Money Low on the List
    People who put money high on their priority list are more at risk for depression, anxiety, and low self-esteem, according to researchers Tim Kasser and Richard Ryan. Their findings hold true across nations and cultures. “The more we seek satisfactions in material goods, the less we find them there,” Ryan says. “The satisfaction has a short half-life -- it’s very fleeting.” Money-seekers also score lower on tests of vitality and self-actualization.

    4. Have Meaningful Goals
    “People who strive for something significant, whether it’s learning a new craft or raising moral children, are far happier than those who don’t have strong dreams or aspirations,” say Ed Diener and Robert Biswas-Diener. “As humans, we actually require a sense of meaning to thrive.” Harvard’s resident happiness professor, Tal Ben-Shahar, agrees, “Happiness lies at the intersection between pleasure and meaning. Whether at work or at home, the goal is to engage in activities that are both personally significant and enjoyable.”

    5. Take Initiative at Work
    How happy you are at work depends in part on how much initiative you take. Researcher Amy Wrzesniewski says that when we express creativity, help others, suggest improvements, or do additional tasks on the job, we make our work more rewarding and feel more in control.

    6. Make Friends, Treasure Family
    Happier people tend to have good families, friends, and supportive relationships, say Diener and Biswas-Diener. But it’s not enough to be the life of the party if you’re surrounded by shallow acquaintances. “We don’t just need relationships, we need close ones” that involve understanding and caring.

    7. Smile Even When You Don’t Feel Like It
    It sounds simple, but it works. “Happy people…see possibilities, opportunities, and success. When they think of the future, they are optimistic, and when they review the past, they tend to savor the high points,” say Diener and Biswas-Diener. Even if you weren’t born looking at the glass as half-full, with practice, a positive outlook can become a habit.

    8. Say Thank You Like You Mean It
    People who keep gratitude journals on a weekly basis are healthier, more optimistic, and more likely to make progress toward achieving personal goals, according to author Robert Emmons. Research by Martin Seligman, founder of positive psychology, revealed that people who write “gratitude letters” to someone who made a difference in their lives score higher on happiness, and lower on depression -- and the effect lasts for weeks.

    9. Get Out and Exercise
    A Duke University study shows that exercise may be just as effective as drugs in treating depression, without all the side effects and expense. Other research shows that in addition to health benefits, regular exercise offers a sense of accomplishment and opportunity for social interaction, releases feel-good endorphins, and boosts self-esteem.

    10. Give It Away, Give It Away Now!
    Make altruism and giving part of your life, and be purposeful about it. Researcher Stephen Post says helping a neighbor, volunteering, or donating goods and services results in a “helper’s high,” and you get more health benefits than you would from exercise or quitting smoking. Listening to a friend, passing on your skills, celebrating others’ successes, and forgiveness also contribute to happiness, he says. Researcher Elizabeth Dunn found that those who spend money on others reported much greater happiness than those who spend it on themselves.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Agrippa
    Ten Things Science Says Will Make You Happy

    [INDENT]from: http://www.alternet.org/healthwellne...y/?page=entire

    10. Give It Away, Give It Away Now!
    Make altruism and giving part of your life, and be purposeful about it.
    Hello Agrippa,

    Please send this one to all the escorts in Montreal, especially Lilly Lombard, Maria Divina, and Michelle of MSC...along with detailed instructions on all of my sexual preferences and quirks on the menu I will provide...lol.

    Ready Baby,

    Merlot
    Last edited by Merlot; 12-30-2008 at 02:03 AM.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Merlot
    Hello Agrippa,

    Please send this one to all the escorts in Montreal, especially Lilly Lombard, Maria Divina, and Michelle of MSC...along with detailed instructions on all of my sexual preferences and quirks...lol.

    Ready Baby,

    Merlot
    And how is it that Agrippa knows all your sexual preferences and quirks in detail? Is there something you want to tell us? C'mon you two...we won't judge you!


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    Quote Originally Posted by Merlot
    Hello Agrippa,

    Please send this one to all the escorts in Montreal, especially Lilly Lombard, Maria Divina, and Michelle of MSC...along with detailed instructions on all of my sexual preferences and quirks...lol.

    Ready Baby,

    Merlot


    Qui ne demande rien n'a rien! Demandez, et vous recevrez...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Techman
    And how is it that Agrippa knows all your sexual preferences and quirks in detail? Is there something you want to tell us? C'mon you two...we won't judge you!
    Trust me I don't.

    I thought that time Merlot got caught at the border with his to-do list taught him not to put those kinds of things in writing.
    Last edited by Agrippa; 12-30-2008 at 01:24 AM.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Lilly Lombard
    Qui ne demande rien n'a rien! Demandez, et vous recevrez...
    Bonjour Lilly,

    Alors, ce sera mon plaisir a demander...et recevez.

    Bisous,

    Merlot
    Last edited by Merlot; 12-30-2008 at 02:41 PM.

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    I believe that these should be the ten commandments of merbites......

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    is it just me, or is it ironic that "put money low on your list" is 3rd???

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    thanks for this

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    The Atlantic - What Makes Us Happy?

    Another article, though rather long, but still worth the read can be found here: The Atlantic Online: What Makes Us Happy?

    It seems that the most salient point is:
    In an interview in the March 2008 newsletter to the Grant Study subjects, Vaillant was asked, “What have you learned from the Grant Study men?” Vaillant’s response: “That the only thing that really matters in life are your relationships to other people.”
    What do you think?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Agrippa
    10. Give It Away, Give It Away Now!
    Make altruism and giving part of your life, and be purposeful about it.
    We all know how generous MERBites are with beautiful young women!
    While they are at it, they get exercise and savor the moment.

    I usually say "thank you" like I mean it afterwards.

    So, 4 out of 10 is pretty good.

    Unfortunately, having found such a good cause for my money, I find myself thinking about money more than previously.
    J Edgar Whoever

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    Exclamation Search for Meaning

    Viktor Frankl's book, Man's Search For Meaning would seem to also reflect what are the visceral issues to happiness in life. I always remember his words that you cannot control how people will act towards you but you can control how you will respond. Happiness is to be found within ourselves not from outside influences like possessions or power.

    So what implications does this have for encounters between SP and client?. Hopefully one can find just a touch more than an exchange of resources between two people. But if if not that, at least be good to each other. I just can't imagine how those who despise those who they deal with must hate themselves inside. And maybe this is the antithesis, the essence of unhappiness.
    Confucius say: Man who take woman into house on side of hill - not on level.

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