Clients and providers what are your dream social date ideas?

[Rebaynia]

I refuse going to swinger clubs too, even with a trusted client.. it's just not my thing. I also feel like it's a way for the client to get a service I don't offer or would offer for more money, while not paying more. Yesterday someone messaged me and asked me if I would go to cinema l'amour with him lol.. some girls really love that type of thing, but it's not the case for me.

I love strip clubs tho because of their aesthetic, and I like encouraging other sex workers. I like that women are at the center of the experience.

When I hear music I like to dance too much. I'd be worried about getting into trouble. Drawing attention to myself in a place that the attention should be on them. Lol.
I've had nights out at the club, I swear, the quickest way to get men's attention is to politely and classily, just slip & dance away, boom just attracted 3 more men looking to dance and get close. Do it again, another 2 just saw and are now interested. Yeesh.
I love to dance, and think I'm good at it. Most of the time complimented by women, when I go out to the club. But I'm not dancer (stripper) material, I wouldn't even qualify. It's not a world I think I could/would survive, and I say that with the most respect to the lovely ones I have had the pleasure of meeting when they shared their realities in their workplaces.

But I will admit, in my own mind at the club, I form a mental bubble, I'm in my own world putting on a show for those who are looking to be entertained. The more people I see looking at me the more excited and turned on I am. When I'm with someone, even when dancing off on my own, I would return for kisses to say I was spoken for, to keep other men at bay.

Clubs are also where I used to pick up my 3some partners, before I knew about swinger clubs.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

When I hear music I like to dance too much. I'd be worried about getting into trouble. Drawing attention to myself in a place that the attention should be on them. Lol.
I've had nights out at the club, I swear, the quickest way to get men's attention is to politely and classily, just slip & dance away, boom just attracted 3 more men looking to dance and get close. Do it again, another 2 just saw and are now interested. Yeesh.
I love to dance, and think I'm good at it. Most of the time complimented by women, when I go out to the club. But I'm not dancer (stripper) material, I wouldn't even qualify. It's not a world I think I could/would survive, and I say that with the most respect to the lovely ones I have had the pleasure of meeting when they shared their realities in their workplaces.

But I will admit, in my own mind at the club, I form a mental bubble, I'm in my own world putting on a show for those who are looking to be entertained. The more people I see looking at me the more excited and turned on I am. When I'm with someone, even when dancing off on my own, I would return for kisses to say I was spoken for, to keep other men at bay.

Clubs are also where I used to pick up my 3some partners, before I knew about swinger clubs.

I think when it comes to activities outside an incall or hotel room, I definitely prefer doing things I enjoy doing in my personal life and I'd rather go to a cute bar that has good DJ's over a huge nightclub..

 

[jeffmathers]

I refuse going to swinger clubs too, even with a trusted client.. it's just not my thing. I also feel like it's a way for the client to get a service I don't offer or would offer for more money, while not paying more. Yesterday someone messaged me and asked me if I would go to cinema l'amour with him lol.. some girls really love that type of thing, but it's not the case for me.

I love strip clubs tho because of their aesthetic, and I like encouraging other sex workers. I like that women are at the center of the experience.

Wow this theater has a lot of history

"In 1926, Houdini passed through Montreal on a tour that took him from Rhode Island to the Midwest.[6] Arriving in Montreal on October 18th, 1926, he lectured at McGill University. [6]A few days later, while resting in his dressing room at Le Globe Theatre (now Cinema L’Amour), Houdini posed for a portrait by a McGill student.[6] During this time, he was approached by a first-year McGill student named J. Gordon Whitehead, who supposedly punched him in his abdomen several times.[6] As the tour continued, Houdini’s condition worsened. Nine days after the incident at Le Globe, his appendix ruptured, and he collapsed during his performance in Detroit, later being diagnosed with peritonitis.[6] He died shortly after on November 4, 1926.[6]"

 

[LeDodo]

If I'm planning on meeting few providers, I'll propose to go to the recently opened Prison Island.

You might think that this is just a regular escape room however instead it's more like a challenging "island" with 30 rooms where you either need to use your ability, brain or muscles to overcome the challenge.
There is a certain creativity to the type of room that I really like and that will immerse you into each of them.
Also after completing a challenge you will be able to unlock the next level! And in the same room, the challenge cranks up in difficulty!

Your team will be given a token that allows you to enter a room and start a challenge. If you succeed it, points will be given to you and you will be able to see your ranking against other groups!

As we say in French: après l'effort, le réconfort (After the effort, the reward). We can indulge ourselves into a nice meal to recover from our intense challenges like in the nearby Haidilao and after that the night is ours ...

 

[Fradi]

I have actually 3 in mind hopefully I can talk my ATF into it.

2 week vacation visiting Budapest, Prague, Vienna, Dubrovnik.

2 week Mediterranean cruise starting In Barcelona and ending in Athens with ports of call in Italy, Croatia, France, Turkey and a couple of Greek islands.

2 week Australia/ New Zealand vacation with fun in the sun snorkelling on the Great Barrier Reef and staying in Cairns, maybe a day or two in Sydney and then another week in Auckland, New Zealand.

These are some of my favourite places and I would love to show them to my ATF.

 

[interferon]

Wander a couple of art galleries,then a picnic in some quiet park.

 

[Enjoying life]

I have actually 3 in mind hopefully I can talk my ATF into it.

2 week vacation visiting Budapest, Prague, Vienna, Dubrovnik.

2 week Mediterranean cruise starting In Barcelona and ending in Athens with ports of call in Italy, Croatia, France, Turkey and a couple of Greek islands.

2 week Australia/ New Zealand vacation with fun in the sun snorkelling on the Great Barrier Reef and staying in Cairns, maybe a day or two in Sydney and then another week in Auckland, New Zealand.

These are some of my favourite places and I would love to show them to my ATF.

Wow that would cost a lot!

 

[Giselle Montreal]

Wow that would cost a lot!

What he doesn't say is that he will * never * pay her.

 

[urquell]

I have actually 3 in mind hopefully I can talk my ATF into it.

2 week vacation visiting Budapest, Prague, Vienna, Dubrovnik.

2 week Mediterranean cruise starting In Barcelona and ending in Athens with ports of call in Italy, Croatia, France, Turkey and a couple of Greek islands.

2 week Australia/ New Zealand vacation with fun in the sun snorkelling on the Great Barrier Reef and staying in Cairns, maybe a day or two in Sydney and then another week in Auckland, New Zealand.

These are some of my favourite places and I would love to show them to my ATF.

All would be fun, but I would discourage you from doing the Australia/ New Zealand one with a companion just because of the huge travel time on both ends and the jet lag. You'd lose a lot of the companionship time in travel and acclimatizing. The last time I went to Indonesia I promised myself I wouldn't do it (or other countries in the area) again unless I was going for 3 weeks minimum. I don't know if you've traveled with your ATF or not before, but I very strongly recommend that if you haven't then you should either do a shorter trip or something with shorter travel time. I have discovered to my horror that even people who are great friends and wonderful people can sometimes make awful travel companions. Of course, if you've already traveled with her then you can totally ignore that last part. lol.

 

[Fradi]

What he doesn't say is that he will * never * pay her.

Is that any of your business lol.

All would be fun, but I would discourage you from doing the Australia/ New Zealand one with a companion just because of the huge travel time on both ends and the jet lag. You'd lose a lot of the companionship time in travel and acclimatizing. The last time I went to Indonesia I promised myself I wouldn't do it (or other countries in the area) again unless I was going for 3 weeks minimum. I don't know if you've traveled with your ATF or not before, but I very strongly recommend that if you haven't then you should either do a shorter trip or something with shorter travel time. I have discovered to my horror that even people who are great friends and wonderful people can sometimes make awful travel companions. Of course, if you've already traveled with her then you can totally ignore that last part. lol.

Yes it is a long flight usually stop over in Vancouver and also in Auckland depends on the airline.
I grew up in Melbourne so I know what it is like, been to Auckland a few times never to the other island so I am looking forward to that and maybe extend a week like you said and see Tasmania again.

 

[Fradi]

What he doesn't say is that he will * never * pay her.

I think she is doing very well financially with me for the past 9 years lol.

 

[Enjoying life]

What he doesn't say is that he will * never * pay her.

Ya sure! No such thing! It’s still a refreshing situation!

 

[Yoyo17]

I would very much like to go to Tremblant (or Charlevoix) snowboarding with a provider (esp. if it ended with some fun apres-ski ) but it's just too cost prohibitive. I get that a whole day of time is being used up but it just doesn't make sense to eat it all up with driving and spending the whole time bundled up to the gills, but I just know a fun few that would be ideal snow buddies/bunnies.

Il y a seximya sur LL qui offre ça. Jamais testé.

 

[LeafsSuck]

I don't mind to take a SW on a date to a high-end restaurant and pay for it of course but to pay $100/hour for them to be with me is not interesting to me at all. I have a handful of buddies I can take and we will have a great time. Actually, we do this every week! I did make this offer a couple years ago to take a SP (I made a post) to one of these places (because you work so hard and deserve it!!) but the feedback I got was I have to pay for social time. I get it! I am not looking to have social time with a SP, I am just trying to make a nice gesture if that is not a nice gesture for you then it is 100% fine. I will continue to go with the guys.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

I don't mind to take a SW on a date to a high-end restaurant and pay for it of course but to pay $100/hour for them to be with me is not interesting to me at all. I have a handful of buddies I can take and we will have a great time. Actually, we do this every week! I did make this offer a couple years ago to take a SP (I made a post) to one of these places (because you work so hard and deserve it!!) but the feedback I got was I have to pay for social time. I get it! I am not looking to have social time with a SP, I am just trying to make a nice gesture if that is not a nice gesture for you then it is 100% fine. I will continue to go with the guys.

The thing is, we are being paid for our time. If you don't want social time with a SP, then don't book it. It's as simple as that.. I'd much rather a client goes out with the guys instead of him being angry he has to pay for social time with me... It's really rare that a client only books social time, by the way. Really often the restaurant or whatever activity is part of a longer date, which will involve sex. I've had guys book social time with me and take me for a picnic at the park, I liked that just as much as going to a high end restaurant.

 

[Julia Sky]

I don't mind to take a SW on a date to a high-end restaurant [...] I did make this offer a couple years ago to take a SP (I made a post) to one of these places (because you work so hard and deserve it!!) but the feedback I got was I have to pay for social time.

This might shock you but people who get paid hundreds an hour can afford a high end dinner on their own once in a while. I know you had good intentions but this is not it unfortunately lol.

We, too, have friends we can have dinner with. Companionship is my job, so I'm not going to dinner with a complete stranger for free because he made a post, no matter how nice the restaurant is. I have clients paying me for dinner dates, and then I can go have dinner at a later date at high end restaurants with my own friends and pay for them, as a treat, because I love spoiling my friends, they work hard and deserve it ;p Maybe you could call your friends and offer to pay their high end meal instead of inviting escorts who are busy getting paid or hanging out with their own friends!

And don't get me wrong... I've actually gone to dinner with a few clients (very few) for free over the years but it was after establishing a connection, trust, and they were regular clients I knew weren't going to blur the lines or stop booking me (or do it less frequently) because of a dinner. Another way to meet me socially without paying me is to attend industry social events I'm a part of

 

[Lunaseraphim]

This might shock you but people who get paid hundreds an hour can afford a high end dinner on their own once in a while. I know you had good intentions but this is not it unfortunately lol.

We, too, have friends we can have dinner with. Companionship is my job, so I'm not going to dinner with a complete stranger for free because he made a post, no matter how nice the restaurant is. I have clients paying me for dinner dates, and then I can go have dinner at a later date at high end restaurants with my own friends and pay for them, as a treat, because I love spoiling my friends, they work hard and deserve it ;p Maybe you could call your friends and offer to pay their high end meal instead of inviting escorts who are busy getting paid or hanging out with their own friends!

And don't get me wrong... I've actually gone to dinner with a few clients (very few) for free over the years but it was after establishing a connection, trust, and they were regular clients I knew weren't going to blur the lines or stop booking me (or do it less frequently) because of a dinner. Another way to meet me socially without paying me is to attend industry social events I'm a part of

I don't get invited to industry social events so that's not a thing for me. If there was an opportunity for me to go to one, I'd gladly go. So this isn't about me being cheap with my time, but my energy has limits, and so does my social battery.. for reasons I will not describe here.

Other than that, I agree with everything you said.

 

[LeafsSuck]

Another way to meet me socially without paying me is to attend industry social events I'm a part of

I am not trying to meet someone without paying them. I don't know why you want to turn my words around. I thought it was a nice offer but I guess you're right, you have your own friends to hang out with.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

I am not trying to meet someone without paying them. I don't know why you want to turn my words around. I thought it was a nice offer but I guess you're right, you have your own friends to hang out with.

I don't think she meant that you're trying to meet somebody without paying them but the context is that companionship is our job.

I know to many of you, our job is purely sexual acts. But that's not reality, a lot of guys book longer dates, some just want to cuddle, some want just want to have a few drinks and chat... Etc. Companionship involves more than just sex. This applies to all providers, not just indies.

 

[Julia Sky]

I am not trying to meet someone without paying them. I don't know why you want to turn my words around. I thought it was a nice offer but I guess you're right, you have your own friends to hang out with.

I wasn't speaking about you specifically, I never met you at an industry event. I'm confused by this reaction.

But also, you just said all that :

I did make this offer a couple years ago to take a SP (I made a post) to one of these places (because you work so hard and deserve it!!) but the feedback I got was I have to pay for social time.

And I'm confused as to how taking a sp to a restaurant without paying for social time wouldn't qualify as meeting a SP without paying her.

I was just saying that one way to see me socially outside of paid bookings is through industry events.

I am not looking to have social time with a SP, I am just trying to make a nice gesture

Unless you drop her there and go on your way, don't talk to her at all, or send an etransfer that says "enjoy dinner on me tonight", how is it not social time? Going to a restaurant with someone is a social interaction, paid or not