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    Interesting article about complimenting women on the street

    Here's an article that I found had an interesting and realitic outlook on that topic.

    http://freethoughtblogs.com/bruterea...that-shes-hot/

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    Complimenting a stranger you don't know is not cool. Or any comments on physical appearance. I do compliment ladies I know at the gym, but only after I have gotten to know them, and only if I honestly believe they are hot. They eat it up. Some guys know how to talk and have a sense of what language is needed to couch the compliment. Being somewhat glib helps. If you are not a good talker or have poor communication skills, it's best to shut up, and try and improve those skills.

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    I resist!

    SPARE me this nonsense that a woman who is half naked, heels etc etc is only doing it for the relief form the heat!

    I call a spade a spade. Its a judgement call like anything else, but if you can't compliment a woman, then you can't tell anyone anything unsolicited. Nonsense, I refuse to be told I can't interact with my fellow man as I wish.

    Also - is it OK to tell her her dress is nice? What about a guy, can I tell him his coat is interesting? Can I tell a kid his running shoes are nice? why stop at women, why not anyone about anything?

    Cold, uptight little insular world she wants.

    I resist!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sidney Laflamme View Post
    Depending on how it's done it can be very nice.
    The point is many don't know how to do it, and it is somewhat presumptuous as well in that you are assuming it will be taken one way and it may be taken another. Too many variables in the degree of communication skills, the words chosen and the interpretation of them to guarantee any anticipated reaction. It's recommended for some people who know how to talk.
    Last edited by EagerBeaver; 05-22-2013 at 03:32 PM.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sidney Laflamme View Post
    I disagree. Depending on how it's done it can be very nice. I know I like it when it happens to me
    I agree with you Sydney, a polite compliment is usually welcomed. Obviously. whistling, rude comments or drooling is not.

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    I agree with Sydney, compliments are always appreciated,some even made my day...
    I still tell the story of the time in the metro at 9 am (!) where a pretty young guy stops me and said I do not mean to be rude but I have to tell you, you really have a beautiful ass! Hm...I laughed...that pencil skirt is a killer loll.

    I tell compliments too, it is not only for guys, there was a bus driver ( I know I take a lot of public transportation)a few weeks ago, I told him he had incredibly beautiful blue eyes, he was happy to hear it...

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    Quote Originally Posted by LilyForYou View Post
    I agree with Sydney, compliments are always appreciated,some even made my day...
    I still tell the story of the time in the metro at 9 am (!) where a pretty young guy stops me and said I do not mean to be rude but I have to tell you, you really have a beautiful ass! Hm...I laughed...that pencil skirt is a killer loll.

    I tell compliments too, it is not only for guys, there was a bus driver ( I know I take a lot of public transportation)a few weeks ago, I told him he had incredibly beautiful blue eyes, he was happy to hear it...
    I remember seeing you a few years back (theRock) and you made my year with the nice compliments!!

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    Any even mildly good looking chick has been stared at constantly by dozens of guys each day ever since the day she turned 18....

    If a girl is even close to being hot ... even if she is mildly attractive ... they know it in spades, and by telling them ... you look like an idiot who does not know how to play the game.

    Casanova said it best: "Tell the ugly girls that they are beautiful .... but tell the beautiful ones that they are smart..."

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    Quote Originally Posted by SamKlemmons View Post
    This is on of the stupidest threads I have ever seen on MERB...
    Thanks Sam. Just because it's so obvious for you, detendor of the absolute truth, means that it's not an interesting topic to think and exchange about. Feel free to express what you think on the topic, but not to be rude. If you're not interested in that thread, go somewhere else.

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    Mitsou I feel that's part of the point of the article. Maybe he likes finds you prettyer like that instead of being "dressed up", which is a expression defined by the standars of society. Hell I though my ex was super sexy in the morning with her half closed eyes and no makeup, a lot better in fact than when she had makeup. And maybe the fact you had no makeup let you smile shine through, instead of being distracted by visual artifacts. He probably has great taste, in fact, in my opinion (although we've never met you and I, but on the principle).

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    It's because women don't need make-up to have a great smile.

    When you say something to a stranger it's impossible to know if it's going to please that person or not. The best is just to be ourselves and follow our judgement.
    “Truth, Justice, Freedom, Reasonably Priced Love.”

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    Samklemmons,

    Did Wallseye put a gun on your head and force you to read his thread?

    If it is that stupid, I am sorry to tell you that but replying isn't any better.

    M10

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    Hello all,

    Quote Originally Posted by LilyForYou View Post
    ...where a pretty young guy stops me and said...
    Not to ever pick on you Lily, but your story made me think of the following:

    I felt the same way years ago when pretty young ladies would pinch my ass and go "ummmmmmm", true story. But if it had been a dumpy middle aged or older woman my reaction would have changed quite a lot. I was wondering if your reaction would have also changed if the guy was generally unappealing.

    I've always found it amazing what someone can get away with when they are appealing to the other person. There was a guy at work who let all the women know how he liked to screw around with married women and how he loved to screw women in the ass. He even prompted one lady fling to say to some other guys including me how she tried anal the first time with him. He just stood there smiling at her. Several other women thought he was great despite being quite an open lothario/male slut. I thought it was interesting to know women turn off their self-respect as much as men when they meet someone they think is hot no matter how trashy.

    As to the precise subject, I think it's a matter of instinct and technique. Start with putting out a good positive vibe with a smile. Spontaneous simple but truthful compliments without being rude often get a good reception. Getting them to enjoy a little laugh at the same time has worked well. I find that when I'm not actually trying to get into her panties and just say something complimentary it works out far more often. But I have never told a stranger who wasn't a dancer, escort, or girlfriend she has a "nice ass".

    Quote Originally Posted by Mitsou xxx View Post
    Once the cute coffee guy told me I have a great smile. I didn't have any makeup, a hat on and work out clothes lol.
    I've known cute ladies who look incredible being very natural for whom makeup does not add anything. I do love women who dress up, but it's not always when they look best depending on the individual.

    Quote Originally Posted by Wallseye View Post
    Hell I though my ex was super sexy in the morning with her half closed eyes and no makeup, a lot better in fact than when she had makeup.
    There you go Mitsou, and I didn't see his post until after I wrote mine.

    Cheers all,

    Merlot

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mod 10 View Post
    Samklemmons,Did Wallseye put a gun on your head and force you to read his thread? If it is that stupid, I am sorry to tell you that but replying isn't any better. M10
    You are right Mod... that is a good point ....you sound like a very smart person ....

    Quote Originally Posted by Wallseye View Post
    Thanks Sam. Just because it's so obvious for you, detendor of the absolute truth, means that it's not an interesting topic to think and exchange about. Feel free to express what you think on the topic, but not to be rude. If you're not interested in that thread, go somewhere else.
    Well...maybe that was badly phrased...apologies....

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    One woman who deliberately dressed in a provocative way told me that she enjoyed making a scene. It particularly excited her when someone flirted with her and her boy- friend (fiend?) beat him up.

    If I had to guess, then usually: Women (like men) enjoy a compliment from someone they find attractive and take it as an insult and find it disgusting if someone they find much less attractive approaches them.

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