My wife just lies there during sex. How can I encourage more action?

[General Gonad]

A reader asked the girld next door the following question in Men's Health:

Q: My wife just lies there during sex. How can I encourage more action?

The Girl Next Door Answers:First, a question: Is she loglike outside of the bedroom? Because if she doesn't exercise, stretch, dance -- anything -- it's going to take some effort to bring out her inner sex bunny. Before she can enjoy your body, she has to start enjoying her own. Invite her to go hiking, or buy her a gift certificate for yoga classes. Anything that will get her blood flowing is likely to liven up her sexual M.O. by raising her confidence in her body. If she's already active yet carnally comatose, try to reconnect with her in a sensual way. Suggest taking a long, soapy shower together or trading full-body rubdowns in bed, and lavish her body with attention. Nothing softens a woman up or turns her on like a little pampering.

 

[pinkworm]

Two words: hot sauce

 

[AquaVulva Man]

Get her to wear just a little fringe vest, boots, a cowgirl hat and ask if she'll get on top - let her do all the work for a change.
She might discover she likes being a cowgirl, watch out if she goes shopping for spurs and riding crop.

 

[Nemo]

- English gentleman (in bed): I'm sorry Darling, but did I hurt you?

- English lady: No Darling, why do you ask?

- English gentleman: Well Darling, you MOVED !

 

[The Wizard of Oz]

Try to roll her over and spank her!
She will certernely ask you what you're doing.
Then you can answer her:
''Well honey, I'm punishing you for not participating!''

 

[Best Lover]

If she's open enough, consider buying her a vibrator. If she learns to pleasure herself, she may learn to open up more with you.

It took a long time for my wife, who had only been with one other partner, to open up during sex. Part of it was me, too. Initially, I was a selfish lover. As I learned and lasted longer, I paid more attention to her needs. Towards the end of our relationship, the roles reversed and she enjoyed sex more than I did.

good advice. I was going to suggest have her ride you cowgirl while you and/or her use the vibrator.

 

[General Gonad]

It took a long time for my wife, who had only been with one other partner, to open up during sex. Part of it was me, too. Initially, I was a selfish lover. As I learned and lasted longer, I paid more attention to her needs. Towards the end of our relationship, the roles reversed and she enjoyed sex more than I did.

btyger,

I find my wife to be selfish. I can last for a very long time when I am hard and into it. But if she gets her orgasm, the session is over! I am left holding my hard woodie and many times I have to finish the job myself.

Last time I told her that she was selfish and she replied that I take forever! Sorry, but I thought women enjoyed a man who doesn't cum in his pants if you kiss him on his ear lobe.

Adios, I have to catch my zzzzs.

GG

 

[Gee]

But if she gets her orgasm, the session is over!

Last time I told her that she was selfish and she replied that I take forever!

You have to find that middle ground too, not all women are muti-orgasmic and can go for hours.

I had the same problem with my last girlfriend, only she was worse, she almost always managed to get off during foreplay.

 

[mrten]

A reader asked the girld next door the following question in Men's Health:

Q: My wife just lies there during sex. How can I encourage more action?

The Girl Next Door Answers:First, a question: Is she loglike outside of the bedroom? Because if she doesn't exercise, stretch, dance -- anything -- it's going to take some effort to bring out her inner sex bunny. Before she can enjoy your body, she has to start enjoying her own. Invite her to go hiking, or buy her a gift certificate for yoga classes. Anything that will get her blood flowing is likely to liven up her sexual M.O. by raising her confidence in her body. If she's already active yet carnally comatose, try to reconnect with her in a sensual way. Suggest taking a long, soapy shower together or trading full-body rubdowns in bed, and lavish her body with attention. Nothing softens a woman up or turns her on like a little pampering.

When you penetrate her hold her tight and whisper in her ear "baby, your sisters so much tighter" Hold on for the ride of your life.
PS, works only once

 

[Juliana]

Mrten you crack me up !

When you penetrate her hold her tight and whisper in her ear "baby, your sisters so much tighter" Hold on for the ride of your life.
PS, works only once

Thi is way tooo funny, hilarious !

 

[HonestAbe]

Guaranteed to make her move

The shocker will wake her up. She'll either like it or you'll be on your way to a new, hopefully more fulfilling relationship.