The Confessional
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I just started dating someone but my mind is constantly on my ex, I feel bad that I’m thinking about another woman, but getting into dating has brought up old memories, my ex was everything I wanted in a woman, and I don’t feel like anyone else could come close. I know you shouldn’t compare but I can’t help it. I feel guilty for how I feel and saddened by the loss.
I have been living that for 20 years on at least 2 exes, even if my current partner is a great woman. Certain exes have a talent to stay stuck in your brains forever.
However, interesting story, one of them, I saw in a restaurant years after we broke up totally by chance. She had changed so much that I felt zero attraction. This to a point I realized I was relieved I wasn't with her anymore, even though she was the one that broke up with me. Still to this day, I still think about how she was when we were together.
This happens often, we're not attached to the other person, but to the memory of them. The memory of the good things we had together because a lot of emotions are linked to those souvenirs. It's important to make the difference. Our memory is one of the biggest traitors, I find.
People change but memories are a snapshot frozen in time.
"My ex? We are not enemies, we are not friends. We are just strangers with some memories."
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I once (ok probably more than once) threw garbage off of my balcony onto the ground on garbage day. I was young and stupid. I can still hear the sound of it hitting the ground. How do I repent?! I'm sorry!
I can help you repent for your sin!
Brutal honesty, you are not alone.
I was intrigued by your comment. I figured it is related to the comment you made at 9:59 PM on another thread. If it is, I agree with you. Sadly, it is difficult for some people to sympathize if they didn't have the same experience. White people denying the existence of institutional racism or men mocking the trauma of women that were sexually abused
There is empathy and there is compassion. To have empathy (understand what is like walking in someone else's shoes) having lived it really helps.
But to have compassion (wanting to reduce pain and suffering) you don't need to have experienced it. You just need a heart.
So while some people may not be able to understand others because they don't have the same experience, this is no excuse to be heartless.
But to have compassion (wanting to reduce pain and suffering) you don't need to have experienced it. You just need a heart.
So while some people may not be able to understand others because they don't have the same experience, this is no excuse to be heartless.
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I think it's fine. I still think about my first GF from 20 years ago once in a while. But I was young and stupid. But you never know.. maybe things would have gone terribly with her longer
Don't feel guilty at all. It wasn't an accident. She knows exactly what she is doing.
I still masturbate (often) thinking of 2 of my exes from 30 and 35 years ago! Best sex ever but worst mental relationship.
Crazy and wild sex are a positive correlation brother!! my ex once basically broke everything in my place and also try to hit me by throwing me random stuff
It was a wild ride!!! Thats a hot chick from Hong Kong petite, sexy af and loveeees filming herself and send me naughty videos randomly in the middle of the day.
Apparently for Asian chicks, if anyone are into them, the shorter they are the bigger temper they have haha
I've had to recently stop seeing a regular provider bc they won't stop blurring the line when we're together. It may just be a kink for them but they're leaning into dirty talk that involves breeding and marriage and stuff like that that I've specifically said takes me out of it. The breeding fantasy/kink can be hot in moderation (not in reality, ofc) but don't keep whispering non-sexual relationship stuff at me bc I'm not looking for that, is what I've mentioned at length, and it just won't quit. It seems she's not willing to let it go so the confession is that I'll be ghosting her when she's around and reaches out moving forward.
Have you talked to her about it? It's weird as hell
