What's something you wish more SPs provided?
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My incall often has skyns brand but they're not always available.. I did notice that men prefer those, so I get them for myself when I go on outcall dates. However yes they are expensive and boxes are small. Most of us get condoms in bulk from organizations for SW'rs and sadly we don't receive the fancy brands..
I have hired male SPs before, butt not for anal. Not something I care for and I've never really understood the appeal.
Porn definitively play a big role. I cannot even count the amount of times a men said that he did a duo and he was disappointed (not what he expected). Porn is not the reality lol. They shoot 6 to 12 hours for a 15-30min vidéo. There's a whole crew telling them what to do. They stop in the middle of filming scenes all the time to get a better angle, to have a different moan or scream, to put makeup or fix the hair, to hold positions to do picture shoots; mens takes pills or injections to maintain their erection etc. Thinking that porn is reality and the normality is the same as thinking that Samuel L.Jackson is a hitman because he played one in Pulp Fiction.I've been reading this thread attentively and the one about what clients wish we had at our incalls because I want to improve my services, but it leaves me feeling a bit discouraged lol I don't have a mini bar, a wide screen TV or anything fancy like this at my incall. However it made me decide to offer more types of non alcoholic beverages and perhaps light snacks.My services tho.. I think I'm good for now. As someone mentioned on another thread, even if I don't agree with that person on other things, if you keep offering things you don't like, you will burn yourself out in this industry. If I don't offer a certain service, it means I don't like it and I'm not comfortable with it.
Cim, cob, cof, toys and msog are included in my service, I sometimes cater to certain kinks as well, I'm glad they are and I'm not going to take them off the menu anytime soon.. (I'm in the process of learning domination as well) but I didn't offer some of them before. being on this forum and seeing ''she doesn't even do xyz, what a worthless experience'' made me really self conscious, all the demands for anal, face fucking, submission, roleplay made me want to compensate somewhere else, even if none of this is supposed to be offered in GFE. I often get told ''oh other GFE providers offer xyz'' and it leaves me puzzled a bit.
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I offered anal the first months of being a SP because I felt like I had to since at the time I didn't offer bbbj, but it hurt so much that I was in pain all day after even just a 30 min appointment, and sometimes clients would just shove it in there without asking because they didn't understand we needed preparation, I realized after a booking that one guy even took off the condom while he was at it probably because he didn't think he could catch a STI that way, so I stopped offering it.
Also, being a submissive during a session with a client is not the same thing as being with a boyfriend. Some SP's offer it and there's nothing wrong with it, but it makes sense for most of us to refuse doing that, because it can actually be traumatic and it can be dangerous to do that with someone you don't know yet. Domination also requires certain skills, a lot of consent and aftercare.. Are ''domme clients'' willing to provide aftercare, use safe words etc? Do they know how to do certain things without physically harming the person? That's part of BDSM. When I first started as a SP I had another name and somebody said I was submissive because I was shy and that awkwardness was interpreted as submission, and the clients I had back then didn't understand that these dynamics require consent and care.
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I think a lot of people are influenced by what they seen in porn, which doesn't represent reality. Anal is only basic if you think what you see in porn is an average sexual experience with a SP or civilian woman. An escort is not a porn actress or someone who is supposed to offer the most extreme sexual experience possible. I don't want to shame clients, or anyone, for having certain sexual fantasies or desires, but people need to understand that not everyone is going to be willing to fulfill those.. Also fantasy vs reality when it comes to these experiences aren't the same.
Exactly. I also think there are plenty of SP who offer a generous PSE service including greek. If that's what you are looking for then just book that person.
I just want to point out that if a SP is offering something she doesn't feel comfortable doing or even hates doing, this won't make your experience pleasant.
I actually saw pornstars of Quebec at the Quebec level. One is known outside Quebec. It was good but not even close to what you see in the movies. They themselves would confess they overexagerate and that guys take drugs. Some experiences with non pornstars were better. If you watch too much porn or crazy movies you start having a distorted view of reality.
It’s very fun and I recommend it if you can afford it
You do what’s good for you at your own comfort level Luna!I've been reading this thread attentively and the one about what clients wish we had at our incalls because I want to improve my services, but it leaves me feeling a bit discouraged lol I don't have a mini bar, a wide screen TV or anything fancy like this at my incall. However it made me decide to offer more types of non alcoholic beverages and perhaps light snacks.
Cim, cob, cof, toys and msog are included in my service, I sometimes cater to certain kinks as well, I'm glad they are and I'm not going to take them off the menu anytime soon.. (I'm in the process of learning domination as well) but I didn't offer some of them before. being on this forum and seeing ''she doesn't even do xyz, what a worthless experience'' made me really self conscious, all the demands for anal, face fucking, submission, roleplay made me want to compensate somewhere else, even if none of this is supposed to be offered in GFE. I often get told ''oh other GFE providers offer xyz'' and it leaves me puzzled a bit.
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I offered anal the first months of being a SP because I felt like I had to since at the time I didn't offer bbbj, but it hurt so much that I was in pain all day after even just a 30 min appointment, and sometimes clients would just shove it in there without asking because they didn't understand we needed preparation, I realized after a booking that one guy even took off the condom while he was at it probably because he didn't think he could catch a STI that way, so I stopped offering it.
Also, being a submissive during a session with a client is not the same thing as being with a boyfriend. Some SP's offer it and there's nothing wrong with it, but it makes sense for most of us to refuse doing that, because it can actually be traumatic and it can be dangerous to do that with someone you don't know yet. Domination also requires certain skills, a lot of consent and aftercare.. Are ''domme clients'' willing to provide aftercare, use safe words etc? Do they know how to do certain things without physically harming the person? That's part of BDSM. When I first started as a SP I had another name and somebody said I was submissive because I was shy and that awkwardness was interpreted as submission, and the clients I had back then didn't understand that these dynamics require consent and care.
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I think a lot of people are influenced by what they seen in porn, which doesn't represent reality. Anal is only basic if you think what you see in porn is an average sexual experience with a SP or civilian woman. An escort is not a porn actress or someone who is supposed to offer the most extreme sexual experience possible. I don't want to shame clients, or anyone, for having certain sexual fantasies or desires, but people need to understand that not everyone is going to be willing to fulfill those.. Also fantasy vs reality when it comes to these experiences aren't the same.
Even better in french:
"Un drapeau sur le terrain pour envahissement, pénalité de 5 verges, 2ième essai!
Let me put on my Cheerleader outfits !!!! Such a fun ideas during football season
Wow some dudes on this thread never has or need to work with the public. Let just refocus this whole conversation. Being a agency type of guy, I would go with roleplay or costume to complement the foreplay. I'll be the happiest man in the world if i could dato and russian a girl dress up as Zatanna from dc comics or play the classic porn scenarios. Also shower sex. I know it's because the girl don't want to do their makeup and hair between each client and know that some girls offer it if you are the last client of the day, but myself being the type who want's to be the first client of the day, i kind of accept that this is not on the menu.
Tbh costumes sound super fun but i would want the client to provide them! As for shower sex.. I think it's nice in theory but not always in practice lol
Very true. Most of the porn stars i’ve met over the years have all pretty much confessed that what people saw on film or video was usually quite different than how reality was. For example a 20 minute scene that people watched often took hours to film in some cases. One performer told me that a once very popular male performer she performed with came so fast that they had to find a replacement to finish shooting the scenes with her in order to finish the scene which would most likely involve using different camera techniques & angles in order to make it look like she was shooting with the same guy for the entire scene. Most of the time there’s also many pauses in the action especially when the performer starts going soft which i was told happened much more than people knew. Even with viagra. And the atmosphere can also be a very cold, distant one where the performers barely know one another & barely speak to one another. One former performer that i saw several times would sometimes the time we’d spend was 50 times better than any scene or movie she’d be in & when asked why she’d say that our intimate acts were spontaneous & not rehearsed or coherced & that she enjoyed the fact we knew one another. I’d reply that we actually barely knew one another other than sexually & she’d reply that compared to the guys she performed with we actually knew one another plenty! Some of them would even tell me that escorting didn’t even feel like a job…it often felt more like a break than a job to them. Filming porn was the real job! Another girl once told me “I actually fucking hate doing anal!” I mentioned that most of the scenes i’d seen her in included an anal scene & she replied that she only did it because it was what the job demanded & rarely ever did it in her personal life.
For real I think I just found an untapped kink market. Follow me on this one: sps that offer submissive services dressing up as a referee. I know a lot of sports bros that would love to fuck a ref lmao.
"Oops, did I make a bad call there
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