Porn definitively play a big role. I cannot even count the amount of times a men said that he did a duo and he was disappointed (not what he expected). Porn is not the reality lol. They shoot 6 to 12 hours for a 15-30min vidéo. There's a whole crew telling them what to do. They stop in the middle of filming scenes all the time to get a better angle, to have a different moan or scream, to put makeup or fix the hair, to hold positions to do picture shoots; mens takes pills or injections to maintain their erection etc. Thinking that porn is reality and the normality is the same as thinking that Samuel L.Jackson is a hitman because he played one in Pulp Fiction.I've been reading this thread attentively and the one about what clients wish we had at our incalls because I want to improve my services, but it leaves me feeling a bit discouraged lol I don't have a mini bar, a wide screen TV or anything fancy like this at my incall. However it made me decide to offer more types of non alcoholic beverages and perhaps light snacks.My services tho.. I think I'm good for now. As someone mentioned on another thread, even if I don't agree with that person on other things, if you keep offering things you don't like, you will burn yourself out in this industry. If I don't offer a certain service, it means I don't like it and I'm not comfortable with it.
Cim, cob, cof, toys and msog are included in my service, I sometimes cater to certain kinks as well, I'm glad they are and I'm not going to take them off the menu anytime soon.. (I'm in the process of learning domination as well) but I didn't offer some of them before. being on this forum and seeing ''she doesn't even do xyz, what a worthless experience'' made me really self conscious, all the demands for anal, face fucking, submission, roleplay made me want to compensate somewhere else, even if none of this is supposed to be offered in GFE. I often get told ''oh other GFE providers offer xyz'' and it leaves me puzzled a bit.
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I offered anal the first months of being a SP because I felt like I had to since at the time I didn't offer bbbj, but it hurt so much that I was in pain all day after even just a 30 min appointment, and sometimes clients would just shove it in there without asking because they didn't understand we needed preparation, I realized after a booking that one guy even took off the condom while he was at it probably because he didn't think he could catch a STI that way, so I stopped offering it.
Also, being a submissive during a session with a client is not the same thing as being with a boyfriend. Some SP's offer it and there's nothing wrong with it, but it makes sense for most of us to refuse doing that, because it can actually be traumatic and it can be dangerous to do that with someone you don't know yet. Domination also requires certain skills, a lot of consent and aftercare.. Are ''domme clients'' willing to provide aftercare, use safe words etc? Do they know how to do certain things without physically harming the person? That's part of BDSM. When I first started as a SP I had another name and somebody said I was submissive because I was shy and that awkwardness was interpreted as submission, and the clients I had back then didn't understand that these dynamics require consent and care.
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I think a lot of people are influenced by what they seen in porn, which doesn't represent reality. Anal is only basic if you think what you see in porn is an average sexual experience with a SP or civilian woman. An escort is not a porn actress or someone who is supposed to offer the most extreme sexual experience possible. I don't want to shame clients, or anyone, for having certain sexual fantasies or desires, but people need to understand that not everyone is going to be willing to fulfill those.. Also fantasy vs reality when it comes to these experiences aren't the same.
What's something you wish more SPs provided?
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Exactly. I also think there are plenty of SP who offer a generous PSE service including greek. If that's what you are looking for then just book that person.
I just want to point out that if a SP is offering something she doesn't feel comfortable doing or even hates doing, this won't make your experience pleasant.
I actually saw pornstars of Quebec at the Quebec level. One is known outside Quebec. It was good but not even close to what you see in the movies. They themselves would confess they overexagerate and that guys take drugs. Some experiences with non pornstars were better. If you watch too much porn or crazy movies you start having a distorted view of reality.
It’s very fun and I recommend it if you can afford it
You do what’s good for you at your own comfort level Luna!I've been reading this thread attentively and the one about what clients wish we had at our incalls because I want to improve my services, but it leaves me feeling a bit discouraged lol I don't have a mini bar, a wide screen TV or anything fancy like this at my incall. However it made me decide to offer more types of non alcoholic beverages and perhaps light snacks.
Cim, cob, cof, toys and msog are included in my service, I sometimes cater to certain kinks as well, I'm glad they are and I'm not going to take them off the menu anytime soon.. (I'm in the process of learning domination as well) but I didn't offer some of them before. being on this forum and seeing ''she doesn't even do xyz, what a worthless experience'' made me really self conscious, all the demands for anal, face fucking, submission, roleplay made me want to compensate somewhere else, even if none of this is supposed to be offered in GFE. I often get told ''oh other GFE providers offer xyz'' and it leaves me puzzled a bit.
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I offered anal the first months of being a SP because I felt like I had to since at the time I didn't offer bbbj, but it hurt so much that I was in pain all day after even just a 30 min appointment, and sometimes clients would just shove it in there without asking because they didn't understand we needed preparation, I realized after a booking that one guy even took off the condom while he was at it probably because he didn't think he could catch a STI that way, so I stopped offering it.
Also, being a submissive during a session with a client is not the same thing as being with a boyfriend. Some SP's offer it and there's nothing wrong with it, but it makes sense for most of us to refuse doing that, because it can actually be traumatic and it can be dangerous to do that with someone you don't know yet. Domination also requires certain skills, a lot of consent and aftercare.. Are ''domme clients'' willing to provide aftercare, use safe words etc? Do they know how to do certain things without physically harming the person? That's part of BDSM. When I first started as a SP I had another name and somebody said I was submissive because I was shy and that awkwardness was interpreted as submission, and the clients I had back then didn't understand that these dynamics require consent and care.
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I think a lot of people are influenced by what they seen in porn, which doesn't represent reality. Anal is only basic if you think what you see in porn is an average sexual experience with a SP or civilian woman. An escort is not a porn actress or someone who is supposed to offer the most extreme sexual experience possible. I don't want to shame clients, or anyone, for having certain sexual fantasies or desires, but people need to understand that not everyone is going to be willing to fulfill those.. Also fantasy vs reality when it comes to these experiences aren't the same.
Even better in french:
"Un drapeau sur le terrain pour envahissement, pénalité de 5 verges, 2ième essai!
Let me put on my Cheerleader outfits !!!! Such a fun ideas during football season
Wow some dudes on this thread never has or need to work with the public. Let just refocus this whole conversation. Being a agency type of guy, I would go with roleplay or costume to complement the foreplay. I'll be the happiest man in the world if i could dato and russian a girl dress up as Zatanna from dc comics or play the classic porn scenarios. Also shower sex. I know it's because the girl don't want to do their makeup and hair between each client and know that some girls offer it if you are the last client of the day, but myself being the type who want's to be the first client of the day, i kind of accept that this is not on the menu.
Tbh costumes sound super fun but i would want the client to provide them! As for shower sex.. I think it's nice in theory but not always in practice lol
For real I think I just found an untapped kink market. Follow me on this one: sps that offer submissive services dressing up as a referee. I know a lot of sports bros that would love to fuck a ref lmao.
"Oops, did I make a bad call there
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I haven't been to any organization for condoms. I've been buying my own all this time. But think now I am so stuck to my latex free, I might not be content with just any kind.
I have had a duo before and it was everything I expected. I'm surprised it sounds like those clients you mentioned thought makeup, hair, stamina, etc would be different. I imagine people should expect duos to be at least a little awkwardly funny at times because often times people don't know each other well.
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Here's an honest, if not fully fleshed out, idea: I love the idea of FMTY/vacation with an sp but the two things I can't get around are the cost (no shade on pricing, it's a ton of time/logistics/money-earning potential lost by an sp so I fully get it) and the fear that maybe a week/weekend is too long to spend together (unless you've frequented this person at length in the past). Recently I've seen a couple providers taking their own holidays but posting the dates and places and being available to work while vacationing and that seems way more doable, even with some extra cost built into the hourly rates. Like, they plan to go to Germany for example, these cities on these dates, post it well in advance and maybe you line up your vacation to intersect and can steal them away for a couple awesome nights or something.
I realize as I'm typing this that it's simpler on paper but I have geniunely been tempted to go somewhere I've always wanted to visit sooner than I'd planned specifically because an sp was going to be there.
IDK, does any of this make sense?
I realize as I'm typing this that it's simpler on paper but I have geniunely been tempted to go somewhere I've always wanted to visit sooner than I'd planned specifically because an sp was going to be there.
IDK, does any of this make sense?
Other than time, logistics, money earning potential at risk, there is also stress for the provider. If you use google flights you can see the cheapest trips in the next several months to various cities, go there, see SPs, do tourist stuff, and then head home for greater ease than having someone spend a significant length of time working. Plenty of providers don't really do FMTY or longer than 4 hours because it's exhausting for them or the stress is too much.
These prices are in USD but these are the cheapest flights from Montreal to Vancouver and Victoria for the next 6 months. 236 USD is 323.68 Canadian Dollars so it's possible to do a quick trip and get back to Montreal for less than 900 CAD if you see a provider on the lower end of the range and stay in one of the cheapest lodgings. I feel busses and trains are usually the cheapest between Montreal and Toronto.
Me, if I am on vacation in a foreign country, I prefer to sample the locals. I go all exotic, otherwise, I dont see the point.
Maybe I didn't explain it well. Provider goes on their own trip (because they want to, and are going to regardless), announces they will be available/working at least part of that trip, dates/times and takes prebookings during their time away. I like this provider (and likely have seen this provider already), and ALSO want to go to the place they're going and would rather see them (together in this cool ass place I want to visit) than a rando in a foreign city/country, even if I pay a little more than if I just wait until they're back home.
Like I'd love to take someone to Japan, but can't justify turning a potentially $5000 vacay into a $30000+(?) one, even if it's with the girl of my dreams. But, if she decides to go to Japan of her own volition, and decides to open up a couple days then I'm booking flights and like...
I know this already happens, I've been seeing it more and more, I'm just spitballing here on how to make it more accessible. FMTY time-share type deal or something. Not comparing any provider to a condominium but there's a few I'd love to put a condom-in-them overseas (jesus, that's bad, but I couldn't help myself)
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