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    Return to Reality

    Hey everybody. I'm starting this thread to ask for advice.

    I started dating a beautiful girl recently and it seems like it's gonna become a relationship. We haven't had sex yet, no rush here, but we've had good make out sessions.

    I've only been with a few SPs, but all of them were good ones. One of them especially stood out for me and I have great memories of our sessions. You might see where I'm going with this. I'm afraid that after all that amazing sex, my expectations will be too high and I might be dissapointed.

    Any advice here on how to return to reality from fantasyland?

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    All I can tell you is that my top 5 best sex sessions were all with girlfriends...
    Find what you love, and let it kill you...

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    sex with sp is way better bro...me i am NOT able ( i have tried) to date a Normal girl anymore...

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    So it's now for you an addiction and not a hobby anymore..
    Find what you love, and let it kill you...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Wallseye View Post
    Hey everybody. I'm starting this thread to ask for advice.

    I started dating a beautiful girl recently and it seems like it's gonna become a relationship. We haven't had sex yet, no rush here, but we've had good make out sessions.

    I've only been with a few SPs, but all of them were good ones. One of them especially stood out for me and I have great memories of our sessions. You might see where I'm going with this. I'm afraid that after all that amazing sex, my expectations will be too high and I might be dissapointed.

    Any advice here on how to return to reality from fantasyland?
    Hello Wallseye,

    It may be harder than anything else, but there's also nothing better than a real relationship. Sure all of this picking out hotties is very exciting and great fantasy. But no matter how fabulous, you are still on the clock and paying. No matter how GFE or PSE she is, it's still just business.

    If you are lucky enough to have a real relationship opportunity, remember there's no need to make a choice unless the relationship becomes something solid. Why not go with it and see how it works out. The SPs will always be there and abundant anyway. Great real opportunities are much rarer.

    Of course it depends on whether a real relationship or escorts are what you really want in the first place.

    Happy choices,

    Merlot

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    It's not just about how good the sex is going to be for you. Now you also have to worry about HER expectations. What I like about escorts is that you don't have the pressure of pleasing your partner. If you've been having more SPs then real girlfriend for a while (as I have) this may be the biggest challenge. Good escorts are notoriously easy to climax and to make you feel like the greatest lover in the wooorld . A real GF will not be so easy to impress. On the plus side, you probably learned a few good tricks from some of them.
    Like Merlot says, its more difficult, but the satisfaction can be worth it.

    Man77777, not being able to have a normal relationship does not necessarily make hobbying an addiction. I'm not interested in a real relationship either, but I control my urges pretty well. I have'nt had sex in a whole week and I don't even have the jitters!
    “Truth, Justice, Freedom, Reasonably Priced Love.”

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    Good anwser Merlot...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Siocnarf View Post
    Man77777, not being able to have a normal relationship does not necessarily make hobbying an addiction. I'm not interested in a real relationship either, but I control my urges pretty well. I have'nt had sex in a whole week and I don't even have the jitters!
    Wimbledon said : "sex with sp is way better bro...me i am NOT able ( i have tried) to date a Normal girl anymore...".

    IMO that means he was able but now he can't, because he prefers seeing SP than dating real girl.

    What does it mean ? Simply that he now prefers artificial and false relationship to real one. Exactly like drug addicted prefers artificial and false world of drug to reality.. So IMO and in this case, it's now an addiction, not a hobby anymore...

    Addiction = compulsive need and use + repercution in your social life
    Find what you love, and let it kill you...

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    The way I saw it its like if you eat all your meal at the cafeteria for 20 years and forget how to cook. It does not mean you have an eating disorder.

    Maybe "dependant" would be the exact word. To me an addiction is when you get compulsive, you can't control it and you always need more, more, MORE.

    On the other hand being in a relationship all your life can make you dependant on that relationship. The bottom line is to be satisfied with our choices.
    “Truth, Justice, Freedom, Reasonably Priced Love.”

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    Quote Originally Posted by Siocnarf View Post
    To me an addiction is when you get compulsive and can't control it.
    Who here could stop without problem if he should or wants ?
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    I can't stop, because I am totally dependant on fantasy sex for happiness, but I can control my usage because I am not addicted. It's like insulin for a diabetic, rather then heroin for a junkie .

    Back to Wallseye's matter I would just add that I don't recommand getting serious if you're just interested in sex. But if you want a relationship go for it, and even if the sex its not as great as you want at first it can improve with work and practice as you get to know more your partner. I guess it also depends a lot on the woman's own experience.
    “Truth, Justice, Freedom, Reasonably Priced Love.”

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    Hey guys. Nice to see so many answers.

    @ Merlot. Thanks for your answer. Of course I'll be going for it, I agree with you 100%. With the sp in question, sex was so good it was what I had always dreamed it would be. I'm afraid I'll have too high expectations and that it's gonna affect the relationship at some point or another, which I do not want. I'd rather have a fullfilling real relationship than having to pay for fake love, even if that means I need to work at it and deal with the challenges it brings me. I'm fine with that, but I have strong physical needs that take a very important part in my life and affect my emotions.

    For example, with the sp in question, everytime I think about our encounters, I feel strong emotions of joy, well being, excitement, lust and even love to a certain level. Hell it makes me miss her! Maybe for different guys it's not the same, but for me sex is very linked to emotions, in the same idea as going on a roller coaster : you feel strong sensations and strong emotions. I have no intentions of trying to date that sp, and I really don't think she'd be a good girl for me (plus it's a bad idea because of the obvious context), but the fact that the intimacy was so enjoyable brings out a lot of emotions in me. You see the power of sex now? That's what I want in a real relationship. I know if I get a good physical relationship that it's going to affect positively how I feel about the relationship. Granted, sex is not everything in a relationship, but it's important. I've had great sex with my gfs, but not to the level I had with this sp, the intensity always was up the roof.

    I also find the girl I'm dating very pretty and hot, but she's not as hot as the sp. I don't want to be superficial but I can't help it completely!!!!

    Bottom line is, I'm afraid my needs might be too big and that I'll end up resorting to sps when I'll need the ultimate satisfaction.

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    i think it is may be impossible to return to real life if you had before experience with sp girls, the normal girl is very different and you will not have the same service for free trust me.

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    Allow me to chime in. You may (or not) have noticed that I don't post much anymore. Maybe I will in the future but who knows. Yes, I admit I was a bit frustrated with the board and I've purposely held on some reviews but above all, I've been hunting for a few sex partners in my life.

    I've dated about 8 civilian girls in the last 6 months or so and I must say that meeting my expectations have been really difficult. Lookwise, it's not so much a struggle. But sex-wise, I can tell you it has been hit and miss. Mostly from my perspective. The hobby has allowed me to become a very sexual oriented companion and the girls are for the most part, very satisfied with my skills and experience. On the other hand, I must say that only 25% or so of the civilian girls I've met recently were able to really satisfy me. Being a cimws fan probably does't help me but even though I was able to get this "service" from a few girls (2 or3 out of the girls I've dated recently), I found that I was (am) at a different sexual level... I've also took part in some gangbang and swinger activities which were somewhat better in regards to my expectations but again not quite enough to get me there.

    All that to say that you should fuck your hottie as soon as possible because if she ain't up to par with your sexual standards then it will not work. Trust me. I personnally now have 3 girls that I see on a semi-frequent basis. They satisfy me, but not fully. That's why I'm not in a more "serious" relationship...

    Anyway, don't lower your expectations. Be youself. If you like a certain sexual flavor, don't compromise. Because if you're not satisfied, I can garantee you that you will go back to escorts anyway...

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    Quote Originally Posted by sergejean View Post
    Anyway, don't lower your expectations. Be youself. If you like a certain sexual flavor, don't compromise. Because if you're not satisfied, I can garantee you that you will go back to escorts anyway...
    What happens if I can't find a gf material girl that fullfills my physical needs completely? I mean not all women are sex goddess, and amongst those which ones are compatible with me and have the potential for a good relationship? It's a hard puzzle!!!

    BTW it's good to have input from you guys, it really feels like we're a community, as particular it may be!

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