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February and Love Festivities Ideas

Beatrice Thomas

Flirty and brilliant sexologist
Supporting Member
Nov 29, 2022

February is considered the love month.

Some find that fantastic, and others dreadful.

I think both are correct.

Here is why.


Love isn't what we think it is.

When we think of "love," we often have in mind the romantic definition of the concept.
We think about love as something cheezy going on between two naive but happy individuals.
That's a really sad way of seeing things. Far too narrow and limiting.

I prefer to think of love as some heartwarming energy that naturally draws us to do good around us.

To do good for lovable people.
To do good for the places that we cherish.
To do good for ourselves.

How can we be sure that love is there?

At the end of the day, we feel uplifted and abundant when we've loved.
More so when we've also felt loved.

Love is the most powerful sensation I know to lighten our individual existential loneliness.
That's a pretty intellectual phrasing rooted in psycho-philosophy, but I'm sure you know what I mean.

And if you don't, I basically mean that love makes us forget that we were born alone and we will die alone.
Those are among the many irreversible life events that we have to endure alone, as nobody but ourselves lives inside our body and mind.
Love makes us feel less alone as we confront that fact.

That is non-negligible.

"I love you." And then what?

In the past few years, I've learned to think of love as something we all give and receive, but in so many different ways and levels that we sometimes end up blind to its omnipresence.

I've learned to feel comfortable saying "I love you" to people whom I share no romantic relationship with.
I've learned that they, too, can end up feeling comfortable enough to say it back (and feel comfortable not to, as well).
Because when you express your love for a person, a situation, a thing, or a place, you are ultimately expressing your appreciation of it as it is.

That means there is no need for reciprocity for love to be.
You don't need anyone to be able to feel the love.
You just do.

When love sucks

Love in itself doesn't really suck.
But it can definitely suck if it gives us unattainable hopes.

So, yeah, we can be mad at love from time to time.
I have.
I will again, probably.

That's ok. It will be painful. On and off. And then, it will pass.

We can choose not to love

Of course, we can.
That means we also choose to block intimacy and connection to avoid it.

We elude important conversations because we don't want to get involved and feel engaged.
That's to avoid emotions.
We don't express ourselves because we don't want to lend the power of our exposed vulnerability.
That's to protect ourselves.
We might feel resentful for not receiving the care and affection that we need.
That's the price to pay.

There is both good and bad in loving and in not loving. In that way, love is a choice.
And a choice always comes with renunciations.

That sucks.
I guess the best thing to do is to choose what we can accept letting go of.
And we can always change our minds.

In the meantime, if you want a date during love month, please reach out!
I'd be delighted to discover the wonderful human being that you are.

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Enough with the serious talk.
Place to festive ideas.


Of course, we don't need to wait for February to love.
Of course, we don't have to love because February is there.
But, hey, since it's there, why not dive into it and have our fair share of fun?

I can get bored easily
when things become repetitive and I can guess too easily what's ahead.
I appreciate
a good old "dine and wine" or "movie night".

Yet, my mind can't help but
imagine other opportunities for creative fun.

So, I've collected a few activities ideas to
replace the "dinner" in "dinner date".

Obviously, the list is not exhaustive.
Feel free to add ideas in the comments.
The more, the merrier!

So, I give you the "This or That" contest.

Let's see what gets the most votes!

Today's opponents:


Give your answer in the comments!

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