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    Here's A Crazy Thought

    Every time I read some of the more "rude" appraisals of the ladies in this business, I often mused to myself how these guys would fare if the girls got to rate THEM.

    And then I got to thinking: No escort would ever do that in a public forum because all it would potentially do is drive away business.

    BUT: What if there was a section of this board that only paid advertisers could see. This would enable them to basically create a red flag on any of the more troublesome clients for other agencies/independents. I know that some agencies are (correctly) protective of some of their younger/inexperienced girls. A thread like this would be very handy for weeding out those potential clients who have established a bad reputation with other agencies/independents.

    I'm sure agencies keep their own "blacklists" us customers they don't want to deal with again. What if they had access to other agencies' blacklists?

    And what about the new independents who haven't had time to establish their own blacklist and don't have an agency acting as a go-between between them and the clients. Wouldn't it be great if, before they accepted a booking with a new guy, they could check to see if any other escorts had *issues* with them ("He shorted on the money"; "He likes to play ROUGH"; etc.)

    I'm not saying that this is either wanted or needed here on MERB but I was just curious in any of my fellow MERBites, MODs and Escorts/Agencies think of such an idea.

    Would the knowledge that they are being "graded" improve the behavior of some of the borderline blacklistees?

    Would it create an adversarial relationship between the client and the service provider?

    Would competing agencies want to collaborate and share information?

    It raises a lot of questions and opportunities.

    Thoughts, anyone?

    PS: I realize that by making this post, I may have targeted myself as the most-hated man amongst my fellow MERBites.

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    Only partly useful, because they don't know most handles who the people are. But I suppose in the future some escorts or agencies could evolve to initiate contact by merb PM only.

    I don't think they would take time writing elaborate reviews and posting grades the way we do. Usually, so long as the client is clean, well behaved and pays the fee they are not as picky as us. Unless they are independant, they don't spend hours on the computer choosing their next client
    “Truth, Justice, Freedom, Reasonably Priced Love.”

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    we have a place for bad costumer...
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    and we have also a private forum in C.E.R.B for indy's
    dont know if i could tell it here
    sorry if not....

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    It could end up like CAF in Calgary, many of the indys require either a reference or your handle so they can check out how you review a SP if it is a first visit. Feel sorry for the hobbiest there ( they call themselves POONERS ) ultra high rates and not much GFE.

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    There is also a perception problem, my worse meeting was when I agreed to meet a guy who was below my limit but it was referred by a friend who told me he was a very very nice guy, turn out he was anything but, it is the first time I felt not safe in all my meetings. After I called her and told her about that and she said she was very surprised because he was ''son client le plus doux'', ''her most gentle customer''...each girls has a different threshold , it is only if the comments come from a lady that I know is similar to me that I can trust the evaluation (thanks again Maria loll)...
    Last edited by Lily from Montreal; 12-11-2012 at 10:09 AM.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LilyForYou View Post
    (thanks again Maria loll)...
    Hein? You are certainly not talking about me my dear Lily?



    Mickey;

    I am sorry to inform you that Merb always refused to put in place that kind of private place for the ladies from years.

    I suggest it personally few years ago, and what I got answered was by mod6:" No, we don't want that on Merb because any girl could say BS on any man she is angry about..." So, that was the excuse I have been told.

    But, as anybody could know, any man is entitle to say any things on a girl/lady, even if he is angry about her.

    Merb has been made for the purpose/to serve the men in priority.

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    I am really thanking you Maria, I got twice a similar reference,but very different outcome, loll it is another girl who sent me a bad guy loll, a reference from you and I say yes for sure ...
    Last edited by Lily from Montreal; 12-11-2012 at 10:33 AM.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LilyForYou View Post
    ...
    a reference from you and I say yes for sure ...
    :-)

    Happy to know things turned well then... xx

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    And also most of the time I do not know my friends Merb handle and that is not something I would ask , if they want to share it is useful...I like to know mind you...because there is some on Merb that I am not sure I want to meet, is it rude to ask for it? The email address is how I know my friends and that is very easy to change...

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    For the present moment, to help the girls/ladies to accept more great demanders and keep the "scrap encounters" away:

    I can suggest 2 things:

    If you are in an hurry:

    -Ask for reference of another girl/provider
    -Ask for the handle and check the history of posts
    -Ask for a deposit $

    That could be just one or all of the above.

    Generally, the fake demanders or "scrap demanders" are not agreeing with those actions.
    Serious demanders will always understand why you are doing those, and will agree.

    If you can take a bit your time:

    -Exchange with your demander to know him better before to meet him.
    -Exchange over the phone a bit before an encounter.

    I am adding, always ask for a phone number for you to call. Then, if it happen to happen something with a bad guy, you will have that at least under your hands.

    You are not in the obligation to do everything. But, make something before meeting someone.
    That's your security. Don't meet with everyone who is asking, just the good/best ones.

    Last edited by Maria Divina; 12-11-2012 at 10:59 AM.

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    And I found that unless it is someone I know already ( in the biblical sense) same day meeting are more tricky...people who ask for a meeting with very short notice, like ''can you be there in 20 minutes''', yes I got such a demand, my answer was ;''I am not a pizza!'' lol.
    I find the ones with no patience are often the one that are not serious and abusive in theirs demands... Not all of course but my statistics show a trend that way...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Maria Divina View Post
    If you can take a bit your time:

    -Exchange with your demander to know him better before to meet him.
    -Exchange over the phone a bit before an encounter.
    Speaking as someone who has gone through this process with Maria, the exchange before-hand is good for the prospective client as well.

    You can tell a lot about a person by what and how they interact with you in writing but even more importantly, their personality and demeanor on the phone can give you a good heads-up of what to expect in your encounter (on a personality level). Although due to circumstances beyond our control, Maria and I didn't get to talk much on the phone I was instantly smitten with her upbeat, plain and upfront personality on the phone.

    When you already go into the session with a good gut feeling about a person, it makes the encounter that much more appealing.

    Plus, if you get a bad feeling about the person, you can back out at the last minute.

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    I begin incall lately, and I can tell you Lily, that's another kind of game for the "last minute call".
    All the process is very more quick, but possible, but believe me, you have to be ready to exchange at a quick pace....

    But, for the outcall, you are 100% on the same page than me.
    Last minutes demanders are just acting on impulse, and I prefer most mature & gentleman manners because then, the encounters are very more wanted and prepared, and enjoyable, at the end.

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    I really think incall and outcall are not the same clientele, as daytime clientele is not like the evening's one...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Alyssa Roze View Post

    But having a personnal driver avoid a lot of problems....Obviously, in BDSM I see many special demands and feel much better to know a man (friend or boyfriend) is close if i need him..
    I had few BDSM encounters as well, and all my process is more important then, to agree on what will be lived or not... or on what I can push the limits...

    I am letting always my computer opened or a note on my table where I go, with who... etc.
    When you make a good verification process, you exempt lots of problems and the utility to have a "bouncer" near is less necessary.

    You could learn also how to defend yourself by yourself. That will be more efficient and quick if ever someone is attacking you.

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