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Thread: Are you a sex addict ?

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    Exclamation Are you a sex addict ?

    Self Assessment

    1. Do you keep secrets about your sexual activities from those important to you? Do you lead a double life?
    Yes_____ No_____
    2. Have your desires driven you to have sex in places or with people you would not normally choose?
    Yes_____ No_____
    3. Do you feel that you need more variety or more extreme sexual activities to achieve the same level of excitement or relief?
    Yes_____ No_____
    4. Does your use of printed or Internet pornography occupy large amounts of time and/or jeopardize your significant relationships or employment?
    Yes_____ No_____
    5. Does each new relationship continue to have the same destructive patterns which prompted you to leave the last relationship?
    Yes_____ No_____
    6. Do you frequently want to get away from a sex partner after having sex? Do you feel remorse, shame, or guilt after a sexual encounter?
    Yes_____ No_____
    7. Have your sexual practices caused you legal problems? Could your sexual practices cause you legal problems?
    Yes_____ No_____
    8. Does your pursuit of sex conflict with your moral standards or interfere with your personal spiritual journey?
    Yes_____ No_____
    9. Do your sexual activities involve coercion, violence, or the threat of disease?
    Yes_____ No_____
    10. Has your sexual behavior ever left you feeling hopeless, alienated from others, or suicidal?
    Yes_____ No_____
    11. Does your preoccupation with sexual fantasies cause problems in any area of your life – even when you do not act out your fantasies?
    Yes_____ No_____
    12. Do you struggle with avoidance of sex when there is no identifiable cause? Does this obsession with sexual avoidance consume you mentally?
    Yes_____ No_____

    If you answered “Yes” to more than one of these questions, we encourage you to seek help:

    * Call the ISO office,
    * Use this- website to find a contact person in your local area,
    * Read additional material about sex addiction, or
    * Attend an SAA meeting to learn more about the twelve-step program and the Fellowship of SAA.


    (c) Sex Addicts Anonymous
    http://www.saa-recovery.org

    Meeting in montreal

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    Last edited by Leyenda; 09-25-2009 at 11:57 PM.
    LA LEYENDA
    Fucked up.

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    I answered yes to 5 questions

    It is, what it is

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    I answered "yes" to 2 questions... Damn!

    um, I mean, great, but if I'm not addicted, why do I have this overwhelming desire to be in Montreal?

    Hi, my name is Voyager, and I'm NOT a sex addict!?
    "No matter how sophisticated you may be, a large granite mountain cannot be denied—it speaks in silence to the very core of your being."
    -Ansel Adams

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    Funny stuff.

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    congrats Bitch

    Lucky fiance

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    Why is it I got blasted when I put up a link to SAA, thinking it would lead to some interesting discussion?

    https://merb.cc/vbulletin/showthread...ghlight=addict

    This thread is what I was hoping for when I published the link...

    I guess it is because I put the link which included the web site and the 12 steps and all that jazz and not just copy and pasted the self-assessment questionnaire...

    Ronnie,
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    they will forget what you did,
    but they will never forget the way you made them feel.

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    Unhappy My score

    Except the porn question, I scored yes in all of them. I'm a Sex Addict.
    Last edited by Leyenda; 10-06-2009 at 07:14 PM.
    LA LEYENDA
    Fucked up.

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    addict?

    I answered yes to quite a few of the questions, sure, but I fail to see how this is a problem in my life. Is it really important that I feel ashamed or guilty about my habits and desires? Am I hurting anyone? I don`t think so.

    I have an addictive personality. Sometimes addictions can destroy relationships and lives. I know that. I`ve seen that with drugs and alcohol in my past.

    But sexuality? In my life, it keeps me sane and balanced, which I can`t say was true for other addictions I`ve had. I go to salons, mostly, when I`m stressed or down and I leave happy, so it works for me.

    If that changes...I still don`t think I`d go to meetings to discuss it, though it may be helpful for some.

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    I used to go there few years back, beleive me the addiction can cause many problems. They are very supportive and can help people to realise they are not alone with this problem and have someone to talk to when they feel they're about to crack. The only problem for me was the constent reference to religion. As an atheist, this was not a valid reference to help me, but it can help some people.

    But I can see the merbist live in peace with what you call "the hobby" and it's perfect that way!

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    [QUOTE=Leyenda;436115]Self Assessment

    1. Do you keep secrets about your sexual activities from those important to you? Do you lead a double life?QUOTE]
    While I'm tempted to criticize the questions as too inclusive (I mean who is going to tell their grandma for instance about their activities?) the subject is important and people have to be aware that the endless pursuit of sexual gratification is no way to live, and means your life is out of balance.

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    Shoot

    I answered yes to only 5. I thought I was doing pretty good Shoot!

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    I took the test!!

    And it occures to me that my results vary on where I am. If I am over seas the number is way to high to post

    If I take the test within a normal home enviroment the numbers come up to six.

    So yes I am a desperate sex addict with no chance of any help when over seas, and just a regular one at home. I think I'll shoot myself in the morning, but only in the foot!!!

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    Libido?

    Doesn't make much sense if you don't differentiate between a higher libido and sexual addiction. Perhaps as some have said it's partly about control. But even that doesn't answer it completely. What is the bench mark? How does one judge fairly. To me the only bench mark one might apply is if one engages in sex with such frequency as to seriously interfere with one's life. Beyond that it simply involves genetics and one's sex drive.
    Confucius say: Man who take woman into house on side of hill - not on level.

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    I am a sex addict.. I have to masturbate or a real one at least once a day.. OK, at least 3 times a day if masturdate..

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    Quote Originally Posted by naughtylady View Post
    Why is it I got blasted when I put up a link to SAA, thinking it would lead to some interesting discussion?

    This thread is what I was hoping for when I published the link...

    I guess it is because I put the link which included the web site and the 12 steps and all that jazz and not just copy and pasted the self-assessment questionnaire...

    Ronnie,
    Naughtylady
    I have no idea but maybe because the website was not paid member for advertising?

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