Standard Sex or Kinky Sex with an SP?

[TheDon]

I have to admit that 80% of my sessions with an SP involves just standard sex. I've dabbled with a bit of kinky stuff but almost always revert back to standard sex. Even when the SP ask me what I like, I cannot sum up the courage to tell her that I want to get kinky. I usually just try to lead her into the kinky stuff that I like but it never gets to far. I'd just like to tell her when she walks in that I want to get kinky and jump right into it.

I guess all I want to know is that I'm not alone with my thoughts and that other hobbyist have the same views and how do I go about telling the SP "I want to kink it up!".

 

[Aeolus]

how do I go about telling the SP "I want to kink it up!".

Tell us about your kinks, Don. Depending on what you like, you might need to see a specialist, rather than a general practitioner.

 

[Miss Maria]

Hahaha!

Please don't stop yourself from your kinks!!! Depending on what they are, it can be the most fun part of the job! I suggest talking about them a bit to see if the girl is open to it. Everyone had their limits but sometime it can spice it up and make it super playful!

Good luck!

Maria xx

 

[Merlot]

I have to admit that 80% of my sessions with an SP involves just standard sex. I've dabbled with a bit of kinky stuff but almost always revert back to standard sex. Even when the SP ask me what I like, I cannot sum up the courage to tell her that I want to get kinky. I usually just try to lead her into the kinky stuff that I like but it never gets to far. I'd just like to tell her when she walks in that I want to get kinky and jump right into it.

I guess all I want to know is that I'm not alone with my thoughts and that other hobbyist have the same views and how do I go about telling the SP "I want to kink it up!".

Hello TD,

First define "Kinky"? I've done the dirty talk, ass slapping, hair pulling, throat grabbing, light tie bondage, and all orifices in unique positions in and on every part of the hotel room kinds of things. But from what I've seen on video none of that may qualify as kinky. Whatever anyone else might call it...it sure has been a lot of FUN!!!!! All I did was ask: "what do you like"?

No, I've never called any escort "mommy"...lol.

Happy trails,

Merlot

 

[sweetwater]

I have to admit that 80% of my sessions with an SP involves just standard sex. I've dabbled with a bit of kinky stuff but almost always revert back to standard sex. Even when the SP ask me what I like, I cannot sum up the courage to tell her that I want to get kinky. I usually just try to lead her into the kinky stuff that I like but it never gets to far. I'd just like to tell her when she walks in that I want to get kinky and jump right into it.

I guess all I want to know is that I'm not alone with my thoughts and that other hobbyist have the same views and how do I go about telling the SP "I want to kink it up!".

I know what you mean, Don. Maybe my thoughts aren't really that kinky, because it never really comes up once the lady arrives. I keep thinking that sometime I'd like to do this or that but those thoughts dissapear durring the initial conversation.

This might help......

Tell us about your kinks, Don. Depending on what you like, you might need to see a specialist, rather than a general practitioner.

...Uh Dr. A, I've had fantasies about sticking my pecker in a ....... well, maybe not.

Hello TD,

First define "Kinky"? I've done the dirty talk, ass slapping, hair pulling, throat grabbing, light tie bondage, sauce licking, and all orifices in unique positions in and on every part of the hotel kinds of things. But from what I've seen on video none of that may qualify as kinky. Whatever anyone else might call it...it sure has been a lot of FUN!!!!!

What is "sauce licking"? I tried looking it up. Two had no definition and the other said something about Martha Stewart and cranberries. I guess that could be kinky...Nah! I'll let someone else lick Martha Stewart.

No, I've never called any escort "mommy"...lol.

Better than calling one "daddy".

Sweetwater

 

[Possum Trot]

If S&M is kinky then I guess throat grabbing and hair pulling are kinky. If you want to do this I would definitely ask her first. Can't see it being fun myself but to each his own....

 

[Miss Maria]

I think kinky can be as simple as dressing up in a little innocent school girl or 'not-so-bright' secretary. Also, I think fishnet outfits are especially kinky and slutty.. For me, anything that involves something more then straight up missionary with light kissing could be kinky.. a little spanking, a little 'do you like the taste of my french canadian pussy?', a little lick an inch lower, a special squeeze, a dirty look, lots of saliva, a little 'oh my, what are you doing? mommy said boys shouldn't touch me there', a bite of watermelon served on a breast.. your imagination can take you many places.

Don't get me wrong, I love sensual passionate encounters where I become your horny girlfriend with who you have regular sweet sex with. I think meeting a stranger and getting paid to service him is pretty kinky already, even if it is regular sex, it is always exciting and different.

 

[Merlot]

Hello all,

What is "sauce licking"?

A sideways reference to chocolat sensuelle...and the like.

If S&M is kinky then I guess throat grabbing and hair pulling are kinky. If you want to do this I would definitely ask her first. Can't see it being fun myself but to each his own....

The funny part is the escorts requested it before I inquired about their likes. Actually, this kind of thing never happened for years. I never considered making such requests, and like The Don, I never really got comfortable about asking specifically for any of these. Then some escorts started saying..."pull my hair"..."slap my ass"...and more. I always wondered if this was part of the act along with the dirty talk...of course it is. But, I started asking: "what do you like?" Usually the lady will say something like..."no digits"..."no CIM"..."no anal", but you can "grab my hair a little"...etc. It's entertaining, and a few really seem to get into it. Still, if it happens it's always a small and brief part of the encounter, and few of them.

I think kinky can be as simple as dressing up in a little innocent school girl or 'not-so-bright' secretary. Also, I think fishnet outfits are especially kinky and slutty.. For me, anything that involves something more then straight up missionary with light kissing could be kinky.. a little spanking, a little 'do you like the taste of my french canadian pussy?', a little lick an inch lower, a special squeeze, a dirty look, lots of saliva, a little 'oh my, what are you doing? mommy said boys shouldn't touch me there', a bite of watermelon served on a breast.. your imagination can take you many places.

Mommy huh....

There's nothing like a woman dressed to be naughty. "Naughty" is the word I would use for most of the above fantasies. To me kinky is going to more exotic and strange scenarios I haven't been too and have no desire to go. But naughty dress, costumes, non-violent role-play, and play talk are all fun and exciting.

Don't get me wrong, I love sensual passionate encounters where I become your horny girlfriend with who you have regular sweet sex with. I think meeting a stranger and getting paid to service him is pretty kinky already, even if it is regular sex, it is always exciting and different.

You're right. I don't think "mommy" would approve...although what mommy doesn't know.......

Cheers,

Merlot

 

[st-cum]

Hmm...

In my beginners playbook, this is how I've chosen to approach it:

First encounter - get to know the person. Enjoy standard sex. (If you're in a sexual drought like I was, standard sex is all you need)

If this was worthy for further encounters, I would make reasonable requests to accompany standard sex if she's up for it. Hosiery, as I've alluded to in other threads, was high on my wish list. I had role play in mind for all of this with a background story and everything. She obliged like great pleasure! I think the woman is turned on more by the man's extra interest in her which is an additional benefit...

 

[Eddiemn]

I always wanted to have kinky sex with a sp but i don't know how to ask it. I'm like sweetwater, the final result is standard sex 99% of the time. Don't get me wrong, it's still great but i appreciated role play and dirty talk very much but can't never try it. My greatest memories are when the girl give me dirty look, tell me that she "want my dick in her mouth" and ask me thing like "taste my sweet pussy", etc...

I like role playing like the classic teacher/student scenario or the girl who stole something from me and now have to pay me back. I think i like it more that the actual sex, haha.

 

[Turbodick]

Hahaha!

Please don't stop yourself from your kinks!!! Depending on what they are, it can be the most fun part of the job! I suggest talking about them a bit to see if the girl is open to it. Everyone had their limits but sometime it can spice it up and make it super playful!

Good luck!

Maria xx

Maria, I've got a sudden craving for watermelon, but TheDon's question isn't being answered. He wants to know HOW to go about getting his desires across without coming across as a pervert. I'd suggest you have the items / ideas ready to go and see if she is bothered by it. If not, move to the next stage, but if not don't let it be a big deal or sour the encounter.

 

[sweetwater]

.. a little spanking, a little 'do you like the taste of my french canadian pussy?', a little lick an inch lower, a special squeeze, a dirty look, lots of saliva, a little 'oh my, what are you doing? mommy said boys shouldn't touch me there', a bite of watermelon served on a breast..

Oooh! Maria! I not only have a craving for watermelon, but some French Canadiian pussy, too. Can I touch you there and there, too? I'm in room 3 at the....

Sweetwater

 

[oobe]

A little bit kinky for me.
I can have my vanilla sex with non-pros, but I've never felt comfortable asking a one night stand for specific acts and risking breaking the mood; for me it's all about pleasing her.
With pros I can be more directive. Actually, my requests must not be that kinky since I've rarely felt the girl was offended by anything I suggested.
And no, I don't get what's with slapping her ass!

 

[Aeolus]

And no, I don't get what's with slapping her ass!

Maybe some guys are slappers because the ass is simply there. If Greek isn't on the menu, you've still got to do something with it, right? If you can't fuck it, slap it!

Seriously, I don't get it either. Red cheeks are a turn-off.

 

[Possum Trot]

Maybe some guys are slappers because the ass is simply there. If Greek isn't on the menu, you've still got to do something with it, right? If you can't fuck it, slap it!

Seriously, I don't get it either. Red cheeks are a turn-off.

I think it's yet another example of people copying what they see in porn, but then I never understood the whole S&M scene either.

 

[Turbodick]

Kinky sex with an SP anytime. However, if you get into relationship with an SP, sex with her will become standard as any other women, SP or not. Than you will have to get another sex partner, which could be one of her collegue. If so, this will lead you to a fabulous threesome and you will be able to sleep after sex with no comments from her since she will have someone to talk to.

I thought this threat was about kinky sex, not about impossible fantasies lol. In my fantasy the two ladies would leave me to sleep after we were done and quietly clean the house and press my shirts, shorts and socks.