I’ve been reading everyone’s comments, and I think this conversation is exactly why I’ve decided to create Red Carpet Montréal 2027.
There’s a much bigger purpose behind this event than simply bringing people together for an elegant evening.
After spending so many years in this industry, I’ve come to understand something that I wish more people outside our community understood.
This industry is not simply about sex. It’s about human connection.
Sometimes it’s companionship. Sometimes it’s affection, conversation, intimacy, or simply having someone make you feel appreciated for a few hours. People have different reasons for seeking these experiences, and I don’t believe anyone should automatically be judged for them.
There are gentlemen who understand discretion, respect, boundaries, and the importance of treating a woman with dignity. There are independent women who take enormous pride in their work, their professionalism, and the experiences they provide.
Those are the people and values I want to bring together.
Regarding the recent Enquête report, I have mixed feelings.
I’ve been in this industry long enough to have seen many different sides of it, and my personal experiences haven’t reflected everything being portrayed. That doesn’t mean these situations don’t happen. It means I would like to understand the complete facts before forming an opinion or condemning anyone.
I’m not here to defend any particular agency, and I’m certainly not here to excuse exploitation, coercion, or mistreatment.
If women are being abused or exploited, they deserve to be heard, protected, and taken seriously. Period.
But I also believe there’s an important distinction between exploitation and consenting adults who independently choose to participate in this industry.
Working through an agency doesn’t automatically mean someone is being exploited, just as working independently doesn’t guarantee that someone is safe.
Some women prefer agencies because they don’t want to handle advertising, scheduling, screening, or administration. Others, like myself, prefer managing their own businesses.
Neither choice should automatically define someone’s character or experience.
What matters is how women are treated, whether their choices and boundaries are respected, and whether appropriate safety measures exist.
I also believe agencies have a responsibility to establish proper screening, verify identities and legal eligibility, provide guidance to newcomers, and make sure women understand their rights and can refuse situations without pressure.
Experience and mentorship can make a tremendous difference.
Now, regarding the idea of speaking publicly, I understand the concerns expressed here.
The media can absolutely influence public perception, and not always fairly. A complicated industry can quickly be reduced to a sensational headline.
But I also wonder what happens when the only stories the public hears are the worst ones.
Where are the stories about the women who have built successful independent businesses? The gentlemen who have always behaved respectfully? The people who have found genuine companionship, confidence, or comfort through these experiences?
Those stories exist too.
And they deserve to be acknowledged.
That doesn’t mean everyone needs to reveal their identity, appear on television, or sacrifice their privacy to make a difference.
In fact, I believe discretion should remain one of the foundations of our community.
And that brings me back to Red Carpet Montréal 2027.
I’m creating this event to bring together the ladies and gentlemen of MERB, TERB, and PERB in an environment built around mutual respect, discretion, safety, and unity.
Not to expose anyone.
Not to create controversy.
Not to defend everything that happens in this industry.
But to encourage meaningful conversations between people who actually understand it.
I would love to see experienced independents supporting newcomers, gentlemen sharing constructive perspectives, and women from different communities exchanging knowledge about safety, boundaries, and professionalism.
I would also love to see more solidarity instead of division.
Because whether someone works independently or through an agency, every woman deserves to feel safe, respected, and in control of her own decisions.
And gentlemen who conduct themselves respectfully shouldn’t automatically be portrayed as predators simply because they seek companionship.
I believe we can acknowledge the problems that exist without pretending those problems represent everyone.
To Halloween Mike, I appreciate your willingness to bring forward a positive perspective. But I also understand why others are urging caution. Both perspectives deserve consideration.
If we want the public to understand this industry differently, we need to be thoughtful about how we approach that conversation, who participates, and what we’re trying to accomplish.
My next Self-Made blog will explain more about the vision behind Red Carpet Montréal 2027 and why this project means so much to me.
I’m not trying to put our community in the spotlight. I’m trying to bring our community together so that we can build something better from within.
Because discretion and dignity can coexist with unity.
And sometimes, real change doesn’t begin in front of a camera.
It begins when the right people finally sit down at the same table.
Christina Di Milano
The Art of Prestance
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defenddignity.ca
