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    mad sugar daddy

    i am over 55 single and divoce.i have been looking for a new girl for 5 years but after all i just find a sp ,she was only 27,she was so friendly and receptive that i thougt that she will be the right girl for me.She want at the time i meet her quit the industry and i was so please to help,i give her all she wanted money trip appartement clothes.Whe n she need something i was always ready.I thougt she was in love w ith but she was only in for money,when she find another guy she left me the same week.YOU KNOuK what i spent for her over ,60thousand box during that time.after that i d ont think it is possible to find love with a sp ,they are in in the industry only for money and that it,d ont be be fool to think something else.i think his new friend will be soon in the same situation good luck for him.

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    Sorry to hear what happened Simon. Unfortuneately you learned the hard way that these girls, in the SP/Stripper industry, make a living by manipulating men to give them money. The only time you can start thinking something real is going on, is if they are around, and you are not giving them money. As long as money is involved, it is not real.

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    Thanks Jean. I had a similar experience with a stripper who used to work at Amazones and Bar Vegas (Now works in Gatineau). I thought there was something real going on between us. After about $4,000 I realised she liked me, but as a special customer, not as a real BF. Sometimes you have to learn the hard way. When I think back to that time period, it still disappoints me.

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    I got siilar experience...but I still think that each case must be treated separately...
    If you want to verify the effect of the money, I suggest stop to provide cash: flower, dinner, lunch and so on is ok, but not cash. You will see the effect. You can also speak directly to her, and discuss on how she see your relation, but this is more difficult... Good lucky

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    Yes, as Goya said. Don't give her any cash and you'll see what the real story is. She seems in a place where she's going to leave the biz for a real career, so her mindset may not be one looking to manipulate for money. So far it sounds OK. Just tread carefully and always be honest with yourself.

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    What is the best case scenario? You and the sex worker fall madly in love and live happily even after? Of course, then she will absolutely refuse your money.

    But wait, unless she has some other source of comparable income (extraordinarily unlikely), she has to continue in the sex trade. If you have feelings for her, it is unlikely that you will be able to handle that. Do you have the means and inclination to supply her with enough money to retire?

    Don't expect the arrangement to last longer than a year or two at best. She will leave when she finds someone richer, more generous or younger and more attractive. Can you tolerate infidelity? She may have the same arrangement with another one or two sugardaddys. Can you handle your own jealousy when she is absent without credible explanation?

    The key to such arrangements is realism. Don't expect a faithful girl friend to give up her lifestyle and go to work at a Couch Tard. She may do exactly that one day, but it will be with someone too hot to ever need to pay for sex.

    You will have great sex. She might even be faithful. You can both get tested and dispense with condoms. Saving money, whatever your initial arrangement, is an illusion. There will be emergency loans, accidents, "one of" expenses. Not all, but many SPs are damaged before they even get into the trade. Working in the trade doesn't cure them of drug addiction, bling addiction, mistrust and possibly contempt for men. Many are fabulous actresses. Be prepared to find uncomfortable truths.

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    Quote Originally Posted by JudasPriest View Post
    I have recently met an SP who is currently making the switch between SPing and becoming a chartered accountant. She only does SP once a week, or in the rarest occasion , plus $500 with a courier. She texted me back to thank me for the flowers, again she mentioned nothing about the money. When we met again this past Tuesday she thanked me for the money too, but as she mentioned it wasn't necessary since she viewed me more like a friend and "... not as a client where she has to perform like an actress" (her exact words). I wonder if I should see her again now that I read all this here. You think she may be manipulating me? You think she identified me as an affluent potential sugar daddy and she investing her time to scam me in the long run for a lot more ?

    So why did you pay her? You should have accepted her gift of herself.

    Yes it is possible she is setting you up for the big take. This is very posssible. Remember, paying their fee is cheap compared to alimony and child support. Be aware of SP's that become girl friends and allow you to do them bareback. Child support is the gift that keeps on giving.

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    I don't want to know her name but does she is avertisser on MERB.

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    Anon you pretty well covered it all.

    I would only add that, emotions have no logic , so try not to beat yourself up and over think about all the possible "what if's".

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    I think it's really dangerous to see SP when your single. Cause, as you don't have sentimental relationship with a girl in your life, you will try to find it with them. Then could be the start of an expensive and painful story...

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    Quote Originally Posted by JudasPriest View Post
    I have recently met an SP who is currently making the switch between SPing and becoming a chartered accountant. She only does SP once a week, or in the rarest occasion twice. The other day when I was in town and since she was nice enough to give me her number, I texted her, out of the blue, and asked her if she wants to meet socially just for lunch. To make a long story short, the lunch went on to a stroll in the old port, went on to drinks at the casino and then dinner downtown... only to find myself in her apartment late at night having sex in terms that can be described as beyond GFE. She never mentioned money, I didn't either. So, I felt bad about that and as soon as I made it home I sent her flowers via an on-line flower web site, plus $500 with a courier. She texted me back to thank me for the flowers, again she mentioned nothing about the money. When we met again this past Tuesday she thanked me for the money too, but as she mentioned it wasn't necessary since she viewed me more like a friend and "... not as a client where she has to perform like an actress" (her exact words). I wonder if I should see her again now that I read all this here. You think she may be manipulating me? You think she identified me as an affluent potential sugar daddy and she investing her time to scam me in the long run for a lot more ?

    It is good that simonpaul brought up the subject because we are about the same age and same marital situation so there are lots of lessons learned from folks like him and tons of experience to share. I wouldn't mind having an arrangement with a girl for fun, but it has to be based on honesty and mutual respect for each other's private lives and finances. The more I read what has been written here the more I see that at the end of the day it is the SPs who try to invade the guy's lives instead of the other way around??
    You need to have a little confidence in yourself and your self worth. Sp's are human (at least I believe I have detected a pulse once or twice) after all and are built with the same emotions we all have. If you don't think she would be with you without being paid - she will develop the same opinion. But need to be realistic - could you be with this girl on normal terms? Most relationships don't last beyond 2yrs whether they be SP-Client or not - if she moves on after 18 months it doesn't mean that she wasn't sincere and didn't love you - it just means it is time to move on - just make sure you are financially intact when she moves on. Having expectations about a long term relationship might be a bit out there (low odds - as it is with anyone) - just more so with an SP.
    I have met Sp's that told me of their personal lives and have got into relationships with clients (not me). Some are very sincere and need normal relationships beyond work. She could make $500 for a couple hours work with any client - what she can't get from every client is a personal connection which she seems to have gotten with you. But you have laid the foundation with the $500 gift.

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    thanks everyboby for sharing your experience,for me it his a good life lesson.

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    Quote Originally Posted by man77777 View Post
    I think it's really dangerous to see SP when your single. Cause, as you don't have sentimental relationship with a girl in your life, you will try to find it with them. Then could be the start of an expensive and painful story...
    Still, it depends on your state of mind when you start hobbying. I'm single, have been for years, now. I've been hobbying for about 6. Just recently started seeing incalls and will start outcalls and MPs very soon. I don't think I'd ever get romantic feelings for an SP. If I do, I think I'll have sufficient self-control to let the obvious impossibility of a relationship take over the romantic feelings. Then again, I'm the type of guy who never hit on a barmaid/waitress/cashier or any working woman while she was working. It doesn't feel right, I never feel it's the right place to do this. Maybe this is why I've been single for that long ... And maybe I have the same train of thought when it comes to SPs : she's working right now, I'm her client. Nothing romantic can happen here ...

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    it is easy to talk about self- control but sometimes it is also very easy to lose control,My sefl i was sure that i have the perfect control but it was a illusion.

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    Self control is almost impossible in these situations. Most of us are not attractive to young beautiful women and lose our heads when an apparent miracle occurs and one appears who seems to return our desires.

    My advice is radical and cynical- cheat! See other women right from the start, regardless of your arrangement. Don't become dependent on her.

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