I originally wrote this post in response to certain subjects brought up in another thread in the "Outcall Escort" forum but didn't want to get in the middle of anything and thought it may be interesting to make a separate thread of this discussion. Here is what I had written:
I will respond to some points brought out in this discussion as I have read a few statements (some which I have read numerous times before) that really bother me. My comments do not address in any way the lady mentioned in this thread or any other, they are my own views and opinions.
Cancellations and no shows/no calls are sometimes part of the business, unfortunately. Even in higher end escorts it can and does happen although usually it's a rare happenstance as calling as early as possible to cancel when a problem arises on our part is very important and a very important rule that the majority of us take to heart.
I myself have been guilty of this on a couple of occasions and I know it may be hard for you to believe but to this day I still feel enormous guilt about those situations. One of my better qualities and probably the one I am most proud of is my empathy towards others, sometimes to the point of excess. I understand very well what you gentlemen go through planning an encounter, choosing someone that you like and the excitement of setting things up and then the actual date itself. To experience a no show/no call IMO has to be the worst possible situation followed by dissapointment in the escort (not as advertized, unkempt, bad attitude or hygiene, etc.).
I have myself hired on a few occasions some escorts and have lived the experiences and also have live the dissapointment of a no show/no call... I don't think I need to echo the feelings that come with a situation like this as I'm sure most of you know or can imagine it very well.
So how can an escort who seems to understand so well what are the ramifications of a no show/no call and who labels herself as being professional still let this happen??? In my experience, some thing just happen and as hard as it is to believe, there are situations that can prevent us from making the said appointment and calling in a timely fashion to cancel.
I've had some wierd stuff happen to me sometimes down to the really simple, almost ridiculous things. Last summer I was indeed stung by a wasp and discovered the very unfortunate way that I was allergic. I went through antiphylactic shock and had problems re-establishing my airways, I spent 3 days in the hospital. On a couple of occasions I honestly did fall asleep or didn't wake up. This is SO frustrating as it is such a stupid reason! I regularly take naps before appointments to be sure I have refreshed and energized. I can be a very deep sleeper and not wake up to an alarm. I have since found a solution to prevent any more disaster from happening this way, thankfully! It took some creative thinking!!! lol Just recently, I had another wierd happenstance. I was cleaning one of my animal's cages and got a small peice of woodchip in my eye. I tried flushing it out myself but couldn't and had to go to a clinic...
One of the things I read commonly about situations why an escort doesn't show is that she took another appointment for whatever reason, the most common one being that she went for more money. Honestly, this infuriates me as it is rarely if ever the reason. I'm not saying that it never happens. I'm saying it is very rare that this is the reason. I myself have never done this and the escorts I have met (save one) have never done this either. There are so many reasons we miss appointments wether we call or not, I really don't understand why the first assumption on the gentleman's part (most often) is that she decided to see someone else for more money or another reason.
Some escorts are known for their total profesionalism and rarely if ever have had a no show/no call situation. I honestly wish I could say the same of myself but I can't and am working on eliminating obtaning such a reputation. This can only be done by my proving myself over time and I very well know that. Although it is not something that has happened very often with me, it still has and that bothers me alone! This is also the big reason that I have instituted my cancellation policy and posted it publicly on my website. I hope it is a fair way to deal with these situations.
This is a business that is different than others in many respects and harder to maintain the same levels of profesionalism than in other fields IMO. I see many references in posts saying that people keep all their appointments, etc. often comparing appoitments to other service professionals such as doctors, lawyers, accountants, etc. Having worked in many different fields of business myself, I admit it is harder to maintain a high level of professionalism in certain aspects of the sex industry.
Understand that a non-sexual appointment is much easier to keep and much less demanding than a sexual one. It's very easy to be 100% punctual in "regular" jobs. You get ready and attend to business. In these situations it is easier to deal with other issues at the same time, dealing with a personal issue or problem, not in top physical shape, etc. In our business, we have to be 100% tip top shape in every way. Not only do we have to appear impeccable down to the smallest detail which can be a very lengthy process, especially for a woman! We have to be in top physical shape and especially top emotional state. We aren't just sharing our professional expertise in an appointment but sharing a lot of ourselves. We have no "breaks" so to speak and are continuously "on" during an appointment making sure to give the best quality entertainment possible. Of course we are normal people too but in such a context my priority is who I am spending time with and giving it my all, my personal life has no business coming out in this type of situation. It is work that is very taxing mentally as we need to be able to separate many different aspects of our lives on a minutes notice and maintain it for long periods of time flawlessly. Long sessions can be very pleasant for many reasons but very taxing as well. Entertaining someone continously for a day or two, being as perfect as you can isn't always easy!
I don't want to come off sounding like I do not like what I do because I do enjoy it very much. I just hope to bring forth a different side to the situations you experience. It's not always as simple as it seems!