Gfe - Ymmv?

Ymmv

While we are on the subjet of GFE service and attitude, what is the deal with YMMV. If a client wanted YMMV, he could get a girlfriend and never know what to expect from one night to the next. What I am looking for is a Service Provider, and I am willing to pay for her service. She as a SP charges me for that service (in advance) and then I spend an hour wondering which services will be offered or excluded. If GFE is advertised, and paid for it should be delivered.....or the exclusions should be listed on the web site in advance.

I am looking forward to doing incall with Celine's agency so at least I don't have the price of a room at risk.

The Beach Guy

Please allow me to disagree and give my 2 cents even if this GFE subject has be revisited many many many times on Merb in the past already.

We are not talking about cars, sound systems, or other electric appliances here. If we were, Yes, an advertised "feature" should be delivered as promised. We are talking about human beings here, and when a girl is advertised as GFE, to me it simply means that she has a GFE attitude most of the times if, and only if, she gets a BFE attitude from her partner. The time she spends with a BFE type client will be highly enjoyable for both.

Like many other guys I am sure, I had the opportunity to speak about this matter with many SPs, and what they told me is very discouraging: Many clients are just not considering the ladies with the respect the deserve, sometime having hygiene problems (and a bad breath IS an hygiene problem by the way), others have attitude problems (like "your just a wh**e"), and the nice guys unfortunately are not being the majority (although that seems to depend on different factors like the agency, whether it's mainly email or last minute phone calls, day or night, LDL vs HDH, locals vs visitors, etc).

Bottom line, please don't expect a GFE just because a lady is advertised as such. DO YOUR PART!

CA

PS: This is not addressed to anyone in particular but to all of us, clients, in general.

To GFE or not...

I totally agree with CoolAmadeus. As he mentioned, the GFE issue was debated several times in other threads before but it seems we always have to redefine this. I don't think this is something we'll reach a consensus on very soon.

As EagerBeaver said it, it also takes time to get close to someone and I don't think also you can reach this during a 1-hr incall. I never go under 2 hrs, even on a first encounter. And contrary to what Zap said, you do have to set the right atmosphere, don't rush things... and brush your teeth . Or it won't work for a reason or another.

Call it what you want and let others call it what they want, including the agency owners who put the GFE label on their SPs, but when dealing with human relationships, it will always be YMMV. It may not be you, it may not be her, it may just be the both of you together (or on a particular occasion). That's what I've learned during my past 20 years of hobbying.

If you find a SP who's a good match and meets or exceeds your expectations, call it a great experience and repeat . Or keep trying to find a better match.

Lion Heart

GFE understood ?

Well that`s what is great about MERB and its members, the free exchange of information.

My wife and I have only been in the ``hobby`` for a few years and have only had about 15 visits from SP`s, most if not all of them good. My misunderstanding had more to do, I think, with what GFE stood for. I felt it was an all inclusive term for LFK, DFK, DATY, , TC, CIM, etc. By reading the above responses, it seems that GFE is more of an attitude, a willingness to please rather than an agreement to provide the afore mentioned services.

We hope to ``get together`` with Bianka and take advantage of Celine`s incall service and will post GFE, as well as all the other approrpriate letters.

Thanks,
TheBeachGuy

I totally agree but only in part with Bryson.

Call it what you want, no one can guarantee a totally satisfying experience or whatever you would call it. When all your expectations are not met, who`s fault is it then : you, her, the agency ? I`ve seen SPs providing CBJ and no DATY - I could still call that a great experience and a repeat case, but that`s personal. For others, it may not work if they require or even TC.

Past any label, I prefer making my opinion based on reviews, not really focusing on the numbers which are subjective but look for the narrative of the experience and overall appreciation. I`m look particularly at those from hobbysts who seem to share the same values and the same anticipations as me. You develop a sense for that by seeing the same SPs and discovering you totally agree with them.

Lion Heart

The emotional aspect is connected to the services provided. To make things clear, I'm always friendly and respectfull with the girls. I'm also shy, so a girl is always in FULL control of her limits with me. I won't push for extra mileage and woudn't not even ask about extras available... Personally for me, kissing is the single most important part of GFE as it makes the mood much more intimate (even if these are just pecks on the lips). I really dislike when the girl is looking away in the heat of the moment to make sure you won't try to kiss her. Sure, we don't need to go through a full set of motions to define GFE. I had some sessions, where some abbreviations were completely skipped and I would certify it was GFE. Having said that, I disagree with a you-should-ask-the-girl-for-GFE-then-she-would-give-you-GFE thing for the girls who're advertised as GFE (it wouldn't work in my case, anyways).
Just my opinion.

Going with the flow !

Cloée

I really like this expression & i will start using it ;-)

ROB*

juzt_a_girl said:

Robert Gilette: You can use it all you want ;-) Too bad there's no french equivalent. Je vais avec le flux?

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Follow the flow = Suivre le courant

Although translated back to English, " se laisser aller au gré du vent" could result in something like "Gone with the wind..."

Lion Heart

Executive Director For Greater Montreal Hobbyists And SP Association?

Hello Mr. CoolAmadeus:

Upon reading your posts and this thread, I recommend the hobbyist and escort communities to create a position of ‘Executive Director’ for a new organization, namely ‘Greater Montreal Hobbyists And SP Association’, to promote and ensure the welfare and well being of both hobbyists (local and visitors) and SPs. Would you like to take this job? There is no one I can think of who is better qualified than the ‘Passionate Sweetheart’, don’t you think? Seriously, if work out successfully, Montreal will be a model city for the rest of the world in hobbying and escorting. While we contemplate the form and content of this organization, would you be kind enough to be the guardian angel of those lost hobbyist and SP souls? This professor will vote for you from 10,000 miles away.

When I have the chance to exile to Montreal, I would love to philosophize with you on the theory and practice of incalls and outcalls, if and only if you keep the theory and I do all the practice. In the mean time, by all means keep both theory and practice. For who can make better music than Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart, especially the ‘Cool’ one??? Unless making love is a more difficult and sophisticated art than making music??? LORL (Laughing Out Really Loud)!!!

To all Merbites, please join CoolAmadeus to rejoice in laughters. It is good for your health and it is free!!!

Your friend,

Louis

Hey Louis,

Let me know if you want to be part of the board of directors! I wouldn't want you to feel left appart.

CA

To me GFE always included a certain attitude as well as services. While I consider myself to be GFE, interpersonal chemistry will always have something to do with it.

Since I went indy, and set up my own appointements, my % of GFE experiences (from my own POV) has gone way up. If there is no chemistry happening on the phone while we are trying to make arrangements, generally it means that there will be no chemistry during the date either, so I simply don't make the appointement in the first place.
Ronnie,
Naughtylady

To catch the elusive GFE, Shall We Try Physics, Biology, & Chemistry???

Ronnie Darling:

I am glad you have the luxury of phone interviewing and screening your potential dates, one of the advantages of being an independent. It surely can increase the chance of a wonderful and romantic rendezvous.

From 10,000 miles away

That Is The Job I Would Not Mind Taking!!!

CoolAmadeus said:

Hey Louis,

Let me know if you want to be part of the board of directors! I wouldn`t want you to feel left appart.

CA

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CoolAmadeus Pal:

I shall be honored to become a founding member of the BOD (Board of Directors) of this ‘Greater Montreal Hobbyists and SP Association’. It surely will give me legitimate excuse to visit Montreal often. It will also make my ATFs in Montreal very happy to see the exiled philosopher king. I tell you, these Montreal goddesses are very capable of giving me the famous Louisisgreat brand of GFE, PSE, and HME, all in one giant combo. I am looking forward to my gorgeous Montreal companions keeping me warm at night. Just don’t ask me to think too hard afterwards, as I shall only have a silly grin on my face. LORL!!!

From 10,000 miles away

Affection?

I can't speak with authority being new at this. Seems to me that if you present yourself well (have the consideration to look to personal hygiene, exercise good manners, be considerate, perhaps with a touch of gallantry as you would do with a date) then you should expect at least the services advertised. But even though you are paying for it, it is still a blind date and even the best actress or people person may have difficulty faking chemistry that just isn't there. And just maybe if it isn't there for her it probably wont be there for you either. This is the problem with all blind dates. SP faces are rarely shown on websites so it will always, I think, make it difficult to select for one's type (the first step in establishing chemistry). To achieve connection and genuine affection with an sp, in my mind, has to rank with meeting one's match on a blind date. If you find it treat her like gold - definitely repeat.

Wise words from a Regular Guy

Ronnie,
Naughtylady

what u may not know

hey guys
what u may not know its that the agencies owners
dont even know most of the times what is the real level
of service between the sp and the client...
believe it or not...

YMMV! Depending on mood, circumstances, and situation.

I once use the services of a SP that gave me the GF experience that no other SP or even GF ever gave me. For the usual fee ($150) I got almost 4 hours of anything you want service (with a smile) She was dressed very fashionably, since she was shopping all that morning for new clothes. She had on exquisite lingerie ( the good stuff, not the crap from Zellers). The reason for this exceptional service was that she was a woman that was in the SP biz part time to make ends meet. She had to re-educate herself because of changing times, and after more than 3 years she had landed herself a "dream" job in her field. She told me that I was to be her last customer and she wanted to leave the biz, not with bitterness but with the knowledge that this was her stepping stone to a better life. She was also appreciative of the advice I gave to her on the 4 other visits that I had with her, she told me it made all the difference in the world.

Repeat

I agree with most posts that chemistry is the main ingredient in YMMV and GFE. I base my choice to repeat or not on that fact. I find that the ritual of different positions and pounding is basically that same from one sp to another. The difference is in the emotion and passion behind the acts. Or if you prefer the emphasis on service rather than on the action.

Gambling Fool
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