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newbieatthis

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she says I'm too buff and that she feels too self conscious around me, and wants to date an older, heavier guy. :(

it's not even a lame excuse, it's unfortunately true. I can't believe that working out would have negative consequences! argh!
 

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Dude, maybe this girl is looking for marriage material and you look too much like a player.

From my perspective, alot of my friends who are young professionals like myself would prefer a girl next door type at our age and not a super model when considering a serious relationship. It may be security issue or just being with someone down to earth and doesn't worry about the carbs in their food or how many reps they can bench 200 pounds.

Take it as a compliment and find someone who shares your pride and joy of working out.
 

newbieatthis

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But she knows what a dork I am! She's got a great body too! I just don't get it.... argh...

Keno said:
Dude, maybe this girl is looking for marriage material and you look too much like a player.

From my perspective, alot of my friends who are young professionals like myself would prefer a girl next door type at our age and not a super model when considering a serious relationship. It may be security issue or just being with someone down to earth and doesn't worry about the carbs in their food or how many reps they can bench 200 pounds.

Take it as a compliment and find someone who shares your pride and joy of working out.
 

newbieatthis

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She went over her concerns with me and was fearing I'm a gym rat, and she said exactly what you said. And I don't dress that way...

dudemtl said:
It probably has nothing to do with your looks.. it probably has to do with your attitude surrounding your looks. If you are constantly primping in the mirror, showing your muscles off, talking about working out, always wearing tight clothes, etc. , then you are communicating to her on a subcontious level that you are superficial, and/or are overcompensating for something with your body.

in my experience, women care little about a mans' body (to a certain degree. please dont quote me and say 'yeah but what if im 500 pounds?-to a certain degree). BUT if a woman senses insecurity right off the bat, she will run.

I saw a buff guy walking on St. Catherine street last week. It must have been plus 4 degees at the most. He was wearing a t-shirt , carrying his jacket in his hands. was he walking with a girl? nope. were women stopping to admire him? I don't think so. they were laughing at him, at his lame attempt to impress them with something superficial.

my point to you is this: im not saying you do anything like this. however, I don't see any woman leaving a guy SIMPLY because his body is TOO GOOD. It either means there's something very wrong emotionally with this woman, or there is something else to it. And if she's hinting to you that it has to do with your body, that may be it.
 

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Well, only a couple days until I get to see her.... Hope this works! Though I think it would probably be better to date a girl in my own country............. but she's just too cool...
 
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