I'm a married guy who has been hobbying for a number of years. I don't feel great about that, and have been trying to "get out" before I really screw up my life. I also am a father and have a great career, all of which could be jeopardized if my secret life gets out.
I now realize that, even if I were to quit the hobby for good, there's always the possibility that my past will catch up with me and that I could be faced with a messy divorce. That's not what I want, but I got myself in this situation and have to accept the policy that I'll face the consequences for my choices.
I am thinking more and more that I should have a consultation with a divorce lawyer, just to go over possible worst and best-case scenarios should the unthinkable happen. If nothing else, this might be a very sobering and effective step in getting myself out of a hobby I really have no business in.
The thing is, I have no clue how to find such a lawyer, or the cost of a one-time consultation (I'm guessing up to $500/hour). If anyone has experiences in this domain, or names to suggest, this would be helpful.