ashley madison

[franky]

Franky sayz
I have been out of the sp game for awhile, exploring ashley madison. I recommned it for people who are willing to put in alittle more effort. My effort have paid off in two very pleasant ways. Downside is the work needed to put in. The game is essentially finding other people who are interested in discreet encounters with other attached people. Of course trying to coordinate two schedules is much harder than calling an sp. The upside is you know both parties are interested in fun and it is pleasant not to hand an envelope to a lady at the end of the session. Has any other hobbyist tried this?
franky

 

[Bob Binette]

The problem with a site like this is that there are 50 men for evey woman. You can hardly get them to reply to e-mails because they get hundreds of them. Then again maybe not those 200+ pounds lonely women! I've been a member for a week now and nothing to report.

Bob

 

[Bob Binette]

You're right, 50 men for every woman... I think I was tired. I'll try to edit my post if I can figure out to do this!!!

 

[Lone Rider]

Not worth it

Hi Guys,

Franky, after reading your post, I decided to try the ashley madison website. This is not working out for me at all. There is definitively not enough women to cover the men present on this website.

I feel that to get lucky, that I would need to invest time and energy to land a catch. I do not have this kind of time.

Most women are looking for Cyber Chat, not necessiraly to meet for 1 on 1. I think that I will stick with SPs, which will save me time and grief.

My recommendation, don't waste your time if you want to get laid like me. Franky, congrats for being lucky. I would need to learn your secrets.

This is my 2 cents.

Lone Rider

 

[2fast2slow]

i would agree with above posts

i had a really good pict of myself wich i sent around. Not to to brag, but it was a pict from the beach and I am tall built and decent looking. I sent this to 20 or 30 women, and i never got a response. Sometimes a woman approached me but is was for cyber chat BORING!

 

[deschjr]

Don"t waste your $$$

I was on AM for a period of about 3 months last fall and I did find it fun at first, lots of hot (woman next door) ladies supposedly looking for extra marital fun. It is true that when you correspond with one of them, they will tell you that they get dozens upon dozens of hits from men and the replies are often times few and far between. Lots of them will exchange pix. Some of the pix are pretty hot. there was one woman in particular in the T.O. area, aerobics instructor who had some unbelieveable pix on there which she updated on a regular basis. Don't expect any replies unless you are willing to provide pix of your own. I got more hits when I posted pix of myself and exchanged them with the ladies. A lot of women want to see what Johnny looks like before continuing
All in all, I lost interest after a few months, I found it too expensive for what you got out of it.
To me AM is just like those chat line services like Quest & Night Exchange. High ratio Women to Men. It's usually free for women, so they get on there just to string U on and most are not really serious about connecting, just interested in getting the attention from other men and passing time
Dont waste your mullah!!!!!!

 

[kaydee1968]

I have a good friend who had been a hobbyist for quite a while. He has been out of work for a while, and maybe that's the main reason why he decided to try AM. He claims he wanted to have a more personal experience. Anyways, he said he's had some good success on there, and actually has a girl that he now sees on a regular basis. He tells me it's just a numbers game.

Anyways, I decided to give it a try. It is true, you have to send out a ton of "winks" to get back maybe 5% of what you sent out. Even then, if you get a wink, and then send a message, you get no reply at all. I must admit, it has been more frustrating than anything. Finally, after many months invested, I find a girl who is cute, and loves all of the same things as me. She is looking for what I am looking for. I haven't met her yet, but will in a couple of weeks. I so hope we hit it off, and end up having someone I can see on a regular basis, and take my mind completely out of hobbying. I'll report back after the meeting.......

 

[master_bates]

AM is better for women. They have choices thus the power.

Recently I have had some luck on facebook.

 

[Aeolus]

It is true, you have to send out a ton of "winks" to get back maybe 5% of what you sent out. Even then, if you get a wink, and then send a message, you get no reply at all. I must admit, it has been more frustrating than anything.

And this is different from a conventional dating site, how?

 

[franky]

I have used AM with success. I admite to not having used it in the last couple of years but my current "mistress", I originally meet on AM. she knows about my long time steady girlfriend and is OK with it. We meet, go out, even have some mini vacations together. I recently just checked in on AM and it does seem harder now then five years ago. Good luck to any who try it and report back

 

[hungry101]

Try Plenty Of Fish. It is free for men and women.

 

[Aeolus]

Try Plenty Of Fish. It is free for men and women.

I have a POF profile, but I've been less than impressed. A lot of the women on there are just window-shopping for perfection. On average, I chat with about two women a month on there - 90% of whom contact me. The majority of the ones I contact summarily delete me. This year, two of the women I chatted with wanted to date me, one of whom I had to cancel on twice because of a back injury (she eventually wrote me off) and the other I really wasn't into. The one I was open to even kind of turned me off because she keyed into one of my interests (BWMs) and got all wet over my car and then suggested that I take her skiing at Stowe (really $$), instead of accepting my offer to ski at a different mountain that gave me a complimentary guest ticket with my season pass. Kind of made me scratch my head and think, "And how is this woman different from the SPs I've been seeing?"

Despite my lack of luck on POF, it is better than the bullshit dating sites that let you create a free profile but then make you pay to send or receive e-mails. Since it's free, it's worth a shot, but you shouldn't expect much.

 

[Dauphin]

Aeolus, you no fool ! You'l go far in life.

 

[kaydee1968]

And this is different from a conventional dating site, how?

I wouldn't know, I've never used a "conventional" dating site. I wasn't aware I was comparing the two.

 

[daydreamer41]

And this is different from a conventional dating site, how?

Sounds like this site Ashley Madison is for men and women who may or may not be in a relationship or married and are looking to be in an affair. It sounds friends with benefits only with emphasis on the benefits.

Traditional dating sites have single men and women looking to get into a relationship like boyfriend / girlfriend or marriage. The traditional sites do not want married people unless they are separted or divorce pending. Traditional dating sites have their problems. Women when choosing mates from dating sites aim a lot higher than they would than when they met guys by chance. Online, there is info on your occupation, schooling, etc. Meeting someone at social situation, the person will not have that information on their clothes.

 

[Aeolus]

I wouldn't know, I've never used a "conventional" dating site. I wasn't aware I was comparing the two.

You weren't. I was just drawing attention to the fact that dating sites tend to produce the same results.

Women when choosing mates from dating sites aim a lot higher than they would than when they met guys by chance. Online, there is info on your occupation, schooling, etc. Meeting someone at social situation, the person will not have that information on their clothes.

Well put. I have a highly visible position that puts me in contact with a lot of people, and it's amazing when I compare the number of times I get hit on at work (quite a few - usually MILFs and married women, though) to the number of times I get ignored online (a lot). I've come to the conclusion that a large part of the problem is that people are led to believe that because the internet theoretically broadens the dating pool, they can use a dating site's search engine to weed people (who they might actually be drawn to in person) out for arbitrary reasons. In other words, some people think they can custom order what they want with a search engine (i.e. SWF, 25-30, 5'6"-5'9", thin, long brown or black hair, brown eyes, no kids, doesn't want kids, bachelor's degree, works in the medical, legal, or financial industry, likes to ski, doesn't smoke, agnostic, has a Dog, hates cats, lives within 25 miles). How many perfectly good people did I just rule out with this stupid search? What are the chances of there being any chemistry with the five women left standing after the 995 other prospects have been culled by the computer? I only engage in it because it's free; it's another venue like MERB to goof off in; and it allows me to say that I'm doing something to get out of hobbying. It would be nice if it worked, but I'm not holding my breath. MERB has a better success rate at getting me laid than POF.

 

[Jman47]

Wow, this thread got resurrected...lol. Wish I had seen it before.

Well...I've tried this AM thing for months with no results. As previous posters have said, get ready to exert allot of time and effort. I did not, so perhaps my results are the direct result, who knows? If you have the time to send many, many emails, gifts, winks...holy crap...maybe it would work....maybe? But I suspect many here do not have that time, nor are willing to exert the effort. I did have a few email hits, but thats it. Males definitely are the minority on the site. Personally, I thought it was a waste of time and money.

And oh, they are not bashful about taking your money on the site and almost everything costs points and points cost money...lol. Less than impressed...great summary A.

I'll stick with the tried and true.
Have fun,

Jman

 

[LikesCats]

POF = Plenty Of Fat... sorry if this offends, but I've seen far worse posted on site.

 

[hungry101]

POF = Plenty Of Fat... sorry if this offends, but I've seen far worse posted on site.

Yes, but it's free and the girls are real and they are not men. I like searching POF trying to uncover a hidden gem. It's like going to a flea market. I like sending out clever messages trying to solicit a response.

 

[master_bates]

POF has worked for me in the past, there's girls for all the tastes.