Were you able to get through a mental block?

tockson said:

Per my personal experience, i had a mental block sort of speak... I wasn't able to cum at all with any SP until I met 1 who was really, really good at making you feel wanted.... Since then, yes, some cannot make me cum, but it's a little easier than before, even if it take 1h of constant work...

Sometimes you need to really listen yourself and relax

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I agree But it goes both way. Of course no chemistry = not a good time haha. But mens are also really hard on themself and it happen that the desire/stress of performing get in the way of ejaculation. There's also many other factors (anxiety, being tired, medication,recent sport activity, stress from work etc).I have regular clients that sometimes cant come (due to differents causes) and thats normal. Mens thinks the mental is more of a women thing for sex but in my experience, its the same for both of us! For me, when that happen, 99% of the time they are hard, so there is no erectile or attraction problem haha. It's only the mental getting in the way. But I get it, I have ADHD and can get carried away easily haha

tockson said:

yeah but for me it wasnt any of that.... I am a "lover boys).... i never had any fuckfriend at all because of it, i always fucked whit someone i was in love whit.... So when i started booking SP it was kinda hard to get over it

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Yes I get that It was not to discredit you at all! Its just something that I notice happen often with other mens

I've definitely been in my own head BEFORE a session with someone new (or a new scenario - play party/duo/etc) but usually it goes away right around the time my kisses reach their belly buttons lol. The chemistry thing is definitely the main factor on a repeat, however, and if I don't think we're both enjoying ourselves I know mid-date that it's gonna be a one-time thing, and that's ok. I'll still try my best to make it fun.