Not really bitching, but an observation..
I've been on this board for 2 years now. Since I advertise here, I always find myself pulled back to the conversations, due to curiosity, boredom, an interest in human psychology and a desire to be a bit subversive (which is not always appreciated lol)
One thing I've noticed is that the same subjects and complaints come up very very often. Another, is more about certain users who seem to come here to find answers during a personal crisis or a moment of interrogation about various topics. What I want to say is that I believe that those users need, or rather deserve, much better and appropriate resources and spaces to ask those questions, to discuss these concerns without a fear of judgement and to break isolation, none of which can be done in a forum like this one.
Astute (I love saying that word, especially around people who don't necessarily hear it the same way) observation.
1. The (relative) anonymity of a BBS can act as a dis-inhibitor. In theory, people can ask questions without revealing their RW identity. That can lead to more openness and candor. In theory.
2. The same anonymity also allows people to posture as something they are not (example, Alpha males with large....IQs) and not respond with empathy, understanding, and nuance. A BBS like this can become yet another echo chamber, like Twitter became (more of) when it became X. Or a (fill in the blank) shaming / blaming chamber.
3. As a lifelong observer and researcher of human behavior (I can watch them all day long), this board has allowed me to observe very intelligent, perceptive people and also allowed me to begin direct communication with those who also perceive that there's more to the story than just the screen persona. A few of those "back channel" communications actual resulted in very intense, personal, and intimate communications with other men who are facing prostate cancer and what life and sex are like afterward (spoiler alert: GREAT!!!!) as well as recovering from a heart attack as well as double cataract surgery. That was / is never the goal, but if you ask me an honest question about something I have experienced, I will more than likely respond. Men have a lot of fear about sex, primarily the fear of not being able to perform. I'm way past that point. It took me awhile, but now I realize that the most important sex organ everyone has (and the least used, perhaps) is the brain.
I think that it is possible to start an honest, meaningful dialogue on this platform, but one has to be patient and disciplined. The signal to noise ratio is a bit high, but nothing like US based BBS's.
Just my $0.02 USD, worth everything you paid for.