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    Escorts with boyfriends/husbands

    I'm wondering if anyone knows anything about escorts who have long term boyfriends or husbands. Do their partners know what they do for a living? Are they cool with it? I would actually love to find a girl who loved being an escort but could also have a steady relationship, but does this happen? How would you go about asking an escort on a real date if all their dates are of the paid kind?

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    Wink Its hard.....

    Hi tee just to let you know i am an sp and when i have a 3year relationship i had to lie alot.He never reaaly knew what i was doing,we didnt live together so it was not that hard to lie.Its very hard to have a serious relationship with what we are doing.I personally would never do that again as long as i am an sp because i dont wanna lie,y lie because many men wont except it.Some sps have pimps too and that is not a loving relationship,it is only based on money,but they feel that since there sps y not be with a pimp.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tee
    I would actually love to find a girl who loved being an escort but could also have a steady relationship, but does this happen?
    Hi Tee,

    why would you want to do that ? From my experience, sps that don't have bf are more likely to be into you and give you a gfe. Sps with bf sometimes will give you bone-softening responses like; "oh i only do that with my boyfriend..." or "my boyfiriend's the only one who can do that to me", etc .

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    Quote Originally Posted by Zaphyr
    It is so easier to tell the truth and not being judged.
    Zaphyr
    With all due respect, Zaphyr, you cannot assume that by telling your partner the truth he or she will not judge you . It all depends on what kind of partner one has. I'm sure that if a lot of hobbyists would reveal what they do, their partners would flip out . Don't you think?

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    IMHO Zaphyr's situation is much different. She does it for a living (to an extent at least) and generates a revenue from this. We, some of us being engaged men, on top of doing it and cheating our wives, are paying and therefore causing an expense (on top of everything else). It's lot different situation and definitely not as "acceptable" as Zaphyr's or other SPs.

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    Other question

    I have another question:

    "If you find out that the espy you're seeing has a serious bf or husband, will this affect the sexual experience?"

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    Quote Originally Posted by JustaJohn
    I have another question:

    "If you find out that the espy you're seeing has a serious bf or husband, will this affect the sexual experience?"
    I think it does, but I am also very interrested to hear(read) ladies replies...

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    Quote Originally Posted by regnad
    I'm not sure that I agree, CA. I usually ask if there's a significant other and when the answer has been yes, it really hasn't affected the experience. I have met one or two who won't DFK with a client, saving that for home. On the other hand, I've met those without a boyfriend who won't DFK either.

    One of my all time favorites, whom you know better than I do, CA, has a boyfriend and, as she puts it, a stagnant relationship. My encounters with her have been quite passionate, probably more passionate than her relationship at home. She's 27, young for that kind of relationship, works as an SP quite infrequently and my sense is that when we've met that there's been a lot of pent up sexual energy in need of release.
    I very well know who you are talking about, and I must say you are quite right! But I think she is the exception to the rule. Many ladies will "save" something for their partner, and it's totally understandable. Maybe I generalize a bit too much, but most of the time one or two aspects of the client-SP relationship stay on a more "professional" level when a BF exists than not.

    Again, I would love to hear some ladies' opinion here.

    CA

    PS: Sorry readers, but the lady Regnad and I are talking about is to remain unknown and is retired anyway (I think I will send her an email now... LOL). No need to ask by PM, I won't tell.

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    IMHO, saving something for someone = cheating.

    It's like Vince Carter admitting that he did not try his hardest when he was playing for the Raptors. A true professional gives 100% at all times. If you are giving 80%, whether you are a lawyer, a pro athlete, a computer techno geek, or an SP, you are cheating your client and you are not a true professional but a half assed slacker.

    Just my humble opinion and 2 cents worth.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Zaphyr
    Femaleluver:

    Of course many undividuals judge others. My point is that we must communicate well, without judgement to be able to undertand the other one. This requires empathy, the skill to put ourself into the skin of someone else, to be able to feel the same thing AND to understand the other's point of view. Like any other skill, empathy can be improved by practice, which is good to know...

    I think that with a good communication and empathy jealousy and possessivity can hardly exist longer. This is what I do everyday with success.

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    Hi Zaphir , i get the sense through your response that you are probably a very wise, sensitve and thoughtful person. And i agree with you that communication is key and through it you can resolve a lot of problems and misunderstandings. But given that we don't live in a perfect world and not everyone is on the same level in terms of openness of mind, empathy, etc., people do not all react in the same predictable manner when placed under similar situations. In other words, we're all wired somewhat differently so that my point is that sometimes revealing "delicate" information can be a risky endeavour depending on the type of partner one has, potentially even leading to a break-up (or worst... ). These things are not black and white as you know. That said, everyone should take a hard look at themselves in the mirror once in a while.

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    Quote Originally Posted by juzt_a_girl
    If a person views partnership in this way, I guess she/he wouldn't go for the jealous type.
    Yes...if one works as an escort, then choosing a boyfriend who is prone to fits of wild sexual jealousy would probably be a bad idea.

    But that presumes that one is being picky in one's choice of boyfriend. Some women--especially the younger ones--aren't always. These are the gals who never permit themselves to be single for any significant length of time. If they can find themselves a boyfriend they're crazy about and who is suitable for a serious relationship, great; but if not, they'll keep around whatever placeholder-boyfriend they can find for the time being so they don't have to be alone.

    I learned how this works as a frustrated observer, back when I was a bit younger, when I found myself too-frequently pining after young women who seemed: a) to never be "available", while b) always dating guys who seemed to me to be perfect jerks...and who they showed few signs of liking that much themselves. The low point came when a young lady, on whom I had the biggest crush of my life, broke up with her arrogant boyfriend (an event I had waited two years to see happen) over spring break...then managed to take up with my best friend before she even got back to campus. That was the 43rd occasion on which I swore off women (out of approximately 972 to date...I suppose I should just give up and swear off swearing off women ).

    Sorry. I'm done venting past frustrations now. Anyway, my point is that it only stands to reason that revealing one's work to the placeholder-boyfriend, and trying to get him to understand and accept it, might be low on the priority list. It also stands to reason that the sort of woman who is strong and independent-minded enough to be an independent is more likely to be the type who is strong and independent enough to spend significant lengths of time being truly single, holding out for a consort who is fully accepting of her line of work and with whom she can be completely open and honest.

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    SP's boyfriends

    I have been with several different SPs over years who have answered their cell phones and have spoken, in my presence, to their boyfriends (and in one case her fiancé) who didn’t know what she did (as they explained to me) and then when they hung up, launched into sex with me with wild abandon. I never knew exactly what to feel in those situations. On one hand it was a sort of creepy turn-on to see I was getting great sex while the boyfriend was getting handed a line. On the other hand, being a first hand witness to such bald-faced deception is just plain creepy.

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    So Zaphyr, you don`t have sex with your husband for 2 days before you see a client....hopefully for him, you don`t see more than 3 clients a week.
    One of my favourite ladies didn`t have sex with her live in b/f the day before she would see me.....and I felt guilty as hell ....lol
    I believe Zaphyr`s situation is the exception. Most escorts will not tell their boyfriends about their "other life"...especially if they had started a new relationship after getting into the biz.

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    Married or Boyfriend?

    Zaphyr,

    You have me a little confused with your following statements. Are you married or have a boyfriend? Personally to me that would make a big difference.

    Quote Originally Posted by Zaphyr
    Hi Tee,

    for your information I'm an happy, married woman, and he knows everything about this ''job''.

    Quote Originally Posted by Zaphyr
    CoolAmadeus:

    Of course I do that for living, and the situation is different from yours. But my boyfriend knows that many of my clients are good friends; that I have pleasure with most of them; that's really not only for $ or I wouldn't do that.

    Quote Originally Posted by Zaphyr
    JustaJohn:

    I don't think that my sexual performance is determined by my boyfriend existence. It is mostly determined by safety and wheter we click or not. To be safe requires me to use condoms with my boyfriend too: it's just normal for us.
    Lastly,

    I've never been married but I'm pretty sure if I was married I wouldn't be using condoms with my wife, there's too many other choices of birth control out there.

    Take care,

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    who cares?

    in my experience HDHs have more stable relationships
    if u want to seriously go out with an Sp , u should be able to think like a pimp
    u got to be EMPTY... u know what i mean? if not u gone be hurt...maybe
    not in the beginning but also when the sp quits doing it. Believe me I know...

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