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    Do you guys lose sexual interest easily?

    Hey guys,

    I was just wondering if you have had this experience.

    I just saw one of my favorite girls again and even though the service was good as always, I didn't feel we had the same attraction anymore. It was I think our 5th meeting. This has happened several times before. I have a favorite girl, but after multiple meetings, even though we get much more friendly and get closer, I feel we move towards being friends and the sexual chemistry isn't as good anymore. It starts to even feel a little forced.

    It's like the more I know a girl and the friendlier we get, the less I am turned on during the sex. I just want to hang and talk and have fun. I don't get that excited about the sex anymore. This concerns me because I am wondering if sex is only exciting for me when the girl is new. I would like to calm down with all this hobbying and get into a more steady, solid relationship this summer and the trend is not great. It's like I get into married for 10 years mode, but only after 5 meetings.

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    Yes, in many cases the novelty and excitement wears off. I recall one agency owner once saying newness is an important and powerful novelty that sells, and that guys like new girls like women like new shoes. There is nothing that sells better than a well reviewed new girl. After a time that novelty wears off, and there is a new flavor of the month. This pattern is observable in many veteran hobbyists and is certainly nothing to fret over.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Alyssa Roze View Post
    Does it happens with normal dates?

    I haven't had a normal date in quite a while lol, so I am not sure. Usually people say things get better the more comfortable and closer two people get. Lately for me it hasn't been that way. I just start to feel more "friends" and less sexually excited. Maybe the girlfriend fantasy starts to fade and when that happens so does my attraction?

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    Quote Originally Posted by EagerBeaver View Post
    Yes, in many cases the novelty and excitement wears off. I recall one agency owner once saying newness is an important and powerful novelty that sells, and that guys like new girls like women like new shoes. There is nothing that sells better than a well reviewed new girl. After a time that novelty wears off, and there is a new flavor of the month. This pattern is observable in many veteran hobbyists and is certainly nothing to fret over.
    Yes, I am sure we veterans do share that trait. It's the newness and novelty of being with an unknown new girl that really gets us excited. The novelty wears off after seeing the same girl 2-5 times for me. It just isn't as exciting anymore. I just hope this doesn't translate into my real life relationships in the future. I did always tend to kind of have this trait, even before all this hobbying started.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ManApart View Post
    The novelty wears off after seeing the same girl 2-5 times for me.
    So don't do it! Hunt for good new girls. I also have a rule of not seeing anyone I know has been in the business more than a year, due to jade factor (JF). That's a whole other thread.

    As far as real life relationships, ever heard of the 7 year itch? For a seasoned hobbyist it is called the 1 year itch. That is also a whole other thread. But suffice it to say when you have done the pay for play thing for 10 or more years, you do become socially retarded on some level. It is a combination of being spoiled with quick and easy sex and losing the hard edge one has from having to hunt for and earn a woman the old fashioned way, through trust, respect, and the force of your personality.

    If you do not intend to be a single man, MA, get out. Get out NOW.
    Last edited by EagerBeaver; 02-10-2013 at 09:07 PM.

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    You guys might remember i started dating an sp a few months ago.
    She was only doing it part time she had a job during the day. She had stopped doing it for me.
    She dumped me after a few months cause she felt i was not taking the relationship serious enough.
    Maybe she was right, but i feel she should have gave it more time.
    But ever since then i have not enjoyed one session with an sp.
    its just not the same as when you are doing it with your gf and your in love.
    I'm even thinking of stopping hobbling al together soon. Cause right now its just a waste of money for me. Maybe its cause I'm heartbroken.

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    Ya, I guess you are right. I haven't been in the "real in love" situation you described, in a while, so I can't really know how I will react until I get there again. If there is no fundamental deeper feelings to these encounters, I guess it is normal they get kind of old after a few meetings, when the newness novelty wears off. Thanks for the insight Alyssa.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ManApart View Post
    - It's like the more I know a girl and the friendlier we get, the less I am turned on during the sex. I just want to hang and talk and have fun. I don't get that excited about the sex anymore. This concerns me because I am wondering if sex is only exciting for me when the girl is new.

    - I haven't had a normal date in quite a while
    Stop hobbying MA, it seems that hobby starts decreasing your capacity to have a normal relationship later...

    You can't see 100girls/year in this "quick fuck and pay" way and dating no girl in a normal way without changing irreversibly the way you see women and m/w relationships..

    I know you know that one day you will have to stop all these shits, the sooner will be the better...
    Find what you love, and let it kill you...

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    Hi MA. I don't have much time right now to give an extensive reply to your concern, but I can tell you for now : "Welcome to the club". I've felt that with a GF of mine, before I started seeing an sp once in a while (before my first time with one) and I had extensive personal reflections on that topic.

    More on that later, but may I suggest going for coffee or a drink? We can talk here but there's a lot to say. PM me if you're interested.

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    Quote Originally Posted by man77777 View Post
    Stop hobbying MA, it seems that hobby starts decreasing your capacity to have a normal relationship later...

    You can't see 100girls/year in this "quick fuck and pay" way and dating no girl in a normal way without changing irreversibly the way you see women and m/w relationships..

    I know you know that one day you will have to stop all these shits, the sooner will be the better...
    MA, Man 77777 gives great advice. If you want to have a normal relationship and do not want to pay for play the rest of your life, GET OUT NOW. Take my word for it, I have been involved in this much longer than you.

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    No Alyssa

    The majority of guys who see SP on a regular basis ( 1 or 2 times a week ) do it because they do not have GF and they are hoping to get the affection from an SP. I saw his statistic in another thread a while ago.
    Thats why if i don't get DFK i don't get hard no matter how hot the girl is. I lose total interest.

    I saw an sp a while ago but after about the 25th time we were together she started to get lazy in her service and taking for granted i was still enjoying it ( barely blowing me, making her friend do most of the work, etc..). Needless to say i stopped seeing her. She still text me once in a while but i refuse every time. But maybe i just come straight out and say it that get service was getting sloppy. lol

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    Quote Originally Posted by man77777 View Post
    Stop hobbying MA, it seems that hobby starts decreasing your capacity to have a normal relationship later...
    The same can be said for jerking off lol

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    Oh yes... Happening to me so much...

    Everytime I say I will repeat with an SP that I really enjoyed very much, I don't see her again most of the time...

    After 4-5 times with same SP, I have more difficulty to stay hard even if the girl is very hot...
    Is it her fault, maybe a little sometime cause she may think that since we know each other more, she doesn't have to make that little extra effort she did the first time...

    There is one ATF that I know that, if I see her too often, or if I see other girl between our meetings, I get like bored with her but when it happens, I stop seeing other girls and wait a couple of week without any sex and then when I go see her, it is like the first time.
    Also, this ATF, when she stops for few months because she has a BF, when she break and she comes back, I missed her so much that our renuion is quite hot.

    There is only one SP I saw several times with always same pleasure and constant hard on every single time no matter what... Anna!
    So I think there is also a question of compatibility issue...

    I also remember Mika that I had lots of fun with sessions after sessions... Never failed until she got weight Wonder what she becomes these days...

    I agree with Alyssa that being in love is another story and might help to get a hard on no matter that our love get fat and aging ...

    But for me, with SPs, I tend to become more and more picky with time and even then, I might have a hard time to stay hard all the time... I'm aging too...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Alyssa Roze View Post
    then get a gf, a fuckfriend or whatever...
    easier said than done lol

    i tried POF those sluts won't even give you the time of day.
    these idiots all have these headline talking about they want an honest man.
    Well...how are they gonna find a good man when the only guys they will talk to are douchebags that that pics of their six pack in front of the mirror. lol

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    well whats a good way to meet women ?

    I hate trying to pick up a women at a bar. i feel like an idiot.

    and I'm too shy to just start talking to girls on the street plus they will think I'm a creep

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