In gratitude, and a note on reviews

[kessandrakline]

Hello lovelies!

I have started this thread for a couple of reasons. One is to write a massive thank-you note to those with whom I had the great pleasure of first meeting in March, when I posted a thread in the Independent Escorts forum about my special weekend of hosting incalls -- and also to mention my gratitude to these forums for giving me the gift of wonderfully intimate new connections with some extraordinarily kindred spirits! My sincere apologies for the belatedness of my thank-you note, I just realized my slip in manners in the shower this morning as the soap was slipping out of my hand, as these things tend to do!

I also wanted to mention my "review policy" to anyone interested. (I had wanted to post this in the appropriate Sticky, but it is currently locked, so I hope it is alright that I've taken the liberty of starting this new thread). I prefer not to be reviewed, as in the past, when I have received reviews, while they have been flattering and written with good intentions, I received more inquiries than I could possibly handle, which was more overwhelming and stressful to me than a blessing. While I realize that by certain definitions, I am providing a “service”, it is an intrinsically personal service, and as a human being, I cannot help but feel commoditized and objectified by being "rated”.

As well, I do not want anyone to form expectations of a prospective date with me -- which depends so highly on such unique variables as you and I -- based on the fantasies of others and how they have interpreted their time with me. To compensate for my lack of reviews, I (a very novice webmistress!) have newly built my website from scratch, and have tried to convey as much of my personality and appearance as accurately as I can there. I also frequently have photo-shoots to keep my photos are up to date, and to represent what I really look like, I use little to no retouching on them.

If you cannot resist the impulse to review our time together, I request that you respect our mutual confidentiality, and keep the explicit and intimate details between you and I, to spare my privacy and feelings. And no numbered ratings, please -- I may be juicy, but I am not a filet mignon, and I may be talented, but I am not an Olympic diver!

I am not currently an advertiser on this site, and I hope it is okay by the forum's rules that I have started this thread. I've researched the FAQs, but I am still not clear. I tried to take out my contact details and website link in my Signature to be on the cautious side, in case they are not allowed here, and I also tried to repair the broken photo link there, but was not able to edit it (if anyone could lend me a hand with that I'd be most appreciative!) My sincere apologies if I've violated any rules here -- this is not intended to be an advertisement, as I believe in giving credit where it is due -- but I want to prevent any misunderstandings from occurring between myself and any potential reviewers. I don't mean for this thread to be just about me and my personal review policy, however! If it turns into a more general discussion about how both companions and their friends feel about reviewing and being reviewed in light of what I've just said, that could be interesting.

Much warmth and many thanks,

Kessandra xo

 

[wasisname]

Uh huh.
You can design your own website according to the eros montreal link you left in your sig but you can't successfully remove your contact details?

As for reviews causing " more inquiries than I could possibly handle, which was more overwhelming and stressful to me than a blessing". can be a problem. What reviews are these? None showed up on a search of your name as one or two words.


Figure a gal who charges 800 bucks for 2 hours wouldn't need to cheap out on advertising like this.

Pity, you have a nice build and I can overlook the moles. But for 800 for 2 hours and "This is not an offer of prostitution. These fees are considered "gifts" in exchange for my companionship and time only, and whatever may transpire between us during this time will be the result of adults acting upon their free will and enjoyment."
I am not surprised you are having difficulty in saving money for those yoga lessons mentioned in the FAQ.
800 bucks for 2 hours and not even a prostitute. A bit of a slap in the face to those hard working women who pay merb to place ads and have the decency to promise coitus for half the price IMHO.

 

[kessandrakline]

Wow, harsh crowd, and your reply verges on a personal attack: "Pity, you have a nice build and I can overlook the moles."

Uh huh.
You can design your own website according to the eros montreal link you left in your sig but you can't successfully remove your contact details?

When I open my own profile I can edit my Biography, Location, Interest, and Occupations sections by clicking on a cute little pencil icon, but there is no pencil icon beside my signature.

I created my website with much confusion, cups of coffee, and trial and error (html scripts are all Greek to me).

As for reviews causing " more inquiries than I could possibly handle, which was more overwhelming and stressful to me than a blessing". can be a problem. What reviews are these? None showed up on a search of your name as one or two words.

This was my experience years ago when I was working in Vancouver. I took a few years of hiatus in which I only saw a handful of close friends by semi-exclusive arrangements there, before moving to Montreal and eventually making my debut here.

Figure a gal who charges 800 bucks for 2 hours wouldn't need to cheap out on advertising like this.

I'm considering becoming a supporting member of the forum again, but I wanted to make my wishes re: reviews known before becoming more visible here; I also wanted to test the waters, and see what kind of a reception I got...

Pity, you have a nice build and I can overlook the moles. But for 800 for 2 hours and "This is not an offer of prostitution. These fees are considered "gifts" in exchange for my companionship and time only, and whatever may transpire between us during this time will be the result of adults acting upon their free will and enjoyment."
I am not surprised you are having difficulty in saving money for those yoga lessons mentioned in the FAQ.
800 bucks for 2 hours and not even a prostitute. A bit of a slap in the face to those hard working women who pay merb to place ads and have the decency to promise coitus for half the price IMHO.

I have plans to tour the US this summer, and feel it is wise to have such a disclaimer to protect myself, as it ain't Kansas everywhere down there!
While I have only respect for other providers regardless of how they like to refer to themselves, because the word "prostitute" has unfortunately acquired such negative connotations, I prefer to use other language when referring to myself and what I do. Thanks for reading my ad so closely as to notice the fine print, and for reading my FAQ.

 

[gan]

That is easy.

Have a look at the grey bar just above the main content area. Notice the "Forum Actions" field. It has a drop-down menu with "Edit Profile" as an option. When you click on "Edit Profile", you see a "My settings" panel on the bottom left of your screen. You will then see the "Edit Signature" option there. Voila!!

 

[kessandrakline]

That is easy.

Have a look at the grey bar just above the main content area. Notice the "Forum Actions" field. It has a drop-down menu with "Edit Profile" as an option. When you click on "Edit Profile", you see a "My settings" panel on the bottom left of your screen. You will then see the "Edit Signature" option there. Voila!!

Thanks for your help, Gan! :wave: I needed it, and I've removed my link from my signature (I'm still not clear as to whether it is allowed or not...).

Did I mention that creating my website took many, many cups of coffee?! I could probably sell my pee to Starbucks, LOL.

 

[rumpleforeskiin]

Kessandra,

I'm not absolutely sure about this, but I believe No Review privileges are reserved for massage parlors and retired escorts.

 

[Mod 8]

We do not grant a No Review Policy to any active escort unless there are exceptional circumstances in regards to personal safety. In such cases, the lady must not be part of any advertising anywhere on the Internet or elsewhere. If an SP is actively advertising her services, she cannot request a NRP. Of course, any provider may express their wish not to be reviewed directly to their clients when they meet, and an advertiser is free to include such a request in their advertising if they wish, but MERB will not enforce such a request.


Non-advertising providers, whether escorts or massage providers, cannot include any photos, self promotional text or contact details in their profile, signature or posts. If someone wishes to promote their services, they can become an advertiser.


Although this thread can be considered to be promotional in nature, I will allow it to continue for a time in case any members wish to comment. It will be closed and removed later tonight.

Mod 8

 

[rumpleforeskiin]

There is also a recent glowing review from a first time poster also so 2 free advertises.

Sol, I don't believe Kessandra and Kassandra, about whom the questionable review was written, are one and the same. They have different web sites.

 

[Sol Tee Nutz]

Never caught that, thanks. Saw both sites, wow name is too close. Someone could be riding on someone's coattails.

 

[kessandrakline]

We do not grant a No Review Policy to any active escort unless there are exceptional circumstances in regards to personal safety. In such cases, the lady must not be part of any advertising anywhere on the Internet or elsewhere. If an SP is actively advertising her services, she cannot request a NRP. Of course, any provider may express their wish not to be reviewed directly to their clients when they meet, and an advertiser is free to include such a request in their advertising if they wish, but MERB will not enforce such a request.

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Although this thread can be considered to be promotional in nature, I will allow it to continue for a time in case any members wish to comment. It will be closed and removed later tonight.

Mod 8

To be clear, I am not requesting a no review policy; I am just making my feelings about reviews know. A new friend of mine recently contacted me to kindly ask permission to write a review of our date, so that is partly why I brought this up.

Perhaps it is best that this thread be deleted... For several reasons, such as my desire for privacy and anonymity in my home city, I generally prefer to see clients from out of town. Although the gentlemen of Montreal do hold a place in my heart!

 

[rumpleforeskiin]

Kessandra, you can delete the thread quite easily. Go back up to your first post, the one that started the thread. At the bottom right, you'll find a little button, "Edit Post." Now delete the post. Anytime the first post in a given thread is deleted, the entire thread disappears with it. Poof.

 

[wasisname]

To be clear, I am not requesting a no review policy; I am just making my feelings about reviews know.

That is the impression I got.

Kessandra, you can delete the thread quite easily. Go back up to your first post, the one that started the thread. At the bottom right, you'll find a little button, "Edit Post." Now delete the post. Anytime the first post in a given thread is deleted, the entire thread disappears with it. Poof.

I believe the delete thread option is a limited time thing. But don't quote me on that and not just because Merb has strict quoting rules, I could be wrong.

 

[Mod 8]

There is no time limit on member control of their posts. All members can delete their posts, and by extension their threads, at any time. There are times when a thread has become very important to the MERB community and a moderator will take over the thread to prevent it's deletion but the original starting post can always be deleted by the poster.

Seeing as things have been clarified by all parties, this thread is now closed and will be removed later this evening.