I'm interested in hearing the community's opinions on role-playing with an SP. I'm not looking for a recounting of specific scenarios but rather your general impressions of the activity. If you've had a role playing session, did it work for you or were you disappointed? If you haven't tried it, are you just uninterested or are you concerned about feeling silly? Can any role-playing scene, no matter how carefully planned and acted out, ever live up to the fantasy that inspired it?
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I don't really know any SPs well enough for a role-playing session plus haven't found a Jennie Garth lookalike for my schoolgirl fantasy 
Some clients have high expectations when it comes to role playing and some are very easy going. Some have written down the scenario they are looking for down to the fine details. When this is done, automatically they set themselves up for a fall, especially if I do not recieve the info until the beginning of our session.
The best clients are the ones who write down the scenario, email me a copy in advance and when the session starts they are open to inprov.
When one books a ls many weeks in advance, I find they tend to play it over too much in their minds, thus leaving no margin. Role playing is to be fun, and it's hard to have fun when you are constantly trying to re-read the needs.
The best clients are the ones who write down the scenario, email me a copy in advance and when the session starts they are open to inprov.
When one books a ls many weeks in advance, I find they tend to play it over too much in their minds, thus leaving no margin. Role playing is to be fun, and it's hard to have fun when you are constantly trying to re-read the needs.
Redwoman
Redwoman, the situaton you describe is exactly what I am experiencing. In early April I booked appointments with two well-known Toronto SPs, both of whom indicated they were very open to role playing, and I suggested a couple of scenarios I found very exciting. However, the meetings won't actually take place until June, and I'm finding that as time passes the scenes become less and less interesting to me. At this point I may well ditch the whole role playing idea.
Following Train's line of reasoning, it's possible that the degree of spontaneity necessary for a truly exciting sexual encounter is incompatible with the degree of advance planning necessary for a successful role playing session.
Redwoman, the situaton you describe is exactly what I am experiencing. In early April I booked appointments with two well-known Toronto SPs, both of whom indicated they were very open to role playing, and I suggested a couple of scenarios I found very exciting. However, the meetings won't actually take place until June, and I'm finding that as time passes the scenes become less and less interesting to me. At this point I may well ditch the whole role playing idea.
Following Train's line of reasoning, it's possible that the degree of spontaneity necessary for a truly exciting sexual encounter is incompatible with the degree of advance planning necessary for a successful role playing session.
Besides asking SPs to wear certain clothing, I like to keep it as natural and spontaneous as possible. The more scripting you do, the worse it seems to get.
It's worth it, but it will never be the same as the real thing.
It's worth it, but it will never be the same as the real thing.
btyger,
Role-play is a pretty generic and vague term. BDSM is just one kind of role-play. The very fact that you see an SP is a form of role-play. Her role is SP, yours is client. Married couples actually do this kind of role-play sometimes.
It pretty much boils down to whatever you define it as. For example, if you've got a fetish for cheerleaders, you or the SP brings cheerleader uniforms for her to wear, and play it out. It doesn't necessarily involve bondage, and it may not even involve scripts.
My preference is for professional attire, not the 70s retro "crack ho' from Shaft" look that seems to be eternally in style now. I have no interest in tying anyone up, or in reciting corny lines. Just prefer it when women dress properly.
Role-play is a pretty generic and vague term. BDSM is just one kind of role-play. The very fact that you see an SP is a form of role-play. Her role is SP, yours is client. Married couples actually do this kind of role-play sometimes.
It pretty much boils down to whatever you define it as. For example, if you've got a fetish for cheerleaders, you or the SP brings cheerleader uniforms for her to wear, and play it out. It doesn't necessarily involve bondage, and it may not even involve scripts.
My preference is for professional attire, not the 70s retro "crack ho' from Shaft" look that seems to be eternally in style now. I have no interest in tying anyone up, or in reciting corny lines. Just prefer it when women dress properly.
I've toyed with the idea but remember how difficult it was to attain the idea I had in my head in real life even with a long time SO. As previously stated it seems the best bet is to keep it as unscripted as possible and simply go for a certain look i.e. cheerleader, schoolgirl, etc... Thats easy to do and it almost goes without saying as to how to act. If there is some kind of key word or phrase like "I've been naughty are you going to spank me?" then tell your partner that and allow her to take it from there. If you want her to talk like a little brat with a snotty attitude, or really innocent/naive like, tell her that and let her take it from there. Just keep it general and hope she paid attention in Drama class or has seen some really good porn.
I would add that role play is not something you usually jump right into with someone you are just getting to know. I have even seen an independent escort come right out on her site and warn that "No Role playing will be considered until after the first meeting." This particular girl was probably trying to discourage psychos from calling her in the first place and screening everyone else to make sure she would at least feel comfortable doing this with those who simply had a legitimate curiousity/fantasy they wanted fulfilled.
I would add that role play is not something you usually jump right into with someone you are just getting to know. I have even seen an independent escort come right out on her site and warn that "No Role playing will be considered until after the first meeting." This particular girl was probably trying to discourage psychos from calling her in the first place and screening everyone else to make sure she would at least feel comfortable doing this with those who simply had a legitimate curiousity/fantasy they wanted fulfilled.
I agree about BDSM.
Even though it has a large following, I don't see the appeal in dressing up in those insane leather outfits, tying each other up, barking commands, and deriving pleasure from physical pain and humiliation. And I can just imagine how frightened an SP must feel getting that kind of request.
But a lot of people seem to be into it, so as long as no one really gets hurt, live and let live.
Ironically, BDSM is actually legal in the US as long as there's no sex involved. So tying each other up and whipping the crap out of each other is legal, but 2 consensual adults having sex in exchange for money is not. Wonderful.
Even though it has a large following, I don't see the appeal in dressing up in those insane leather outfits, tying each other up, barking commands, and deriving pleasure from physical pain and humiliation. And I can just imagine how frightened an SP must feel getting that kind of request.
But a lot of people seem to be into it, so as long as no one really gets hurt, live and let live.
Ironically, BDSM is actually legal in the US as long as there's no sex involved. So tying each other up and whipping the crap out of each other is legal, but 2 consensual adults having sex in exchange for money is not. Wonderful.
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